Any pregnant brides to be out there?

[Tinwe]

Hi

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and my much looked forward to wedding will be in December this year when I'll be 21 weeks. I've been told my dress may still fit but I'm not hopeful. Main difficulty at the moment is that I feel so rough I'm not motivated to do any finishing jobs, like invites for example!

Anyone else got an early wedding present?

I was 15 weeks when I got married in May this year. However, it wasn't a big do, and I managed to squeeze into my dress (not a proper wedding dress anyway, just a really lovely Monsoon one). The bump was a bit of an issue with the fit, but the boobs presented more of a problem!

I don't really have any advice, except to suggest that you delegate as much as possible. If you're planning a big wedding, it's probably going to be fairly stressful, but at least you'll be out of the horrible first trimester quite soon. And another plus is that your hair is likely to more fabulous than ever!

Yep! I was Married in St Lucia in April and I was 10 weeks gone. To be honest it was the best present ever as it was our second time on IVF. I truly didn't believe it would work so I'd been focusing on the wedding and relaxing.

I was swollen from the treatment still, so I had to buy a new dress, but I wouldn't have changed it for the world!

We didn't have the party back home until June, but it was such a truely joyful occasion, kind of celebrating both!

Are you going abroad on Honeymoon? Just beware that the sun may affect you differently, I am normally a sun worshiper, but I didn't enjoy the heat, and I was in bed by 9.30 most nights...yes I know thats normal when your on your honeymoon () but I was asleep!

Good luck and enjoy every minute!

Congrats FourEyesGood!

Hair... I knew there had to be a bonus! My skin's suffering at the mo, I'm just banking on the whole 2nd trimester glow thing. My dress will accommodate bigger boobs I reckon, it's the waist I'm more concerned about.

I got married in July when I was 22 weeks and the clear skin was definitely a bonus! I had a dress made and the dressmaker didn't finish it until 2 days before as even though I wasn't showing much I was changing shape.

We had a fab day and the only downside was that I got tired quite early and had to leave the party when everyone was still there.

Thanks Andie20521

We can't afford a honeymoon so were going to ask for money for the wedding to put towards a holiday about May next year. Since I'm due then I doubt we'll be going anywhere. May get a couple of nights in this country before Christmas but have booked the holiday period off anyway for a rest.

I'm hoping it will be a double celebration as our parents seem pleased but i know my DPs family are Catholic so I expect a few disapproving glances as I'll be showing by then. The way I see it is that the wedding was already planned so we've just speeded things up a bit!

I was married at 7 months pregnant and with hyperemesis. DH was fab and did practically all the organising. (The florist was very confused because in all her years of doing weddings she'd never ever had to deal with a groom instead of a bride before!)
On the day I was just happy to make it down the aisle and not be sick during the ceremony but looking back I do regret not having a nicer dress - it was just a long pink maternity dress from some overpriced maternity shop.

Ah, sethstarkaddersmum, sorry to hear you had a bad time of it but it seems like your DH is brilliant so well done on finding him! Understand the not being sick fear...

From your post I wonder if I should start looking for a new dress now then? Woman in the dress shop said I might not be very big then but I'm not convinced.

Well I would!

What style is your dress? Is there much room for growth in it?

I had found the dress I was going to have but fortunately not ordered it when I worked out I was pregnant - there was no way it would have worked as a pregnant dress because it had a very small natural waist (I normally have quite an hourglassy figure, which would really have come into its own for a wedding dress, meh!).

Well I would!

What style is your dress? Is there much room for growth in it?

I had found the dress I was going to have but fortunately not ordered it when I worked out I was pregnant - there was no way it would have worked as a pregnant dress because it had a very small natural waist (I normally have quite an hourglassy figure, which would really have come into its own for a wedding dress, meh!).

Ah... so do I! The dress is an a-line corsetted style. The woman in the shop said my bump might be below the waist. Unfortunately I've paid up front for the dress

oh dear!
I suppose it is quite tight.
Maybe you could try padding yourself up with a cushion in your tights and a big maternity bra stuffed with tissues and see how it works

I wonder if it can be altered, or if it could be worn with the back not meeting but with an extra infill of similar fabric.

If it looks ok but is horribly uncomfortable perhaps you could get a really stunning going-away outfit and then change into that early if you can't manage the dress any more.

Good idea about the going away dress!

I'm hoping that my current vile nausea will have a plus side in that I'll not pile weight on and so may still get somewhere near it! I think that since it's a lace up back there must be some give?

I heard a horror story from someone at work who told me she'd bought her daughter's wedding dress then found out she'd be 6 months gone for the wedding so immediately swapped the order from a 10 to an 18 and she still split it on the day!

