Help me feel better, please?

[ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts]

Hello :)

I'm not sure if anyone can offer any advice but I am so tired of feeling so so poorly.

I am 6+5 and am constantly being sick. Everything smells bad. I can't keep any fluid down. My mouth is constantly dry and my lips are beginning to crack. I'm exhausted, I guess from not drinking much. I feel faint and dizzy all the time, don't dare go out on my own with my DD as I nearly passed out the other day.

Every day is a struggle to function with a nearly three year old. I just feel like crying because I feel and am sick so much.

Is it normal to feel this ill? Or am I a moaning cow who needs to get a grip?!

I've tried nibbling dry biscuits, hot drinks, cold drinks but everything makes me so ill.

Hi coconuts,
No it sounds pretty normal to me, not everyone gets it but it sounds like you do, I was the same, could sniff out anything at ten paces! Gagging at everything... poor you, the only positive thing to hold on to is I am now 19 weeks and from 16 weeks I have felt great!
It is hard and I got really down because I was so sick of feeling ill and having to lie on the sofa and expect DH to come in from work and do all the jobs I hadn't done, he was absolutely knackered.
It will get better I promise, just put dvd's/cbeebies on for your three year old and put your feet up, don't feel guilty about it, you will be back to top form soon

Hello lovely sorry to hear that you are feeling so rubbish.

Sounds like you may have hyperemsis - if I spelt that right - if it's making you feel that bad, maybe go to your doctor and see what they can do. You don't want to be getting dehydrated, and you do sound bad to me. I was having a nosey on the hyperemsis thread, so that's what made me think of that. I have no experience of it myself though.

Take care x

That's just it. I feel awful that I'm completely abandoning DD to peppa pig everyday. I'm not cooking proper meals, the house is a tip. DH works 6-6 every day so is knackered when he gets home although he has been great doing washing and washing up etc. I haven't even washed my hair in three days.

I'm really worried that it's hyperemesis and I'm getting deficiencies in things and my baby will be ill. When I was pregnant with DD I was sick constantly from morning til bedtime but then I didn't have a house to run or a toddler to look after as I still lived with my mum. Oh how things change.

Hi Lovelybunch, sounds definitely like Hypermesis to me. I have it and its miserable. I make my OH promise me at least once a day that I don't have to have another baby. :(

Definitely go to your doctor and get medication for it. There are several safe forms of tablets you can take to relieve the symptoms which can prevent a rehydration visit to the hospital. There is a hypermesis thread where we offer each other support so please do visit us.

Don't worry about the baby. Part of the issue is that the baby is getting all the good stuff from you. A woman I know had it so bad and for so long she started losing teeth and all her hair - her baby was perfect.

You're not alone :)

Thanks rozee I might take a trip to the doctor tomorrow. I didn't know there was any medication I could take. I know I'm silly worrying about the baby. I was just as bad with DD and she turned out over 9lb so I know it doesn't have a bad effect. I just don't want to end up in hospital. Thanks for your reply. I feel like everyone thinks I'm a wimp and that I should just get on with it. It's also really hard to keep it hidden as nobody knows I'm pregnant yet.

You are definitely not alone , you can take medication, you will not harm the baby. I have 2dds and and due this week, have had terrible vomiting all the way through, although managed to avoid any hospital stays. I couldn't touch anything milky, sweet things like biscuits made me worse, couldn't have bread, fruits etc.

This is what helped me : fizzy lemonade/orange, not too cold, babybels (seriously), and the one thing I never ever threw up Chinese food, not the the biggest fan but it stayed down!!

Don't worry about dd, she'll be fine, I remember feeding mine beans, spagetti, fishfingers, pizza for a whole week and I had to be sick before and after I had served it to them!! Take care, ring GP, mine prescribed cyclezine over the phone and watch your iron levels. Good luck.

Hello. I felt exactly like that 2 weeks ago...

went to the drs and cried that i felt so poorly.... spent the entire day asleep, vomiting the anti sick tablets drs prescribed...
went back to dr next day and was admited straight to hospital.

