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how much worse does your tummy get after having 2nd baby

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beckie90 · 29/07/2010 14:03

hiya

this may seem a daft question, after having baby no1 my stomach to me seems abit loose to everi1 else they say they cant tell ive had a baby.
but does it get loads worse after having baby no2

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Hevster · 29/07/2010 14:24

i hope not, but i bet it does!

YummyMummy1208 · 29/07/2010 14:32

im worried about the exact same thing! I went back to normal after first one but skins a bit more looser than before if u know what i mean so im worried about what it will be like after this one!
How far gone r u?

YummyMummy1208 · 29/07/2010 14:32

my friend is having her 3rd mind and she still had a flat stomach after the second so there definately is hope! u mite just need to work a little harder to get it bak!

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beckie90 · 29/07/2010 14:40

im not pregnant yet lol well i might be this month as i have been havin all the same symptoms as before im due on period in a week so i will know then. my stomach as gon back to same size 23 inch but my skin just seems abit looser, and the 2 main things that are bothering me about been pregnant is the tummy afterwards as ive only jst turned 20 and a bad birth like i had before.
how far are you yummymummy

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clarebear1 · 29/07/2010 18:56

I hate my belly after my first! I have loads, i mean loads of stretch marks, its loose and slightly overhang fat still :-( couldve tried harder i admit. Now just pregnant im hoping that i have the extra skin to cope with the stretching and there is no more room on my belly for any more stretch marks.

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beckie90 · 29/07/2010 19:37

thats what im thinking clarebear. ive already stretchd so maybe beacuse i have the room now it my just go bak same as it is now. i didnt get stretch marks on my belly though, so i might get them after no2. when i look down i can see a slight line but when i look in the mirror it just looks flat. maybe im just self concious. congrats by the way x

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rockbudgie · 29/07/2010 20:58

I'd love to know the answer to this as I'm also thinking about having a second!

clarebear1 have your tried phytaoil for your stretchmarks? It works wonders. Seriously.

gaelicsheep · 29/07/2010 21:05

My DC2 is nearly 6 weeks and my tummy's flat again. Bit of a way to go with the bum mind. But oh, the afterpains!

jetgirl · 29/07/2010 21:15

Mine was better after the second. It took me 4 months to get back into size 12 jeans after my first, 4 weeks after the scond, then carried on to a size ten - I put that down to never getting the chance to sit down with 2 dcs! It's still a bit wobbly where the skin is looser, but no-one gets to see that!

DoggerFisherGermanBight · 29/07/2010 21:16

For me it's much worse, sorry. I was fine until the last 2 weeks of pregnancy, when it grew huge very quickly, got lots of stretch marks (had none with the first) and after the birth my stomach has yet to return to normal a year on.
I'm hopeful as the stretch marks are fading, just got to get rid of the small overhang.

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beckie90 · 29/07/2010 22:15

god well done gaelicsheep. i was the same after my birth 6 days after my tummy was flat. i can only really tell the skin isnt as tight when im sat down hunched over if u get me lol.
it does weigh on my mind alot because ive always been a slim girl, but i try to think of it this way look at what you get out of it in the end, so what if you have abit of loose skin, its what your baby grew in, that thought kinda knoks me into touch, but its still abit daunting

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ArthurPewty · 29/07/2010 22:16

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southeastastra · 29/07/2010 22:16

really really bad

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beckie90 · 29/07/2010 22:50

oh noo. im scared now lol.
i think the main thing i feel botherd about it is because im scared my partner would go off me.
leoniedelt does it bother you at all or do you just get use to it.

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ArthurPewty · 30/07/2010 08:05

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Ineedsomesleep · 30/07/2010 08:12

After the second it is a bit more loose, you're right.

Its not too bad though and I bf both of mine so the weight just dropped off.

olivo · 30/07/2010 08:14

sorry to say, but nearly a year after my second and I have still got a big, saggy tummy. BUT.... I have had 2 c-sections and I had polyhydramnios the second time ( excees fluid) so i was measuring many weeks beyond what i actually was. i also found that I have had no time to exercise properly after DD2, they both take up so much time. However, this is a small price to pay for my gorgeous DDs. tummy tucking pants are the way forward

CakeandRoses · 30/07/2010 08:31

Tummy went back to normal after a couple of months after ds1, no stretch marks or wobbly bits.

