So fed up. Moan. sorry.

[ThatllDoPig]

Am nearly 39 weeks, and I've had enough!!
Back is killing me, I can't sleep, I keep hoping that the practice contractions are real and they aren't. I feel sick. I've got NO patience with DH or DCs. Keep apologising for being vile to them. I hate this waiting bit, and not knowing how much longer this will carry on. sorry to vent but arrrggghh!

Hi bear Good to hear that others are feeling the same way! Keep the ceebeebies flowing I say. I'm feeling really guilty about not taking my toddler out today, but it is miserable out there and my back hurts and bleurghhhh. And he's been sick this morning anyway. Really really hoping it was a one off and he won't be poorly. All I need at the moment.

If you go into labour before weds will you still be having csection or is it complicated?

Hi pig, hope you are feeling OK, and back is not too sore, are you 40 weeks now? Were you late with your other DC's? DD was 15 days overdue, induction nightmare followed and then emcs, which was a relief really, hence planned cs this time. They have said if I go into labour before next wed they will treat me as an emcs again but I am not convinced, local hospital is totally overrun and completely short staffed. To be fair I have stopped feeling like I am going to go into labour, maybe that means I will :). Hope your toddler has not been sick again. DD has some nasty tummy bug just now, lots of red faces and tears whilst chanting 'bad poos mama, bad poos' :o. Do you think he will be Ok with new arrival when they finally appear?

@ bad poos. Know how she feels.
Nearly 40 weeks. (According to hospital dates, mine originally worked out for last week). Just don't know what to do with self. Very restless and irritable, but can't be bothered with anything. Achey all over and feel sick. Feel like labouris imminent, but have been feeling like it for a week, so everyone ignores me now.

Now dh has done his neck in and can't drive without lots of pain, so timing wouldn't be great anyway.

All quiet from Robino. .. .Hopefully she is busy pushing
Let us know Robino give hope that the end is in sight!

Sorry to give you bad news Pig - still nothing doing! Went to a friend's on Friday and ended up having ever increasing twinges (she had brand new sofa and carpet so convinced myself that my waters would go..., contractions for 3 hrs and NOTHING SINCE. Am most fed up.

Still, at least one of the family has been to hospital today. DD1 swallowed a coin, I (foolishly?) called NHS direct who sent us off to A and E. She's just got back now with DH after a metal detector and X-ray....

oh gawd robino dd swallowed a coin?! what kind. Do you have to wait for it to come out the other end? Here's hoping it was a penny rather than a £2!
You must be even more frustrated than me. It is just chronic. I had contractions in the night last night, couldn't sleep, tightenings coming regularly every ten mins and although they weren't really painful, I really thought it was the start. Phoned MIL to come and look after the others as she was 2 hours away, and thought we'd contact her before the rush hour etc. Soon as she got here. . .NOTHING! Just dull periody ache and back hurting as usual. Plus DH started being sick, and has spent the rest of the day in bed.
I've just never heard of this stop starting before, really weird that it is happening to us both.
They say third labours can be weird.

It is just so frustrating. Don't know what to do with self.

When is your next mw appt? I've got to wait till Friday for a sweep. Hope things are happening for you today.

Can I gatecrash? Am 39+2 and have just got back from mw apt and TBH sat in the car on the drive in tears as I'm just so fed up and uncomfortable and honestly don't know what to do with myself. The mw also gave me a leaflet on induction which I think started to panic me a bit as even though I'm not even due yet (DD is Saturday), I just think having the leaflet made me feel like it was a foregone conclusion and that I had already 'failed' (pathetic self-absorbed icon).

Am booked in for sweep on Monday next week if nothing has happened by then (I'll be 2 days over at that point).

Just got lots of aches and pains and BH, and just kind of pressure down below but nothing actually happening. I finished for mat leave last Tuesday (at 38+3) and TBH am not very good at the sitting at home relaxing thing.

You all have my sympathy. Lots of baby out vibes coming your way!

