SPD caused by cake eating (according to my father...)

[RedZuleika]

My father rang me today, to see how I was - as my due date looms into view at the end of the week. I was grumping about the state of my pelvis: pain, unable to sleep properly, more pain, difficulty walking, lots more pain (you get the picture).

He asked me how much weight I'd put on. Why?? I pointed out that this had nothing to do with the pelvic problems. "It might do", he says.

I've put on two stone. He wants to know how much of that is likely to be baby. About 8lbs, I suggested. "Oh Christ", he says.

So - I really have my work cut out for me to save them the embarrassment of having a daughter who might have put on some weight whilst pregnant.

(Not sure I shouldn't have posted this in the relationship section... sniff...)

Tell him to bog off!

Luckily my dad thinks its great im blooming.... i say i feel fat and yukky and he says "you're not fat sweetheart, you're pregnant"

And then there is the extra fluid, blood volume, placenta etc.

Tell him 'Frankly dear father, I don't give a damn'

I did point out the fluid, placenta etc, but he didn't seem to believe that my pelvis isn't packed with cream cakes and chocolate (I don't even have a sweet tooth! Plus - I spent the first four months of pregnancy vomiting).

But looking at some childbirth book from the '60s which my mother gave me (probably just to wind me up), it recommends that women severely restrict their carbohydrate intake (near Atkins-like) so that they don't put on too much weight and can fit back into their lovely dresses sharpish and don't shame their husbands... (or force them to look elsewhere...)

Did she give you the 1950's tips for housewives to go with it??

OMG RZ, am very on your behalf!! And here I am feeling very smug with myself because I've only put on 2 stone since I've been pregnant - they made me get on the scales the other day for the first time since my booking in, and I was pleasantly surprised - and that is despite my best efforts with cream cakes (have discovered the cream donuts at the bakery around the corner since being on maternity leave )

2 stone is perfect. any less and it would be too little. baby is 8lbs, placenta is about the same as baby that makes 16, extra blood a couple of pounds makes 18, extra fatty tissue in your boobs for feeding makes about 20, the rest is fluid that you will pee/sweat out at an alarming rate in the first4 days after birth.

That's about 2 stone by my reckoning! Tell him to BOG OFF

what a total * - insert your favourite insult here!
SPD is nothing to do with how much weight you put on. is he an obs/gyn specialist by any chance??
tell him he is bad for your blood pressure
two stones is nothing RZ...

hey i think that 2 stone is a really small amount to have put on during pg as im only 6mths with this one and have reached nearly that!! well maybe about 1/2-3/4 of that but its obv gonna increase!! tell him that all of your weight gain is due to your baby and that he can try to carry a child for nine months and see how much weight hed gain- prob double as men make every situation out to be worse for them!! ie eating for two would be eating for the five thousand!!!

In the 1960s there were all sorts of mad ideas that we've since discarded - ads claiming menthol cigarettes would help you breathe, for instance. Apparently docs used to offer you a cigarette too (so my mum says). Does he think those are sensible ideas too?

when any bloke weho dares to criticise the size of a pregnant woman can push something the size of a watermelon out of his sexual organs, then go ahead... Until then they can SHUT UP!!

2 stone is meant to be the norm - poor you with such an ignorant father

I put on slightly more than 2 stone with my first 2 babies... back in my pre-pregancy clothes very quickly (2-6 weeks), and they were relatively small babies. I'm convinced that 2 stone is the very minimum a woman should put on.

2 stone is the norm! I put on 2.5 during my last preg, and 2 of it dropped off with ease afterwards, so raspberries to your dad!

RZ my dad came for a visit to see my baby 7 months ago when he was about two weeks old. During the visit he looked at me and said, 'What are you going to do to get rid of the extra weight?'
Thanks Daddy.

I'm 36 weeks and my mother is very concerned about my carb intake - recommended I try Atkins from now until the birth

2 stone is about right. Recommended weight gain is between 15-25lbs. plus.

Does he realise the placenta weighs as much as the baby. And how about all the amniotic fluid?

What an awful thing to say to someone who's suffering, especially coming from someone who can't ever be pregnant.

I've had comments like this. I just say "Well, I might be a bit overweight, but at least I'm not rude"

SM, I'd have been tempted to say that prison food would have seen to my waistline, with a murderous glint in my eye...

Not to mention the increase in blood.
You have to let these things wash over you, but it's harder than ever when pregnant or post natal IME.

Thanks all!

I thought two stone was fairly reasonable. To start with, I think I put a pound on each breast the minute the sperm hit the egg.

He is very bad for my blood pressure - but to be honest, he's a joy compared to my mother. I think I'll try and avoid talking to either of them until the peanut has arrived - or the little bugger will be too stressed to come out.

Ah! For the positive affirmation of being thought 'blooming'...

I only put 1.5 stone on....

and had an 8.7oz baby......

but I was 4 stone overweight when I conceived, so, swings and roundabouts

Hester: was she serious about Atkins?? (Gobsmacked emoticon)

Hunkermunker: LOL... might try that. Either approach.

At our ante natal class our teacher produced a pair of tights and in one leg she put a 7lb doll, a 2 litre bottle of water and a large dinner plate (to represent the placenta). She made all the blokes pick it up and carry it around with them for 10 minutes just to show them how much we were all carrying around (and how much was exclusively baby related and not cake/chocolate related at all). Even the pg women were surprised at how much it all weighed and it certainly gave the blokes something to think about. Perhaps you could try something similar with your dad. And then you could smash the dinner plate over his head.

Aaaaah ... so that is why I could hardly walk for the last 3 months of my pregnancy? Because I put on 4 and a half stone !!!!!!!!!??????
What a load of bollards!
My mother often reminisces about the size 10 dress my dad bought her as a present when she came out of hospital after having me ... "And you were my 4th baby in 5 years dear!"