You sounds very dehydrated.... pee in a pot and get an emergancy drs appt.
if they say you are ok but u continue vomiting then do the same again tomorrow

I honestly have never felt as ill as i felt 2 weeks ago, it is / was horrid, and i couldnt keep down anything either, not even ice.

Anyway 2 weeks later (as much as i hated it at the time IV hydration did me the world of good, and it was BLISS to feel a bit better) and im still on max antisickness drugs.

I still have periods of extreme sickness where i can keep nothing at all down, but inbetween i sometimes feel well ish (for a few blissful hours) then it starts again....

this past week i have even kept down a few (though not all) dinners.

I felt exactly like you, and it was torture (even without a child to look after)

Honestly get to your GP and be sure to take a urine sample along with you

(Im 9 + 6 btw) sending you a gentle hug and LOTS of sympathy

I have hyperemisis btw, and am in my 4th week signed off work

Aww Coconuts, that sounds horrific. And worse than "normal" morning sickness - please do go to the doctor and get some advice. There is definitely medication for dealing with pregnancy nausea - I had a conversation about it with my GP this morning - which is effective, and if you are having problems keeping liquid down you should be getting advice from a HCP.

And loads of sympathy - I'm also about 6 weeks, constantly slightly nauseous, extremely knackered and got older DC to chase after. It does get better :)

Just to add, if you have anyone you can call and ask them to look after DD for you, or get her into extra nursery sessions, then do it.

I have no idea how people look after other people while feeling like this, i could barely look after myself!

Thanks for the hugs and sympathy I really need them today :)

nannyl sorry to hear you have been so poorly. Glad you are getting better slowly I had no idea that things could get that bad.

I was severely anaemic in my last pregnancy so it is definitely something I will watch out for. Have felt a bit better the past hour and have managed to drink a bottle of Sunny D. Awfully unhealthy but the only drink I can drink without bringing up. And have eaten a microwave fish pie. Hopefully it'll stay down and I should brighten up for the rest of the day.

Have called the doctor and they won't do any prescriptions over the phone and have no appointments available today so I have to call back tomorrow AM.

Cross-posts :)

Have called the doctor back about something else I forgot to ask and spoke to someone else and they said they should be able to do a prescription without seeing me and will have a call back soon. So hopefully GP is forthcoming. Sitting in the waiting room would be super hard for me to do!

It is comforting to know that this isn't normal and I don't have to put up with it.

I have nobody to help with DD I would rather struggle than have people know I am pregnant. I know that sounds stupid but I have had trouble with my family breaking my confidence before over pregnancies I have had and then miscarried. DH and I want to keep it as secret as possible.

I have no idea how people manage with this and still go to work.

oh bunch of cocnuts.

it makes me so cross that your dr wont give you an appt
be certain to get 1 tomorrow, and take a urine sample.... be prepared if you are pee-ing ketones, to be admitted straight to hospital,

yes its unbeliavble horrid, and i dont think you can appreciate how bad it is, unless you have suffered it yourself.

do your best to eat and drink whatever you can.... if you can. dont worry about it being 'healthy' anything you can get down is a bonus.

i know for a while (a day!) i could tolerate full sugar lemonade, another day i could tolerate coke, yesturday i could tolerate lucozade. sometimes i can drink ribena.

at the moment i cant tolerate water... it makes me sick
there was a time when i could tolerate ice (when i couldnt tolerate any other liquid at all) but then later i was vomiting ice too.

also i am now wearing travel bands all the time, and have started acupuncture, and i feel these are helping slightly.
when feeling so so poorly anything is worth a try!

I wore the travel bands when pregnant with DD so will go and get some new ones from boots. Doctor called back I'm going tomorrow at 11.20 so hope I can make it. I had to stop on the way to the bank Saturday to be sick in a bin

Fish pie has stayed in and I'm doing pork chops, mash and veg for dinner so hopefully I can manage cooking and eating today.

I cannot seem to stand plain water at the mo and have been sucking some of DDs ice poles and guzzling sunny D and lucozade sport.