D

Welcome deliaskis to the dangling at end of tether gang.
This last bit is horrible waiting and waiting. I've had contractions the last two nights, convinced all was starting and got MIL down (2 hour drive) to look after the other dcs, got to morning at all stopped! So frustrating! She's gone home again now, and I feel like I've got periody pains and back ache and in very grumpy mood, but NO BABY ACTION!

Meant to be having sweep on Fri.
Is this your first dc?

Hang in there all. Surely it can't be too much longer!

sorry, just realised I've told everyone stuff that I've already moaned about in previous post. brain not working.

Still here too. Welcome Deliaskis.

Pig - I don't even have a sweep booked. As per my previous 2 pregnancies my regular midwife has gone off sick in the weeks leading up to my due date. I'm now being shoved from pillar to post seeing people who don't know me and don't care.

Have booked reflexology for Thursday afternoon - am desperate because DH is now using up his holiday/paternity leave rather than days in lieu.

am fed up also, 40+1 and i cant even get hold of my midwives. their usual fri clinic is cancelled and i have left 2 messages trying to get someone to call me... nothing!!!!

i know they are more laid back with a second pg but i feel rather neglected, and they had to do another test with my urine for traces of protein but no feedback from 2 weeks ago.

i have been briefing my husband for what i want during labour instead, we could be doing it solo at this rate!! feel your pain ladies...

i want a sweep and i want one now!!! gah xxxxxx

Hi Mandy, hope that you've managed to get some support from the mw.
Mine has gone on holiday too, but the 'spare' sounded nice on the phone. See her Friday.
Official due date today, and very achey, but no change there. MIL has gone home as it was so stop start at the beginning of the week and now she has the horrible vomming that dh had.

Now I feel like I want baby to stay put for a bit.

Sods law means he might show up.
Hope everyone else ok.

Robino - let us know how the reflexology goes. Apparently there is a point on the big toe somewhere which gets things going! Find out exactly where and let us know!
Has the coin turned up yet?
Each poo must be like a christmas pudding!

Don't know about the coin! She keeps doing poos at pre-school and I can hardly ask them to keep an eye out for a 5p piece . I suspect we'll never know.

Have managed to get a MW appointment for this afternoon. Am hoping she'll do a sweep even though their policy is not to do a sweep til 41 wks (which is tomorrow). Will beg if necessary; am beyond dignity! And if not then I have reflexology tomorrow. This is getting crazy - if I go for a walk it honestly feels like baby could drop out at any moment; I can't believe it hasn't started (properly) yet.

I know. I pushed push chair up a big hill this morning. Just had to be out in the sunshine after all the shite weather and sickness in the house. So achey all around bump now.

Oh man I feel like a right wimp now Im 33 weeks and feel really down. I live with my DP now its taken 3 yrs to live togther its been hard. I have my DS from my failed marriage of 15 yrs living with us. Im so worried about someone looking after my DS whilst we need to go to hospital have no family here. But after reading these posts I feel its not really that bad. Poor Robino I read your DH was away it made me sad to hear that for you. Glad hes home now with you. and I hope all you lovley ladies have your bundle of joy soon.

Hi scruff is your DS 15? or am I reading that wrong. If he is younger, have you got any decent friends or neighbours nearby that can help? Don't panic, you've got ages yet.. .look at us lot!
robino any luck begging for the sweep?

no luck with midwife, 2 left messages today... its a bit crap now, i have gone another 2 weeks with no contact and i just think 'well will go with my instincts but dont start trying to interfere after the birth then'..

its tough late pregnancy isnt it, and the worry sets in too!!

thatll do pig, i love your name!! i always say that to my little boy... its such afab film!
x

mandy thats really bad, you shouldn't go 2 weeks at this stage.

