I'm really crap at being pregnant and I don't care who knows it: Thread II!

[Rocklover]

Having just posted on the wmmc thread from Jan I thought it would be carthartic for all those who detest being preggers to post on here.

Please feel free to whinge, moan, wail, shout, cry or whatever. Get it all off your chest, I'll start with my little rant:

I too am crap at pregnancy. I feel sick almost constantly, I have high levels of anxiety about everything you could imagine. I have very low iron and have icky side effects from the iron tablets which makes me feel worse.

I am getting fat (this meaning that the flab ON TOP of my bump is growing) because I eat crap and I just cannot make myself eat healthy stuff. My hair is frizzy and I can no longer be arsed to blow dry it, so it looks hideous. I have awful heartburn, dry and flakey nipples, I am pissed of all the time and I have ZERO patience with anyone.

My poor DP has felt so rejected by me that he burst into tears the other day because he felt that he disgusted me (I have since tried hard to adjust my appalling mood swing related behaviour).

This is my 2nd DC and I will never be pregnant again, in fact my mum has told me she will kill me if I ever dare consider another child.

could not stop crying this morning. Due on Sunday and i just feel like i can't handle this if i go overdue. i cant even think about doing another load of washing or housework. hips are agony just now, cant get a decent sleep because of this.

had a tiny bump in my car (someone ran into back of me, so its all coming off her insurance) got an amazing courtesy car. was meant to be getting car back tomorrow but now they tell me it's likely to be mon/tues. which is just making me feel stressed- they will deliver the car to my address but have no idea how i will get the rental car back if i do go into labour before then.

have literally just been eating shite all the time ive been off on mat leave.

and then last night was in tears again as my husband doesnt seem to want to come anywhere near me! telling me he still finds me sexuallty attractive is not the same as actually having sex with me!

aagh! that feels better x

Breastmilk - I have been told to ring the bank back in January and see whether I'd be eligible for one of their schemes for deferring interest payments etc. It's the uncertainty of everything which is making me really anxious. Didn't think of contacting Mind, I guess they might be able to help me negotiate - everything is a mission at the moment though

I'm sorry about the car. But I'm sure that if you do go into labour before getting the car back they'll accept it as an excuse!

Paige It sounds as though you should be eligible, epecially if you've got evidence of how the prospect of returning to work after 2 weeks would affect your mental health. But yes, I understand that everythingfeelingtoomuch feeling...

Breastmilk (seems funny typing that!!) my DS is 3 in January and full of life. Luckily I've had a lot of help from our parents and my childminder is brilliant. Our local toddler group is on tomorrow so we'll go there and see our friends. Hopefully it will tire him out! I feel like a boring parent too but he still seems to love me even though it's everyone else doing the fun stuff with him! I'm letting him watch far to much TV though which gets me in his good books!
minimuffy I really hope you have baby soon, I will cross all fingers for you. I'm sure an orgasm brought my labour on a week early (sorry if TMI) but that might spur hubby on to get romantic!!!

Went into town today afer dropping dd off at school to buy some wrapping paper, hardly any nausea at all. Good going I thought and had a great morning!

Then out of the blue, 10 minutes before I am due to leave to pick dd up I have (TMI alert) horrid diahorrea, like my body decided that it would be fun to choose the most inconvenient time to have a complete clean out.

Managed to get to school on time, but felt rather wobbly. Pregnancy is just sooooo great!

You poor thing, must have been the huge effort of the morning trip! Well done though, it's nice to hear you are getting out a bit more. I atempted shopping this afternon and gave up after 2 shops - it's a start though!

It's bloody knackering going out, isn't it Gretna? I had to have a little nap when I got back :).

Bizarrely I have just eaten a scotch egg cos I fancied it, if I get another upset tummy it'll serve me right for being a piggy!

thanks breastmilk and GG i have managed to calm down a bit even though i still feel that someone could read their shopping list to me and i'd cry!

Still no baby! I could cry and very nearly did this morning. Booked a reflexology appointment for the morning! Shopping? Ha no chance. Way too tired for that.

Ooo enjoy the relexology, I had a session yesterday and it was lovely.

A thread I definitely need to join! I'm 11 weeks tomorrow, very much planned and wanted but just now I'm hating it. I feel rubbish the whole time, always nauseous and tired. The house is an absolutele tip because I just don't have the energy to sort it. I'm eating crap because it's all I can face- my current favourite is Haribo sours. Oh and I had my first nightmare about the baby last night- dreamt I went to my 12-week scan and they were worried because the baby wasn't moving, then it was one problem after another.

I really feel for those of you who are at or around 40 weeks- I hope your babies make an appearance soon!

Hi pozzled, and sorry you're here!

lexxity, please tell us how the reflexology goes! I've been thinking about giving it a go.

Don't want to tempt fate, but I've not thrown up for over 24 hours

I'm pretty crap at being pregnant but for different reasons. My body appears to be taking this rather well, my mind is a completely different matter.

I don't glow, I just look fairly normal. I feel fairly normal until my body reminds me in no uncertain terms that it's not, then I go into a spiral of self-loathing because it's so bloody limiting. I don't get normal pregnancy symptoms, I get PMT x a million and poor DH hates it so much he's asked to do an extra 2 weeks on a ship. He insists that it's because said ship is going somewhere exciting, but I know it's being I'm being a bitch really.

