I'm really crap at being pregnant and I don't care who knows it: Thread II!

[Rocklover]

Having just posted on the wmmc thread from Jan I thought it would be carthartic for all those who detest being preggers to post on here.

Please feel free to whinge, moan, wail, shout, cry or whatever. Get it all off your chest, I'll start with my little rant:

I too am crap at pregnancy. I feel sick almost constantly, I have high levels of anxiety about everything you could imagine. I have very low iron and have icky side effects from the iron tablets which makes me feel worse.

I am getting fat (this meaning that the flab ON TOP of my bump is growing) because I eat crap and I just cannot make myself eat healthy stuff. My hair is frizzy and I can no longer be arsed to blow dry it, so it looks hideous. I have awful heartburn, dry and flakey nipples, I am pissed of all the time and I have ZERO patience with anyone.

My poor DP has felt so rejected by me that he burst into tears the other day because he felt that he disgusted me (I have since tried hard to adjust my appalling mood swing related behaviour).

This is my 2nd DC and I will never be pregnant again, in fact my mum has told me she will kill me if I ever dare consider another child.

Sorry, been out at my Mam's all afternoon. Have you seen a professional about how it's flared up again? It sounds like you really need some external support and advice seeing as there is the added problem of being pregnant this time. I know they can't give you the usual anxiety meds but the anti-d's I'm on apparently help with anxiety (they make it worse for a few days but I persevered and so glad I did, much better) Hope you have a better night - if you can't sleep try getting up and lying on the couch watching TV, sometimes it helps me calm down a bit and I can drift off again. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. x

Can I join in? Im 32+6 with dc4. And today was dc3's (DS2) 7th birthday. I have hyeremesis, which the doc stopped giving me meds for at 28 weeks. Luckily (?!) the vomiting is down to 4-5 times a day now. I've had this with all of my pregnancies. Plus I've got 'borderline' GD, am seeing consultant again on Monday and they are doing another glucose test on me. And my wee keeps having urine in it, and last AN my BP was slightly risen, I had pre-eclampsia with my first pg, DD was born at 34+5. AND to top it all off I also have SPD and the 'tubigrip' that the hysio gave me at 21 weeks doesn't go over my enormous bump now, and there's no free physio appointments till end of January. After I've had the baby.

It hurts to sit down, it hurts to stand up, it hurts to lie down in bed, every time I move my pelvis crunches over itself and I want to cry.

I have made DP PROMISE me that he will get the snip as soon as possible, AND I'm going to get sterilised becuse I never ever ever ever want to be pregnant again. And I still have 7 weeks left and I've grown out of my maternity clothes.

AND I had to sit for 2 hrs in the 7th circle of hell that passes as soft play today for DS2's birthday party.

Aww Loudlass you need a big "I know how you feel hug" so here it is.

40=+5 now! Tried sex last night, ended up nearly crying because my SPD is so horrendous it hurt too much to carry on! God I'm pathetic!

Thanks for replying Gretna, yes you're right, I really should let the dr/mw know that I am struggling with the anxiety again. I know it started because of my severe nausea, but now I believe the anxiety is actually prolonging the nausea, as feeling sick is my number 1 anxiety symptom, so a real catch 22 situation.

I was on Citalopram before, which worked miracles and I was completely back to normal before I got pregnant, so it's all very frustrating. And for some weird reason I always feel worse on a weekend, I sort of expect it now. I haven't been out of the house since Friday.

Loudlass, I salute your bravery at going through pregnancy 4 times, this is only dc2 for me and I am never getting pregnant again (even though my dp would like another, this one is his first). I have been a miserable, pathetic heap of crap this time round and I cannot bear feeling sick for one second longer. I feel bad for my dd and dp who have to put up with my moaning day in, day out.

I am 36 years old and I'm seriously considering being sterilised as dp is not happy about having the snip (he is only 33, so understandable) as I just can't do this again.

Anyway, after that rather depressing rant, I hope everyone is having a good weekend :).

I know I couldn't believe Loudlass had gone through such hard pregnancy 4 times either - a stronger woman than me for sure! I hope you don't have to wait much longer for babes to arrive and you'll feel so much better. x
Rocklover I have wondered about sterilisation too, I'm 34 and very lucky to have 1 gorgeous DS and another baby on the way, but no way can I put myself or family through another 9 months of me pregnant ever again!! I hope the doc or mw can help you, I am so pleased I started the anti-d's as I am really starting to calm down and feel much better, I've had over 10 days without sobbing my eyes out and even enjoyed quite a few things. It means I might actually be excited by the time baby arrives in April!