I think the temptation with second baby is just to think you have to get on with it, and not complain. But if anything changes or anything happens that worries you, even remotely, then phone the mw's at the hospital. Your baby is worth it, and that is what they are paid to do. I really wish I had made more of a fuss with my second, as my gestational diabetes wasn't picked up, nor was the size of him (10lb4)He was in special care for a week, it was awful. This baby I've pestered them about everything but it is worth it, just for peace of mind.

thanks piggy, i agree i am really appalled.. i feel perfectly well now but it concerns me that THEY dont know that and havent bothered to return my messages or calls..

i have really briefed my husband to make sure they dont just let me labour alone, i am scared this time around as well. a second baby isnt less important :(

your experience is terrible, i have had a very average experience with mw profession tbh. i had a spell or prenatal depression and i tried to tell them a few times and it was really dismissed and smoothed over. looking back i was in a black hole for months.. god knows if something really serious had happened, i ask for help and advice and its ignored.

think will complain after the baby is here, if we dont then the service will get worse. these are our babies we are talkig about, its the most scary and wonderful time

xxxx

Hi all! Got a sweep yesterday - was really uncomfortable for about 12 hours then more of nothing. Had reflexology today and had a few twinges since but I now know that that probably means nothing. Going to a midwife drop in tomorrow morning for another sweep. And if that little lot doesn't shift this baby then I officially give up!

Hope you're all feeling ok.

How frustrating robino How overdue are you now?
All a bit crappy here too. Having contractions but not regular or painful enough to be established labour. Back killing me. MW came over but couldn't do sweep or even examination as she couldn't get to my cervix, it is sort of behind the babies head and needs to move down. Horrible, as last birth the MW had to twist it down in the middle of a contraction and it was SO painful. The only bit I ended up having G and A for.
I'm going to put another thread up to see if anyone else has experienced this. Could do with some reassurance as MW contradicted self a bit.

good luck for the next one robino.. its very frustrating eh!!

pig, ouch that sounds soooo painful.. not heard of it myself but hope it works out ok xx

got my sweep tomorrow (if i get called of course, not banking on it!) as managed to hound the midwifes so much today that spoke to someone... its a bit disappointing to have inadequate care. my friend has experienced similar, lack of communication and clarification on matters..

oh well, carry on ladies we will all get there

xxxx

hey up everyone, just to give you all some hope and good news, our gorgeous little boy arrived last sunday. My waters broke on saturday after DP got amorous :o. Went to hospital and they told me they hadn't which made me feel just a little daft. Decided I must have peed myself instead. Of course they had gone and we ended back up at the hospital on sunday with our 2 year old DD in tow as no child care. Eventually after spending most of the day trying to mop up puddles of amniotic fluid and playing with DD in a very public waiting room DS was born in time for tea. A really good friend whose birthday it also was came and picked up DD so DP was able to be there and compared to the emergency section I had had to have with DD it was just amazing. Had to stay in hospital til wed but home now and apart from DD constantly asking if the baby can go away now all is grand. And it is blooming lovely not being pregnant! So I really, really hope there has been some movement for you guys by now. I was 15 days over with DD and it was just awful, so am keeping fingers and toes crossed for you all that your beautiful babies make their entrance to the world really soon - Goodluck!

Also, just a thought if you get really desperate maybe try some acupuncture? I had a few sessions when I was overdue with DD, not a great recommendation as it didn't help budge her at all but I do know folk who swear by it. Hopefully the reflexology will have done the trick though Robino!

Well.... I'd had a show within 4 hours of reflexology. Was so excited. Apart from DH developing man flu at the same time (actually, I think he's really quite poorly). Had a dreadful night with a combination of uncomfiness, needing to wee, DH snoring, DH sleeping dreadfully due to illness but nothing labour-wise. Have had another show this morning (or more of the same one). Fingers crossed for today. DH is ill and we're supposed to be getting our new-to-us car delivered so the law of sod suggests a good omen!

Am now 8 days over (and 13 days more pregnant than I've ever been).

Congratulations yawningbear! So pleased somebody around here has had a baby!