46 and pregnant

[roobydoobs]

I have just found out that I am pregnant, I am in shock and feel a complete fool, I thought I was getting menopausal and only did the test to reassure myself. I have 2 DS's 16 and 15 and DH of 20 years.

Is there anyone out there who has experience of pregnancy at this late stage, there are so many risks, I just don't know what to do. On one hand it feels terribly wrong, I'm very happy with my lot and don't know if I can get through this, on the other I feel like I've won the lottery, what are the chances. I know that over 50% end in miscarriage at my age. Any advice people can give me would be really appreciated.

Congratulations! A good fiend of mine had the same at 45 and now has a lovely lovely 3.6 DS.

Sorry don't have any advice but just wanted to say congratulations!

Congratulations

But please, please don't get too excited. I'm 44 and have had several miscarriages (at 3 months) and know plenty of 40+ women in a similar position.

Go and see your GP for a chat.

Sounds wonderful - although I can empathise with your concerns.

Congratulations!

Congratulations! How many weeks are you?

One of my colleagues found out she was pregnant at 46 - thought it was the menopause, like you - and gave birth at 47. She says it's been wonderful, but incredibly exhausting, far more so than she remembers with her DS1 15 years earlier. It's clearly turned her world upside down, but she's very happy with the way things have turned out.

Congratulations. I had DD2 just after my 45th birthday. Though a shock at first, she has been an absolute joy. The pregnancy was fine, I just ate sensibly and took regular exercise. I chose not to have screening for downs syndrome and never felt that I needed to take excessive care due to my age. My Doctor was very supportive and never gave me the impression that I was old for pregnancy, which helped me a great deal. I was worried that when she started school I would be the oldest mother around and might be mistaken for her grandmother but there were plenty other mothers who looked about my age.

Hi

My mum had a DC when she was 46,Dad was 58 he was her 5th child. Everything and everybody were fine.
Mum's DC's were 25,23,17 and 11 when mum found out, it was like having a second family for my parents.
I worried myself sick during her pregnancy due to her age and how long it had been since she had a child, was in the hospital but not the labour ward when she gave birth. My Dad's first experiance of labour, never again said he, will we be back next year siad mum.
Now our family would not be complete without him.
I have had 1 mc 2dd's then 6 mc's amd am now 16 weeks, bricking it up to now but starting to feel a bit positive.
There can be a happy outcome, how do your older children feel?
Congratulations enjoy winning the lottery.

Oops
The baby was the 5th child not my dad

Thanks for replying, I'm so pleased to hear there are some positive outcomes, happy parents and babies, as I'm just hearing and fearing the worst from researches around google. I'm only 6wks, I've told no-one else yet except DH. I just can't believe it and I'm convinced I'm going to miscarry and I don't want to worry the DS's and rest of family for a while. The whole thing just seems unreal atm.

My bf had her first baby at 47 after egg donation. She and the baby are fine (though it was not her egg, so risks of down's etc were minimal, the pregnancy was easy, she did end up with a CS as the doctors were v nervous about her labouring (though they let her try) but all generally good. Congratulations and good luck

If it helps,I read when I was pg (a mere stripling at 38 that a lot of these dire older mother disaster stories are skewed by stats from the days when women had no choice but to keep having lots of babies and were pretty done by the time got to our age. Don't know if true, but decided to believe it. And all was well. Hope for you too.

Hi, congratulations. I'm 46 too, and entering 3rd trimester. Took me 3 months to realise I was pg, and in truth the penny still hasn't dropped. We did amnio and all the other necessary checks (glucose tolerance etc) as we don't want age related complications and have adopted the attitude that, having survived the tests, and 3 months of me doing things that pg people aren't supposed to do, this child was meant to be. No we can't afford another dc, the house is too small, we may both be made redundant at work, and we already look ancient in the school playground, but what an unexpected blessing . So I can entirely empathise with your mixture of contrasting emotions. Good luck. Stay in touch. I was really heartened by your post!

Congratulations! Dr Lisa Dillner has a column in the Guardian called pregnant again at 47 which you might find interesting. My Mum thought my little sister was the menopause too at 45.

Awww, a big congrats to you. Whilst I understand what Bonsoir is saying (have had 3 MMCs in 12 months, am 42) you have to be in to win it, and as they say for now, you ARE pg, enjoy it.

(Unless your GP is very different to mine, I wouldn't bother having a chat... just book in with MW (usually from 8 weeks), and the very best of luck to you).

Keep us posted x

Congratulations!!

I've had 3 healthy babies in my 40's and very luckily no MCs. Fingers crossed for you too!
My last pregnancy came as a huge surprise when DC3 was only 4 months old. But we also decided that this was meant to be and we haven't looked back. tired

Hi roobydoobs Congratulations to you & SNAP ( hi to all other mums out there too)

I too have just had a BIG BIG shock today, infact im still shaky (had 2 cups of tea). Im in the same boat as you, at age 46 ive just had to buy a pregnancy test from Superdrug(felt stupid buying it at my age) and at 2pm today it gave me a positive result.
I have two wonderful sons the oldest is 12 years going on 13 and the youngest has just turned 8. Its seems like im in a dream world today. I too thought maybe i was menopausal but being overdue for me is not the 'norm' even by 5 days, hence i took the test.

