One born every minute...

[LittleMilla]

Let the tears commence...uh oh.

Seriously, any women who aren't sure what to do in labour, for god's sake don't lie on your back. I was told to lie on my side too and that was rubbish.

Once the pain was too much for standing, I had to sit and it was ok then. I ended up on my back because they were going to use a ventouse and I had my legs in stirrups so couldn't move, but it would've been so much easier on all fours or leaning over the back of the bed.

Agree with Loglady.

re ASD and emotions....

TheLogLady Why was she still screaming after the baby was delivered and she was told the baby had been delivered if she wasn't being at least a little dramatic?!

And it makes no difference what you think, I still feel I did a better job dealing with the pain alone and never hitting my DP (like she did).

it's not a competition.

maybe she still hurt? maybe her vagina and perineum still felt like she had a landrover parked in there? maybe she was still contracting? maybe she was carried away by the life changing emotion of it all?

Who are any of you to say how, or how much noise someone should make in labour?

What TheLogLady says

I cant believe that women (many if whom have given birth I assume) are being so judgemental. Shame on you! I remember being amazed that you can give birth without dying when I had my dd. Its not a competition - you just do what yiyu need to in order to get through it.

Maybe she was still screaming as she had a thrid or forth degree cut or tear? Perhapos not. It doesnt matter either way. Well done to her for giving birth to a healthty baby.

I think you might be taking this converstaion a little seriously.

I have heard a LOT of birth stories, on here and in real life, and it seemed like a lot of screaming to me. Especially, as someone else said, she said she couldn't feel anything so I don't think she was feeling that incredible amount of pain that she was portraying with her screams.

I was certainly not quiet, but was also told, as her MW told her, that screaming would not help. I also didn't have the energy for that kind of noise, and was focussing that energy on the pushing.

There are posts earlier on by first time mums who wanted a bit of reassurance, and I personally think that most people don't find it quite as bad as that seemed when having such major pain relief. Please feel free to correct me.

perhaps not physical pain (once the epidural is effective) but screaming for an emotional release is very useful.

Oh and my other advice to first timers would be to use the gas and air properly, the programme didn't show her being told how to so I'm not sure if she was told how to do it. But the way it seemed she was using it wouldn't have the desired effect. If you're not sure it's working or you think you're using it wrong, just ask. I found it very helpful although some women don't.

Yup it was the hug that got me. I shed a tear! Whether he has ASD or not, theya re such a cute couple and obviously care for each other. Def a good sign if having a baby together!

I had a CC with an epidural with Dc3 after vaginal deliveries with my first 2. I really struggled to stop myself from screaming when she was being born because I was bloody terrified!!

Woman experience a whole variety of emotions during labour and if screaming is her way of dealing with it then so be it, tbh what on earth does it have to do with anyone else anyway, Its not a competition and its not like she's hurting anyone my making a lot of noise.

The screamy woman was clearly quite traumatised and distressed, everyone deals with these things differently, and I would hope that were I in her shoes, people would be sympathetic and non judgemental.

I was impressed she was wearing pants. During my labour I was laughed at by the midwife and dr when he went to examine me and I still had pants on. OK, so I was all epiduralled up by then, but I had nasty bloody meconium discharge and I wanted to keep the pad in place and have some bloody dignity!

For the first timers; please bear in mind that this is "edutainment" and they will only show the cream of the most interesting and dramatic cases. Last season there were one or 2 "normal" examples, including a lovely water birth, but they were 5 minute asides not the main stories, as there isn't a lot of "good TV" in a straightforward birth.

the woman who was screaming said after that the screaming really helped her and that she didnt feel the pain?!

1st time around i was really quiet and nervous, after ages of pushing had c-section. 2nd time around i was the screaming woman (i remember my theory being when im quiet on a theme park ride it feels rubbish, when i scream its ok and that screaming would help), i said as soon as i got there at 5cm that id want an epidural and could tell straight away i wasnt going 2 get 1 (anyone else find that? the midwife i had seemed 2 have the opinion of gas and air only and u must lie on your back in bed-which i didnt, she wasnt happy when i gave birth standing up!but i couldnt get my legs up in2 the bed however many times she told me 2!)

that lad was soo sweet getting all emotional on camera like that, the other dad cried 2.

I'm thinking of forcing DH to watch this series with me - so that we will at least have some idea about what lies ahead - we're first-timers. Until now he has has refused, always asking me if it doesn't freak me out

I wasn't pregnant when I watched the 1st series, and I do feel less spooked about it all now than I did when watching series 1. Yes, it's scary, and I realise that most of the time they show the happy stories, but the appear to be showing it like it is, no beautification, just normal people showing a range of normal reactions.

I'd like DH to watch and learn what he must/mustn't do - I was amazed about how badly some of the fathers came across (but maybe that was just the editing...), and I'm hoping they show some better examples in this series.

About the screaming. I can understand how the pain can make you scream/writhe but her screaming was very dramatic compared to many other women and didnt seem to be screams of agony. I think she just got so upset about the whole thing and worked herself up into a screaming frenzy and out of control.

Anyway the one good thing I took from it was to research hyponotbirthing/relaxation techniques (????) as I would like to avoid all the screaming/stress as much as I can.

I felt really sorry for the younger girl, poor thing going through all that.

@the Loglady

wow you're harsh.

i havent read all of this thread,
but
feel everyone reacts differently 2 different situations-has different pain thresholds and also different ways of dealing with these. and whichever way they choose/happen 2 deal with it, however extreme, as long as its safe and doesnt harm anyone and it comforts them in some (however strange it seems 2 the rest of us) way, then thats ok.

I'm pg and the lady who was screaming actually frightened the bejesus out of me! Maybe that's just her personality though, maybe she's quite vocal in her everyday life?
My friend's a newly qualified gynae and tells me all sorts - the good, the bad and the downright funny.
I loved Ralph (young dad) I felt so sorry for him when they wooshed off to the CS and he was left standing there...

Also, its worth bearing in mind that this is a TV show and I bet the producers had a field day when those two families turned up.

My absolute favourite comments came from Janet the young mum:
I don't want him to see my place
and
Let's talk about horses

Brilliant. I loved her. I hope they have a lovely life together.

I love this prgramme! my other half has always asked if it put me off and even before i was pregnant bizarrely it made me want kids more!

Hoooowwweeevvveeerrrr.....screaming lady was the first time I felt scared!!

Love it though - know its a one off and everyones different - only problem is have to watch it on catch up as Glee is on at the same time!

can't wait to watch it tonight. instead of making me scared for labour it's making me excited! could't believe the way that girl was acting. I am sure it must be very painfull but i think she went a bit ott.

Hooray and we're back.

Wondering why some people go to hospital so early when contractions have barely started? I suppose they're just a bit worried but surely would be more comfortable at home.

Want to take bets on how many lie on their backs on the bed?

You lot banging on about the screaming woman last week and saying that she was still screaming after the birth......

Has it occured to you that you still contract after the birth and that it can still fecking hurt?

Lydia is making this look amazing! Her fella's already in tears and her sister looks to be in worse condition!

Now this is what I want it to be like!

(and 30 minutes total duration, of course!)