is anyone else feeling a bit pathetic?

[MadameCheese]

I'm 30 weeks and struggling. I can only think it must be the weather, I'm sure I felt brilliant at this stage with DS who was an April baby. I find that if I do anything remotely strenuous in the morning I'm shattered after lunch and have to have a lie down whilst DS is kipping (thank goodness he still does). Please tell me I'm not the only one, I'm not even working

[SummerDaisy]

I am so glad I'm not the only one feeling this way - thanks Ladies it helps to know you're not alone, eh

I have been signed off work with SPD since 26 weeks, I am now 32 weeks, feeling really knackered, fed up and today just couldn't stop crying (let those hormones / tears out - felt better afterwards, had a nap too!!). Haven't even got any other little ones to chase round after, so that's not the problem. Very hard to sleep at night in this hot weather and 9 million trips to the loo. Am worried that am stacking on the weight too just sitting around...
Sorry to moan on I just didn't think the sleepless nights started yet...!

[Ryuk]

Thought I'd come commiserate with everyone.

I spent all morning wandering around crying, feeling guilty for not running errands but not feeling up to leaving the house because I was too tired and looked like a mess from all the crying... eventually had a bath and a nap, then played some computer games.

Am only 12 weeks so am very much hoping it'll get better soon, people keep telling me it will but then I hear about it not always getting better at 12 weeks, but not many people seem to believe this is possible. (I'm worried if I still feel like crap after the next few days, nobody'll believe me. )

[Ronaldinhio]

I'm 38 weeks and tired now
This week I've had a tooth and mole removed
but the bump remains...

[VoilaAnotherGimlet]

Thank you for this thread, it's my first pregnancy and I've had mostly an easy one, and now I am permanently grumpy, hormonal and just want to cry with tiredness...but I feel pathetic for not handling it better. Was at a wedding yesterday, this morning am so tired yet there's a lovely post wedding bbq today. Dh was best man, we have to go, I just can't face more hours of standing or even sitting chatting, I want to lie on a sofa all day. Rubbish. Am 30weeks.

[porcamiseria]

YES

33 weeks, and my TODDLER IS NOT SLEEPING. and my house is dirty. I need to get blackout curtains, pay car tax, get stair gate and lots of boring admin and have nho energy

was crying the other day as am so stressed about leaving attila-the-toddler when i go into labour

and i am SWEATING at night like you would not beleive

I know I will love love this baby, but feel like whats to look forward to?
stress about leaving DS1
pain
recovery
no FUCKING SLEEP

[ronx]

32 weeks, and moving house.

I must be mad.

[MassiveBumperlicious]

Porcamiseria, I know that feeling, I have so much to do, and we have just moved house, so lots of unpacking, change of address etc. Have to try and keep up with the allotment, work 4 days a week and look after 3 year old DD, who is currently throwing a tantrum as I won't let her play on my iPhone. Plus she is refusing to potty train, so I am likely to end up with 2 in nappies.

I actually just want to curl up in bed and ignore the rest of the world. Not even really looking forward to finishing work as I will then be stuck in my tiny house (just moved from a lovely big flat, so am still pissed off about it) with DH and DD, and despite it being my maternity leave I will feel obliged to help DH and give him a break etc.

On the plus side I am finding a couple of co-codamol conducive for the best night's sleep I've had in 7 months.

[adanaivy]

39 weeks plus two only five days to go with a two year old and a one year old i think i may just be sterilized after this one or get OH to get the snip there is no way i am going to put my poor little body through this ever again how some people have seven or eight children i mean what are they thinking

[porcamiseria]

thesecond, well you win the prize for most pregnant!!!!

DS (2.5) has spent all day apologising and kissing me for his poor poor behaviour last night. hmm

as for all the people moving house!! OMG

feel better for reading this anyway, and might get some co-codamal

is anyone else having night sweat, even tho it's cooler I have to put towel on pillow, gross

[stickchildren3]

adding my woes to the list...just been 'city' shopping at 36 weeks with dd and ds to spend my dd birthday vouchers and buy a nursing bra. We're country bumpkins and the whole experience usually fills me with terror.

Thought I was being brave until I realised the sales were on and then realised I was INSANE. It was utter HELL! The people in Next refused to exchange some birthday clothes my daughter didn't want because of how busy they were in the sale. I was not amused! After I made a huge fuss with a 5 and 3 year old in tow and the stomach the size of a rhino it didn't take too long to get my own way!! RESULT!

So, only 4 weeks to go but now it's nearly the SUMMER HOLIDAYS and therefore NO SCHOOL or PLAYGROUP. OMG, what shit timing..... Good luck all. x

[Porcelain]

I'll join you miserable lot! 36 weeks and doing the SPD shuffle (I've started seeing a chiropractor though, so fingers crossed, if it doesn't help the SPD then maybe he can get rid of the trapped nerves in my back.)