Hope you are coming round to the idea, im just thinking about the positives.. If all goes ahead well and how it will change everthing - so much to think about.

please keep us posted on your plans i will posting updates.

This thread is 18 months old.

Champas - old thread, but new news for you and me (I am 43 next month) Come over to the due nov 2012 thread and make me feel a bit better about being an older mum-to-be?

Hi older mums to be. I am 43 and just found out 3 weeks ago I was excepting. 9 weeks this week. It was planned but hell nothing planned me for the shock when I found out. I was convinced the test was faulty ended up doing three. I think the digital one that stated in big blue letters PREGNANT +3 was pretty clear I was. Spent the first week in totally shock with crap how the hell am I going to cope with a baby at my age. I have been with my partner for 21 years. We are both happy campers in the life we lead. We both wanted a family but I was not prepared for the shock and how stressed I am. Week 2 was filled with night terrors and cold sweats. Worrying about everything and anything. Panic attacks in the middle of tescos. Unable to go to the gym and hiding under my duvet may make it all go away. I then was admitted into Lincoln hospital ( the nurses there were fab), with pains on my right side they decided to keep me in for 3 days observations as I had a temperature and shocking pains on my right side. Blood tests showed an infection but after day 3 was ok for me to return home. Spent the weekend not wanting to admit I was having a baby and that someone was growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. I visited my GP and said all my hormones were going nuts and I would feel I had no control ( and How!!!) . I was concerned about how many black cloud moments I was having on a daily basis and did not want to be on my own as my brain was going a mile and minute. I had no feelings of excitment about the baby. I have got my head into gear now and sleep ok except for countless trips to the loo, may have a loo built by my bed !!! I am lucky I have not had any sickness, just max bloating and gas !! Sexy I know. Partner is brillant and is rolling with me and supporting me with all my emotions good or bad. I have my first midwife appointment this friday and scan 5th April which is 13 weeks. So it is great to hear from older mums who are crapping themselves the same as me. Thank god for chinese takeaway and cadburys in any form. (grin)

Is there an older mums thread? If not, I think one might be useful

My mother-in-law had her first baby (my DH obviously) at 47, he was perfectly healthy - she dud have C Section but, only due to her being stressed causing baby to become stressed.

He has grown up with quite old fashioned views on things (first to buy a round of drinks, real gentleman around women, traditional views on marriage)

My nan also had my dad late (48) and my dad is the most wonderful person i know!
good luck with your pregnancy, enjoy every minute x

I am in the same position. I am 46 and just found out yesterday I am pregnant. I had my daughter when I was 40 and have had 5 m/c's since but all over 3 years ago. I am really excited about being pregnant but can't really believe it. I just didn't feel right with very sore boobs so decided to buy a test and was shocked when it said positive. Periods have been all over the place in the last couple of years so wouldn't have known if I'd missed one. Now worrying about having another m/c.

Congratulations! I am 6 months pregnant and will be 46 when my first baby arrives (all being well). I fell pregnant for the first time 18 months ago and again about a year ago - both ended in miscarriage. As one of the other posts have said, you have to be in it to win it, but the downside of pregnancy at this stage in life is that the risk of miscarriage is high. My advice - don't waste time/energy/emotion worrying yourself into a terrible state about a miscarriage, get yourself a scan asap, even if you have to pay for it. I think 7 weeks is the earliest. Good luck xx

Congratulations! I am 6 months pregnant and will be 46 when my first baby arrives (all being well). I fell pregnant for the first time 18 months ago and again about a year ago - both ended in miscarriage. As one of the other posts have said, you have to be in it to win it, but the downside of pregnancy at this stage in life is that the risk of miscarriage is high. My advice - don't waste time/energy/emotion worrying yourself into a terrible state about a miscarriage, get yourself a scan asap, even if you have to pay for it. I think 7 weeks is the earliest. I was told that neither of my 1st 2 pregnancies had progressed to a point of having a heartbeat, and I didn't find out until about 11 weeks in both cases. An early scan won't give you a 100% result but it will give you a good indication if it's viable or not at that point. Hope that makes sense. I had a scan for this pregnancy at 7 weeks and it confirmed a heartbeat. The consultant said we still had a long way to go, but it was promising. Good luck xx

Hi all nice to be on here I to am 46 and I had been sterilized 23 years ago I have 2 grown up son's and I'm a grandmother I also have a rare genetic condition called Ehlers-Danlos syndrome it was a complete shock I'm only about 7 weeks but huge I see the dr this week first appointment I'm terrified and so worried my illness causes up to 20 dislocations and subluxations a day so I have been on morphine for the pain it's so scary as I know it is going to affect my baby my hubbie and I are cautiously excited but I have had 11 miscarriages in the past and both my boys were so premature due to the eds . It feels like a miracle and I couldn't belive the test when it came back positive but when I didn't get my period it seemed so more real .

Im 46 years old im 9 days late i keep track of my cycles they haven't been any diferent. Im wondering if im pregnant. I had a miscarridge 5 years ago i tested yesterday it was negative should i wait longer to test