My wee keeps having urine in it? PAH! I meant that my wee keeps having protein in it!

And I don't feel strong, I feel whiny and pathetic!

I'm glad the anti-ds are helping Gretna, I'm sure you'll feel even better by the time baby comes.

I am not due until the 27th of Jan, and although it isn't that far off it feels like an eternity to me. I managed to get to the supermarket this afternoon and felt fine, now I am home I have an upset tummy again, God I'm fed up with feeling ill I can tell you.

I'll join you with whiney and pathetic Loudlass, all I do is whinge and complain about how awful I feel. I haven't taken dd out all weekend (although she often refuses to leave the house anyway on a Sat & Sun) and I feel guilty for being a shit mum. But I live in a rural area and you have to drive miles to do anything and I just never feel like a day trip out.

Gah, I want this over with.

Bloody hell, I forgot I posted this. I am never going to be pregnant again tralalallalalallaaaaaaaaaa!

Sorry but it makes me so happy.

Sympathies to you all!

The good news is you do recover from it and stop feeling like shit eventually!

I will be singing the same song once this little boy is out wmmc, NEVER EVER EVER again.

Sorry to shout, but has to be said!

I'll join you in that song!

Oh yes, me too, never ever again.

I have IBS, and for my whole pregnancy, it had disappeared. Six days ago I started with (TMI ALERT!) really bad constipation, instead of going every day/twice a day, I was only going every 3 days. Tonight however, I have had the doubled over in agony fist clenching pain of a bad IBS attack and have the runs something terrible.

It was the one good thing about being pregnant that my IBS had stopped, and now it's back with a vengeance. I'm NOT happy!

Rocklover - I just wanted to say, I have emetophobia as well, and my panic attacks have to be seen to be believed. I'm very calm and collected as a rule, but if I think I'm going to be sick, this is the one thing that makes me really lose it.

I tried hypnotherapy and it did really help - not for when I think I'm actually going to be sick (then rocking and shaking and crying is the only thing I can do), but the anxiety around thinking I might be, which can be brought on by almost anything. This side of the phobia is so much better now so it doesn't rule my life anymore. It also meant I can cope with the now 8.5 months of constantly feeling nauseous this pregnancy, but dear god, NEVER AGAIN. Good luck x

Loudlass, I get IBS too, had horrific diahorrea through first trimester, then it settled down in the 2nd. But now I have to tske iron tablets my tummy doesn't know what to do with itself, I either get constipation or a really upset tummy both with hideous wind and horrid stomach ache.

I am not even taking the full dose, so I am going to ring the dr's later and see if there is another tablet I can try as the Spatone wasn't strong enough!

17 usually my emet is under control unless I am properly ill (caught the Norovirus in May and managed it ok). But since I have constant nausea with pregnancy my anxiety has gone through the roof and I panic at the drop of a hat!

I think it has to do with the fact that when I was suffering with my severe anxiety over two years my main symptom was all day/eve SEVERE nausea. Nothing stopped it, not even medication, I lost over 2 stone and was almost down to a size 10 which I have never been in my whole life, I was SO poorly.

I recovered after biting the bullet and taking anti-ds. BUT this pregnancy has taken me back to that horrid time because I feel exactly the same now, except i am putting on weight because I have to eat or I feel worse.

I was actually worse when pg with dd as I was sick and had the runs constantly, so I lost 2 1/2 stone and ended up in hospital. But after 20 weeks I felt better and the rest of the pregnancy was fine. The constant nausea this time round is worse, I hate it!

Can we resurrect this thread? I'm feeling utterly crappy and really don't want to start another whingeing whiny needy thread?

And does anyone know of a nice bottle of fragrant and full-bodied yet non-alcoholic red wine which tastes authentic enough to be worthwhile? It might help, even without the ability to get me pissed...

Oh my word, you don't know how relieved I am to read this thread, I have been made to feel like a total freak for not enjoying my pregnancy or looking forward to the birth. Thank you ladies, you've made my day as I know its not just me now! Everyone else in my family & circle of friends are just too cheery & happy about it all for me to moan at them.

Breastmilk - Sainsbury's rose non-alcoholic wine was perfectly OK, so maybe their red would be worth a try? I don't drink red, so can't vouch for it I'm afraid.

Thanks, will give it a try.

Nice to meet you, and welcome.