Quackers sorry I missed your other message - you have so many on here When I had my first mc I was devastated and just wanted to move on. We agreed to wait the 3 months we were advised but it felt so wrong using contraception when we wanted a baby and I discovered I was pg again before I had my next period. It was a shock but I felt lightening never strikes twice etc so was very happy. But about a week later I had a bleed followed by another at 7 weeks and they confirmed there was no baby again. I remember lying in that bed convinced I would never ever be a mum and blaming myself for not waiting as thats what all the Drs and nurses seemed to imply.
However being a researcher by training once I was out of hospital I began to look into the waiting period. I could actually find very little evidence that waiting helped. It seemed to be recommended more for the emotional recovery than anything physical. Nonetheless I wasn't prepared to take any risks so waited my full 3 months. Luckily for me I have no problem concieving (just staying pg) so month 4 I got the magic blue line. Pregnancy was never the same though - weeks of stress, nervousness and getting through the days one day at a time. But I made it and have a beautiful son to show for it, closely followed by a gorgeous daughter.
You know my more recent history when we went for no. 3. That was a really gruesome mc at 12 weeks with the complication of a clot afterwards. As before we were determined to wait and to be honest I still can't work out how this baby was concieved! But as you know I am about to pop and I never had a period after my last loss.
So although I blamed myself for not waiting the first time, it has made no difference phycially this time, although it has been a much tougher pg and I bled for the first 12 weeks which made it even worse.
I think it is good to give yourself time to heal emotionally but at the end of the day the next pg will be hard however long you wait. If you feel you can't wait then there is no reason to beleive this will lead to another mc. They told me it was just really bad luck that I had two together. At the time I wanted to scream that loosing a baby was far more than bad luck and convinced there was something wrong with me. But then I had two children so I guess not.
Pregnancy is a mystery to me still. Sometimes it has a happy ending - sometimes not. I just try to reassure myself that those babies I lost were lost for a reason - something was wrong and this was natures way of sparing them and me. I was convinced I would never be a mum - but I am and soon will be again. So hang on in there. Its a hard and painful road but there is no reason to beleive that you will have to go through this again. Nothing anyone says is really going to convince you of that though until you have your baby. You've just got to grit your teeth and take all the support you can. Hope this helps. All my love.