It's miserable isn't it!?

so pleased to here you have drs appt for tomorrow

well done for doing dinner, Poor OH I have not cooked for nearly a month now. (and i LOVE cooking and always cook from scratch etc)

The one thing it sure is, is miserable...

I just cherish the hours when i feel ok-ish, and i think they are getting more frequent, and longer lasting.

Im sure it will get better for you too, esp if you can eat 2 meals in 1 day!!!!

(am currently sitting still having taken my 3pm anti sick tablet.... i have to make a huge effort not to vomit them!)

I have just taken my folic acid pill. I have to time it for when I feel ok ish but think I've timed it wrong as I've just done the veg for dinner and smell of the fresh carrots nearly floored me. I can't wait for tomorrow. Do the tablets take long to kick in?

DH always laughs as he can tell if I'm feeling ok as dinner is on the table when he comes in and I'm not leaning up the worktop breathing deeply

I have given up folic acid for the last 2 weeks

I feel much better for it and midwife is not concerned (id taken it 5months before i got pg)

once id kept them down anti sickness start working quite fast.... its the keeping them down i struggle with (when bad lie down in darkness do not MOVE A MUSCLE and concentrate on breathing for an hour)

its great to not feel sick all the time.

However for most people (like me) they dont stop sickness and feeling sick completley... but its worth it for the relief when they are working....

despite being on anti-sickness i have still had a whole 24 hours of keeping down NOTHING (but thats less than 72 hours it took to hospitalise me)

they are great... but not perfect, but worth it for the releif when they ARE working...

am still fussy and there are lots of things i just Cant stomach!

Hi Nannyl and Lovelybunch. Glad that things are settling down a little. You're both a lot braver with food than me at present as I'm just graduating from rice cakes to plain rice or pasta so tasty!

I still have to lay very still most of the time but I wasn't sick yesterday and am hopeful for today so its not all bad.

Hope the doc appointment goes well Lovelbunch.

You poor thing(s - nanny too!).

I have found it tougher second time around and, FWIW, have also been feeding my DD a diet of tinned/microwave foods as I just can't face proper cooking.

I, meanwhile, am living on a diet of Hula Hoops (moved on from Quavers) and Babybels.

Can't face taking vitamins or folic acid in spite of DH nagging me.

I'm sure we'll all have bouncing babies in due course!

(Resolves not to moan about my pathetic morning sickness from now on.)

Im really worrying about if i can ever dare get pg again

have always wanted and planned 4, and i have always said i want the 1st 2 close together

I'm really hopeful after speaking to you all here that my symptoms can be alleviated somewhat.

Nannyl - I know what you mean regarding another child. This is my second and although I suffered with the sickness last time I wasn't faint or dizzy with it so I could kind of carry on as normal, puking as I go

But this time is worse and harder as I have DD to watch over. I wanted a small age gap too but due to PCOS and other fertility issues, things didn't work out as planned and it has taken us until now (DD 2.10) to conceive. Hopefully this one sticks.

Have any of you been having to get up in the night and be sick?

My appointment is 11.20 so I will pop back and let you know what the GP prescribes :)

Hope it went well LovelyBunch?

I think it helps with DC1 that most mums-to-be are still working, and I know the fact of having to get up, go into the office, attend meetings, etc meant I didn't think as much about feeling sick as I do this time around.

And nannyl your next one could be completely different (hope so, for your sake). And really, you do forget, like child birth, it all fades into the memory.

Take care you two!

I've only had to get up in the night once thankfully. I always feel a bit better after a sleep so even if I wake up lots (and I do!) I feel ok.

Hope the medication works. If its cyclazine it'll probably make you tired - I was like a space cadet while it worked for me but at least I could eat and drink.

I don't think I'll ever do this again. Its been too hard and I'm getting to an age where another baby after this one would be pushing my body to the limit. Ah well. As long as I have the one beautiful bubba that's fine by me. :)

Good luck bunch of coconuts

hope the dr gives you something....

and yes i am used to getting up in the night to be sick but only in the past few weeks

i used to go to sleep and wake up in the morning, sometimes feeling a bit better... However now its not unusual to be woken by awful nausea in the middle of the night, and to then be up for several hours vomiting