Literally just had DD and so far it's not looking too bad. I was bigger this time and got a few stretch marks low down but only about the size of half a playing card. I'm hopeful my tummy will soon be back to almost normal.

Slathered my tummy in Lush's Dream Cream both times which may or may not have helped on the stretch mark front.

C-secs with both, btw. V neat scar from no1 and no overhang, really hoping this time will be the same.

No man who loves you will go off you because of what you tummy looks like! Seriously, would you go off your DH if his body was changed in some way by producing a gorgeous DC for you?

IWillNotNeverEatATomato · 30/07/2010 08:43

my tummy is AWFUL
after DS1 I had huge stretchmarks and a bit of an overhang but nothing which got me too depressed.

but with DS2 it has got worse, more stretchmarks (even though I thought the ones I had first time round might have coped)
and the over hang is now a huge sparetyre as I put on more weight with my second pregnancy compared to my first. This hasn't been helped by not having time or money to join a gym, and I tried going running but had painful problems with my ligaments so have been told to not do anything for three months

So 9mths after giving birth I still look 6mths pregnant!

Although DP says it doesn't matter he still loves me whatever I look like, the problem I have is I HATE the way my body looks and can't bear him to see it. I have become one of those women who can't bear to look at themselves in the mirror.

I am definitely thinking about surgery

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CakeandRoses · 30/07/2010 10:33

for Iwillnevereat and leonie. I think wanting to have surgery to make you feel better is understandable. A friend had a tummy tuck for the loose skin and stretch marks years after her DS was born and wishes she'd done it ages ago - leave a big scar too but most of the stretch marks have gone and her tummy is flat.

leonie - was there a reason they used a diff scar for no 2? I thought they always try to use the old one.

Just thought of something else, I did no exercise after DS other than lots of walking round town often with him in a sling but the baby weight seemed to take care of itself. I bf him tho so maybe that helped.

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beckie90 · 30/07/2010 10:51

oh dear, sorry to hear that.
ayy dear.
and cakesandroses i know i think im just paranoid, ive asked him if he would and hes sez he loves me for me not my belly. and hes put weight on while we have been together and that doesnt change how i feel about him.
im hoping if i do get pregnant to breastfeed as thats what i wanted to do last time but i was too ill and was on lots of antibiotics, so i couldnt, was really gutterd though.
thats what im gonna do, get lots of excercise and eat very healthy, because last time i ate anything and everything, i put unessacery weight on

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minxofmancunia · 30/07/2010 11:14

Pre dcs I was size 8 totally flat tummy 32d boobs, long legs, small bum, long slim legs i had "the body" and didn't have to do anything to maintain it.

I'm afraid having 2 dcs has trashed my tummy, sorry to break it to you and I've found it really really hard to accept the way it looks as I feel like a blob. The rest of me is still small but I've got this horrible sticky out pad of fat on my tummy which I absolutely hate. I'm a size 10 now which is fine I just hate the dreaded belly. I've got rid of most of my pre pg tops as they were stretchy lycra and I can't stand seeing the bulge, it makes me want to cry.

My second ds is 10m (i went back fine after dd, ds was a lot bigger so more skin stretch although I'm lucky to have never had any stretch marks) and I've been seeing a personal trainer for 10 weeks which has really helped. The gym I'm at has a creche so i go 3x a weeks to do cardio and weights and also do pilates and yoga once a week. it's hard work but worth it as I'm now toned, muscular and have lost 2" from my belly although the bulge is still there. Legs v shapely again and bum more pert, also gone down from 32F post pg cup size to far more accpetable (for me) 32dd. The tummys proving v difficult to shift, something aboutthe way my body metabolises fat means I lose weight rapidly from everywhere else but stubbornly clings on to tummy fat. If anyone has any tips on how to combat this they'd be gratefully received!

I'm going to carry on personal training for another month or so and make some diet adjustments. Hopefully that might shift it once and for all!

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beckie90 · 30/07/2010 11:26

i got that 10minute solution abs and fat blast dvd, it was 5 pound and its really good, its hard though lol.
yea after my lil boy (1st) ive gone back to normal i weigh 8 stone my belly the same size as before, but sometimes i can just tell my skins not quite the same but other people are like its in your head your tummy is fine. but i get self concious sometimes.
my little boy was born 6 11 at 12 days late, but my belly was really tiny i only looked like 5 months pregnant, so i can imagine next time my belly will go huge and i'll stretch more, which the thought of absaloutly terrifies me

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