Then when I do actually remember I'm pregnant I worry about it and all the things that I've unknowingly done/unconciously do (like sleeping on my back or eating unpasteurised cheese).

I've put on a kilo in two days, can't stop eating carbs/chocolate or my blood sugar levels plummet and feel generally miserable.

Nearly 20 weeks and rubbish at it.

Thank Jebus for you ladies!

I'm 13 weeks with a very much planned & wanted pregnancy. I know I'm very lucky having only been sick once. But I feel constantly nauseous & cannot stop eating crap food all the time. Because we'd been trying for so long I'd almost come around to the thought that it was never going to happen for us. Now it has I just cannot get my head around the idea. I see the scan & its amazing, but I cannot marry that picture up with what is going on inside me.

I just feel like I cannot shake off the remnants of a sickness bug, & so feel down & constantly pissed off.

I feel bad for moaning when so many others are having really tough times. I'm scared that I'm a bit meh about things & worry that won't change when the baby arrives.

This is my first so I have nothing to compare it to.

Thank you for listening - that already makes me feel a bit better for getting it out.

Ugh god been sick four times already this morning and it's only 11am. 15 weeks this weekend. make it stop please.

Hi to all the newcomers! try not to worry, I suffer badly with hormones and low mood in pregnancy and feel much better as the weeks go on and once DS arrived and I was no longer pregnant I felt nearly back to normal immediately. Constant tiredness and nausea really take their toll on you. However much you want to get pregnant noone can prepare you for how you might feel. The best advice I have been given is to rest as much as you can, forget the housework and if anyone offers to help, take it!! Mumsnet is also great, just to share with others who understand and don't just nod sympathetically while wondering why you're making such a fuss!!
Breastmilk I've been having reflexology for 4 weeks now to try and allieviate anxiety, sickness and general aches and pains. I love it, it's so relaxing and even though the next day I don't feel much better the following days always see an improvement.

Jeez, am in absolute awe of anyone who is pg and already has one child! No idea how you cope with it!

35 weeks and I just projectile vomited all over the bedroom, landing, and upstairs bathroom.

Pregnancy is CRAP.

Reflexology was lovely, but so far nothing! Now 40+3. Please come out baby!

Ina May Gaskin recommends breast stimulation and sex to get things moving but if you're anything like me you blame your DH/DP for getting you inti this mess.

Ugh, horrible stomach upset through the night, very painful tummy and severe nausea. No sleep as I spent the whole night panicking as I am emetophobic, feel absolute shite this morning.

I am thinking all this is because of the iron tablets (I have ibs and anything that irritates my stomach is a nightmare).

To make matters worse exh is supposed to be coming down to visit dd today, although that depends on the trains with this weather and I cannot be bothered to entertain. And dp is out all day helping his friends move house, so no moral support here either.

God I sound pathetic, this is what pregnancy has reduced me to!

Poor you Rocklover maybe it's just a stomach bug and will be over in a few more hours?? I hope the trains are cancelled and you get a stress free day.
We've got loads of snow, been out in it but DS got too cold and wet and wanted to come in the house - fine by me!!!

Exh cancelled anyway, despite there being no real problems with the trains and hardly any snow forecast down here, so don't have that to deal with.

I am pretty sure it's not a bug as I've had this a few times since being pg. I just woke up really suddenly "knowing" that I feel wrong, running to the loo and then feeling really sick with upset tummy. I think waking up so quickly also made me feel worse.

I spent the rest of the night shaking and feeling ill, still feel awful now. Feeling sick makes me very anxious and is also one of my main symptoms when I get anxiety, vicious circle really. Plus it always seems to happen on a weekend, I have come to dread Saturdays and Sundays as I always feel awful.

I have been crap at entertaining dd this morning, she has watched a few films, played with her toys, made some things out of glittery pipe cleaners and eaten junk. God I hope I feel better when this baby is born, I am so scared that I won't.

I know the feeling but I'm pretty sure we will, got to keep positive. My CPN advised me that when I get anxious in the night, not to lie in bed getting wound up as the adrenalin builds up and up until it makes you feel even more ill. Get up and go downstairs, do anything to keep your mind occupied, reading, TV or music. Lying in bed trying to sleep makes the symptoms worse. I found it hard to do the first couple of times but I have to admit it worked. I might not have felt wonderful but the adrenalin shakes were much less.
My DS has watched a lot of TV lately too, I'm sure it won't do them long term harm. I've also resorted to bribery to get him dressed, bathed etc... he will turn into a chocolate button soon! But if it helps make my life easier...

When I suffered really badly from anxiety (2008 + 2009) I never used to get any problems at night, only during the day, so this is all new to me.

The bad pregnancy nausea has brought my anxiety back at almost full scale, I just about manage to keep from going into a full blown panic attack, but many days I do struggle to cope.

I am not sleeping very well anyway because of peeing every 2 hours and being very uncomfy with back pain and restless legs at times. I dread waking in the night feeling ill, it's always a hundred times worse than in the day.

I worry that the anxiety will remain after the baby is born, it took me nearly 2 years to recover before and I was unable to work for over a year because of it all.