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I have to tell someone..I'm pregnant again DS only 5 mnth

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inkyminky · 14/09/2005 20:08

Am still shaking, have just done two pregnancy tests that confirm will be having another baby next year (hopefully). DS is only 5 months old, am happy but scared how much hard work it will be with DS only being 14 months with a new baby, is there any other Mums with a small age gap? How did you cope?

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LouiseT · 14/09/2005 20:14

My sister has two girls with 15 months between them, she's had a pretty tough time as she wasn't that strict with bedtimes (and making them stay there) so no-one got much sleep for the first few years. But now the girls are 6 and 7 and they're the best friends, playing together, plotting against their parents, with the odd squabble thrown in.

I'm sure you'll have some tough times, but they'll be best of buddies. Just make sure you get some "me" time by getting them to bed at set times and do your best to make them stay there!

zippy539 · 14/09/2005 20:20

First off, congratulations!

Mine have a slightly bigger gap (20 months) and though it wasn't planned that way, I have to say I don't regret a minute of it. Yes, it is bloody hard in the first year but from then on it gets so much easier - they entertain each other, you still have all the baby gear etc. The way I see it is that you get all the baby/toddler stuff over in one go rather than prolonging the agony by delaying a few years (can you tell I'm not really into the baby/toddler stuff? )

Frizbe · 14/09/2005 20:22

Congrats! sure you'll find it ok, I'm sure two smaller ones are tougher than one, as my next one is due in 5 mths I'm sure I'll find out! but I have a friend with a smaller gap like yours will be and she gets on fine, says the eldest accepted the younger one easily because of his age! good luck

Expectantmum · 14/09/2005 20:24

Hi Inkyminky I have no advice to give, just wanted to offer my congrats!! My DS is 12 weeks old and I am trying to convince my DP to consider having another so there is no too much of an age gap, but he isn't too convinced at the moment... will have to try and use my womanly charms . I am sure it will be difficult but it will be lovely when they grow up together.

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Fennel · 14/09/2005 20:26

Hi Inkyminky, I had a 17 month gap between my first two, by choice. it was fine, really. OK the first few months were tiring but I think that's the case with a bigger gap too. and they are good friends, now they are 5 and 4 and they play together endlessly. even as baby and toddler they got on ok and even then they were compatible - both enjoyed the same toddler groups etc.

don't panic! and when other people with a more seemly gap have their second you can be all smug and knowall about having two....

Lonelymum · 14/09/2005 20:31

I had a gap of 18 months too and I didn't find it too bad although I don't know any different I suppose. They are now 9 and nearly 8 and I have to say, although they have 2 younger siblings, they are still as thick as thieves. Even when they were tiny, ds1 would keep ds2 endlessly amused. I don't know how people have a baby say 5 years after their last one, just as they are getting their lives back together again. You'll see, it will be fun. Oh and congratulations by the way!

burstingbug · 14/09/2005 20:32

Congrats! I'm sure everything will work out just fine. There is 15 months between my dh and his brother, they have always been very close and used to gang up on their parents when they were younger (not in a nasty way). Our ds is 6.5 months and we are hoping to have a little brother or sister for him by the end of next year.

burstingbug · 14/09/2005 20:34

(my dh is 33 and his brother is 31, still as close as ever)

antibes · 14/09/2005 20:40

only 14 between mine and hard work in some ways but easier in other and at the mo they love each other. Definitely a great choice

antibes · 14/09/2005 20:42

get bed time right and life will be much easier - i cant even explain why - it just works

motherpeculiar · 14/09/2005 20:43

have a bigger gap so can't really comment but wanted to say CONGRATS and I AM SO ENVIOUS (DD2 is 5 months and I am damn broody!)

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inkyminky · 14/09/2005 20:58

Thanks for everyone's kind words, am only 5 wks and DP dosnt want me to tell anyone yet, that's why MN is great , am feeling much better now I know people wont look at me like I've got two heads or am completely mad for contemplating having another so quickly. Am not looking forward to the last month of feeling like a beached whale though. I will work hard on a solid routine for DS as well in preparation, thanks again.

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Nightynight · 14/09/2005 21:22

congratulations, that's the gap between my eldest 2 as well, people think they are twins sometimes, but it is great fun. Not that hard, and the eldest one won't remember the younger one not being there!

foxinsocks · 14/09/2005 21:25

that's the same gap as mine and I found my lifesaver was getting them both to have a long post lunchtime nap together and as antibes said, getting them down at night together. For some reason, it makes everything else so much easier.

Amity1975 · 15/09/2005 00:07

it is easier to have another one before you have to be at school every morning at 9! hard to get up when you have had a bad night and they are still asleep but you need to get to school!

piglit · 15/09/2005 09:25

Congratulations inkyminky! I am 29 weeks pg and have a 10 month old so the age gap will be just 13 months. I have really found this pg hard going and at times I have wondered what the hell I'm doing and how I'll manage. My advice would be not to expect too much from yourself and to take it easy as often as you can. Don't be surprised if you have some really bad days. Get as much help as you can. Oh, and make sure that ds is a good sleeper! My ds still doesn't sleep through the night and I doubt he will even when db arrives. If db is like ds then I'll have 2 years of sleepless nights....

Although everyone seems shocked when I tell them what the age gap will be I really don't think there's an "ideal" age gap between children. I'm sure it's hard whenever you do it.

Good luck!

Carla · 15/09/2005 09:27

14 months here, too. When they get to 7 and nearly 6, it gets a bit easier!! Sort of.

Congratulations!!

staceym11 · 15/09/2005 10:13

cant say from experience but dd is 10 months and we'r ttc #2, everything will be fine im sure! good luck and congrats!

Spoo · 15/09/2005 19:14

Inky
Congrats. I am also shockingly Pregnant again with a 7 mnth old. THis was not planned and I am still shaking - did the test half an hour ago! Good to know I am not alone. I think the biggest thing for me is peoples reactions! I keep saying OMG!

Norash · 15/09/2005 19:16

Congratulations inkyminky!

Norash · 15/09/2005 19:17

Congratulations spoo

Spoo · 15/09/2005 19:26

Still in shock!

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inkyminky · 15/09/2005 20:27

Congrats Spoo, Am worried what others will say as well, crazy isnt it? Only 12 months ago I was being warned about my Biological clock ticking...I guess I've sorted that out Am feeling strange popping like sensations in my tummy, is this normal & just because it's so soon after giving birth? anyone know, also my boobs hurt like hell last time and this time...not a sausage, maybe all my muscles have disappeared down south now.

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