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Bedroom fun whilst pregnant?

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AllRitaThen · 21/09/2010 22:45

Hi everyone

I need some advice, hope you can help me?

I'm about 33 weeks pregnant and want to continue my antics with my fella, but I'm not sure how I'm meant to? It feels a bit awkward, we used to get up to all sorts - what positions work for you?

I'm a bit nervous as I'm not sure he's that interested in me in this state, any tips for 'seduction' as well? Difficult as a pregnant girlie innit?

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Ryuk · 22/09/2010 00:54

Considering men's views on pregnancy go from almost fetishistic to entirely turned off, I really couldn't say what your guy's feelings are on the matter. Maybe see if you could bring the question up with him? It might be that he's still very interested but is worried about whether you want to? Seems best to talk about such things than just keep worrying.

Also do you mean awkward socially or physically? If physically, I've found missionary increasingly makes me feel squashed, but being on top makes my stomach feel strained, so lately we've either been doing it extremely carefully either way, or in a kind of spooning position on our sides, which is definitely easiest so far.

Ryuk · 22/09/2010 00:55

Oh and as for seduction, just do it however you normally would..? You're still you, after all, and whatever attracted him to you in the past is presumably still present! :)

nymphadora · 22/09/2010 05:32

Spoons is about all that works for us now. Lots of people recoimmend doggy style too

HungryHippolyta · 22/09/2010 15:23

My ex fella only wanted to receive oral sex when I was pregnant. I tried hard to turn him on and have regular sex with me but he wouldn't :(

In the end I ended up practically raping him lmao.

Not really suggesting you try that but er, consider it?

Mahraih · 22/09/2010 15:32

I've given up entirely on seduction (not that I was very successful at it anyway).

Normally I just say plaintively, "Will we have the sex, then?" and then half the time decide I can't face it, half way through.

I made it quite clear to him early on that he would have to do a bit of pouncing, as I wouldn't be up to it.

But yeah, maybe just ask if he'd like the sex?

WriterofDreams · 22/09/2010 15:35

I feel your pain Rita. I have a fairly high sex drive normally but it's shot up during this pregnancy and it's driving me nuts because 1)DH is experiencing a lull in his sex drive (he assures me it is nothing to do with me being pregnant) and 2) I just cannot find a position that really suits me. Me on top is still working to a certain extent (I'm 26 weeks) but it's getting more difficult and spoons doesn't really hit the spot IYSWIM. It's the thing that annoys me most about being pregnant at the moment (I'm sure that'll be replaced by general discomfort later on!!)

TrishPio · 22/09/2010 15:49

My husband found that due to my enlarged vagina in the later stages of my pregnancy he often was unable to climax during sex so we had to compromise. He would pleasure me with various fruit while I performed sex acts on him.

I'm not saying you should "go green", but if you're finding it difficult to pleasure each other the way you're used to then experiment!

Cluds · 22/09/2010 17:08

Wow, TrishPio sorry to sound naive, but what/how was your DH pleasuring you with fruit? sounds fun!
Apologies if TMI - I have always continued having sex throughout all my pregnancies, but this time (DC3) i have had terrible varicosities of the vulva and don't feel very attractive at all, it hasn't put my DH off sex, but it has me. So, poor chap hasn't had a bonk for about 3 weeks (am 40 +2 today) and is wondering around with nackers the size of watermelons! However, like most of you the best position seems to be spooning.

TrishPio · 22/09/2010 20:14

Hello Cluds :) The trick is to use fruit which won't do any damage - so pineapples are off the menu, not that they'd physically fit anyway unless you're HUGE down there lol

Bananas are perfect as they're relatively smooth and the thick skin means they aren't ruined by the sex act, you can still peel and eat them afterwards.

Ishouldhavechosenagoldfish · 22/09/2010 20:18

So [slightly off track here] do you eat the banana straight away in a worked-up-an-appetite sort of way, or do you just return it to the fruit bowl?

TrishPio · 22/09/2010 20:24

Yeah sometime we eat the bananas immediately afterwards, as you say it works up an appetite! It never goes back into the fruitbowl tho, however one time my son found a used banana on the floor and put it in his packed lunch box - he looked at us like we were crazy when we snatched the bag off him and tried to explain that the banana had "gone off"

CheeseandGherkins · 22/09/2010 21:01

Fruit??! Seriously?

sotough · 22/09/2010 22:03

{shock] and at this thread.

lou19 · 22/09/2010 22:26

TrishPio I think you are my new personal guru!I'll never look at a banana the same way again lol Personally I have found spoons the only practical position from about 26 weeks onwards. Anything else annoys me, which kind of defeats the object. Also, may I suggest you use your hands more? Unless you want to get creative

emmab5 · 22/09/2010 22:32

Hi I was going to suggest spoons and doggie but i'm off to tescos now instead to but a bunch of bananas :o

emmab5 · 22/09/2010 22:32

i mean 'buy' :o

MummyAbroad · 23/09/2010 02:08

well this thread turned out to be much more entertaining than expected! Thanks ladies!

ReshapeWhileDamp · 23/09/2010 09:48

Not sure I could bring myself to eat a banana that was still warmed from my fanjo, and I consider myself pretty uninhibited!

I had a libido surge in the middle trimester last time but this time I just can't get interested. God knows hos DH feels about it - I keep on meaning to talk to him about it and see if I can, ahem, Help. We have had sex exactly once since we concieved and it wasn't particularly great, though nice to reconnect. I have a huge bump and some pelvic pain, so it's all a bit unwieldy and cumbersome. The only way that works is on our sides and him behind me, but I have to bend at a right angle to his body for, um, adequate entrance. Which makes me feel as if I'm practically in the next room.

Cluds · 23/09/2010 11:57

Bananas it is then....although i have been happy with my Anne Summers Bunny which has been used quite a lot in this pregnancy.
emmab5 i burst at laughing when i read how you were going to "but a bunch of bananas" - thought, wow that's a completely different angle on this topic, literally!

HRHPrincessReality · 23/09/2010 11:59

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Cyclebump · 23/09/2010 12:06

Are vibrators safe to use though?

BaronessBomburst · 23/09/2010 12:08

Troll or no troll - who cares?! PML!

Cluds · 23/09/2010 13:21

I THINK vibrators are safe to use - but obviously in a gentle way! Have continued to use mine with all 3 pregnancies. Adds a bit of fun to our sex life as i find it boring only doing one position all the time, and yet spooning is the only comfortable one.

Cyclebump · 23/09/2010 13:56

Hmmmmm, good to know :)

MidnightsChild · 23/09/2010 14:14

That is the biggest and loudest laugh I've had in a long time!

If all invaders were that amusing and entertaining, I'd personally put out the welcoming bunting for them

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