I got married last month when I was 12 weeks pregnant. My mum bought the dress for me last September when I wasn't even thinking of getting pregnant!

I came off the pill at the end of March intending to ttc when we got married but it happened a bit earlier than we intended .

The dress fit fine in the end as it was a lace up back and could be let out or tightened as necessary, although it got tighter as the day went on as I ate.

That's hopeful then wanderingsheep although a few more weeks for me...

Congrats on your double good news too!

Tinwe, is it your first baby? If so you really might not be very big at that stage.

I was worried because this is my second and seemed to pop out much earlier.

Congratulations to you too!

Ah... yup it's my first. Feel bloated already but I've not put weight on and DP can't see a difference so maybe I'll be in luck. Can't say I had a washboard stomach in the first place though for muscles to hold it in!

Am in same situation Tinwe! Will be 23 weeks and am just so, so grateful that I am having dress made (actually worked out cheaper than any "proper" dress I'd seen) and when I turned up at the dressmaker and burst into tears she said "don't worry, so was I - and so are a lot of my clients - I'm good at guessing size and we'll just allow extra and fit it properly a few days before". I could have kissed her!

More helpfully for you, I had a friend who was also about 20 weeks and her dress didn't fit but... a clever dressmaker added a panel down each side. The wedding was yesterday (I couldn't make it as it was abroad) but she says it's worked brilliantly and looks fab

I was 30 weeks pregnant when I got married, and you could definitely tell!! I had a maxi dress so it didn't matter too much (and wore flip flops...) but you might want to consider being absolutely KNACKERED on your day, although you'll still be in the glowing stage! Congratulations on both counts and have an amazing time.

The only reason I have a cleavage in my wedding photos is because I was 19 weeks pregnant. I bought the dress at 14 weeks and by the time of the actually wedding it was getting difficult to breath, in fact if you look at the end of evening photos you can see the back of my dress has the zipper half undone.

Hopefully by 21 weeks you will be out of the first trimester tiredness and in the blooming and energetic stage! Have a great day.

Thanks *NowPanicAndFreakOut" and congratulations! I nearly had my dress made but worked out more expensive as this dress was in the sale (hence not returnable)... I'm hoping that panels might be addable, it's just a case of getting material to match I suppose if they didn't make if in the first place.

Oncemoreintothebreach : Ithik I'd be happy to be tired as long as the sickness has gone. I'm taking my first day off today as I feel awful with nausea

Librashavinganotherbiscuit : cleavage is not a problem to begin with, in fact I'd rather not look like a Carry On film extra! Didn't think your shape would change so much between 14 and 19 weeks - I'm so niaive with it being my first! I'm very glad my dress is lace up so I should be able to loosen it a little. I'm so looking forward to blooming, 's just difficult motivating myself to do the planning bit right now!

I don't think you'll have problems getting a fabric that is near enough, assuming it is nothing very unusual.

and maybe line up a dressmaker and book her/him in to do any alterations nearer the time?

sympathy re feeling rough. Tell your dp he will need to help out as much as poss! The exhaustion of early pregnancy is hard.

sethstarkaddersmum: the woman in the dress shop has told me to come in at the beginning of Nov to see if it will go anywhere near me, they have a dressmaker who can look at it if there's a slight hope after that (wedding is on 21st December). Problem with dp is that he's very indecisive and I'm not in the mood to make decisions so things get left!

Ah, thanks lulabelle, I see you needed a new dress - what happened to your old one? Might've been best to leave it to the last minute as at least you know it would be a good fit

Congratulations Tinwe! I got married last month at 28 weeks and I had a fantastic day.

It wasn't a very formal wedding (ceremony and do in a pub) but we had a lot of people and there was still a lot to organise. I found it hard being pregnant as well but I wouldn't have had it any other way now. Write a list of what needs doing and when and just start tackling it little by little in order of importance. Baby steps get you there in the end. It's so worth it when it all comes together and you forget how hard it was.

I got a white dress made to accommodate the bump but found I wasn't really feeling it and felt frumpy. I'm not massively traditional so at the last minute I had a look at nice maternity dresses, found a really pretty sage green one for £38 and got married in that and it looked lovely with the flowers and my hair done.

Our ceremony was at 2 with the do straight after and I found I didn't have time to get tired. I hit a bit of a wall at about 11.30 but stayed up til almost 3 in the end. Had a really early night the next day and stayed in pyjamas all day the day after that and was back to normal.

It's all good, have a lovely day :)

Congratulations missdt sounds like a lovely do, did you have a honeymoon?

Our wedding is at 1.30 to catch the light as it will be the "darkest day" so will be a long day I reckon. We have an evening do starting at 7.30! I'm just worried about sickness and am trying everything recommended on here now to get a grip on things.

Good idea about the list, should make things seem more manageable too!