I vote for ice cream, cake is all good, but it's ice cream weather!

[preghead]

ah bless you secondcoming! It's too hot for socks, don't worry

I remember being in a panic at about the same time with ds1 as I had no cardigans ....

[Romilly70]

Glad this is normal, I thought I was being pathetic feeling exhausted at 24weeks, and was wondering how the hell I am going to look after the baby as i struggle to get dressed by lunchtime even now!

the brain effort of just a few phone-calls and emails leave me ready for a lie-down.

Pregnant ladies still commuting and going to work, i salute you; i would have resigned by now....

does is get better once the baby arrives...?!!

[preghead]

on the work front the one positive I find is that you stop caring as much about all the politics and BS and can get on with important things like internet shopping for baby things ......

I think that actually yes it does get better once the baby comes - you feel tired for awhile longer obviously but not in such a physically drained way and, for me at least, the sensation of having your body back and being able to run and jump around pretty quickly after is fantastic! For me, all the horrible physical things like indigestion, SPD, constipation, aches and pains etc always (so far, tocuh wood) disappear very quickly after the birth and it is so nice to feel normal (relatively) again!

Also you have a gorgeous baby of course which helps!

[petisa]

Can I join and be hot and grumpy and teary too?

I'm 36 weeks and I was ranting to my best friend on the phone the other day telling her what was I thinking having a dc2, how will I cope, that I don't really want a baby, I don't even LIKE babies, all they do is poo and cry and keep you awake...(not true btw, I DO want this baby or course, this is what the hormones and last minute nerves have done to me!)

I'm so hot and grumpy all the time and I have horrible vulval varicose veins (sorry if tmi), I feel like one of those baboons with the big swollen red arses. Sweating all the time, HATE picking up all dd's bloody toys and books off the floor. I've had times when I've been so tired I've felt like I could just lie down on the floor and DIE. I often want to just burst into tears out of tiredness when I'm getting to the end of dd's bedtime routine.

And I feel so guilty about all of this moaning because I've had a healthy pregnancy, no "real" problems or complaints at all apart from swollen baboon bits. The worst thing for me has been the worrying about things, crying and feeling down about how I will cope. Sometimes I think I'll be too knackered to even work up any enthusiasm about the baby at all. I need a slap!

[MadameCheese]

DH helped with some housework today and I was soooo grateful. I'm still awake (why?) lilmiss ooo yes anaemia would explain your symptoms, get those blood tests and pronto . Stupid hot weather returning!!!

[porcamiseria]

i feel the same petisa

peopole say "are you excited"

err, NO!!!

I am sure I will be very find of the little mite once it has been ejected

ugh, and childbirth, NOT looking forward

[CakeandRoses]

Will I be evicted from the thread if I admit I'm 38weeks+ and actually feeling kind of ok?

I've been v lucky on the health front and I have huge sympathy for anyone with SPD, vulval varicose veins (proof that God is a man) etc and anyone moving house!!!

My survival strategy:

An enormous fan directed at me all night (only way to get sleep).

Keep going like a mad thing (e.g. was decorating DS1's room up until last week) as I actually feel miles worse if I stop and rest.

DH under strict orders to sort out all the final DIY jobs - so far he's passing muster.

DS1 (21 months) picking everything up from the floor for me.

[MadameCheese]

Get out!

[preghead]

Ha ha yes it is easier I think when you have a child or two already to pick thinks up for you!! I had to ask my 5 year old to pick up some pants for me the other day that I dropped while trying to put them on - hope I haven't scarred him!!

I have also put him in charge of "going to get the nappies and wipes" when the baby needs changing. At 5 he is keen to do this, but point blank refused to actually help change the nappies.

[wonderstuff]

Hi all, can I join in too. 40 weeks today - I just want this baby out, I miss me, I'm sure I have a vauge memory of being able to cope with the world fairly well when I wasn't preggers. I ache, I'm uncomfy, I want to be able to sleep on my tummy. I'm sooo tired. I hate, hate, hate being pregnant, I am absoultly never ever going to do it ever again. Having moments when I really don't know how I'm going to cope with dd who is 2.6 and a baby, wondering why on earth I put myself through this again. I know after dd I immediatly felt a million times better after the birth and really, really enjoyed the first few months - I so hope that we are all happier after this one finally arrives, v. high stress levels in my house atm.

[driedapricots]

ah ladies, i am so glad i'm not alone. reading your posts makes it all just a little bit better. so we've had a lovely 'family' weekend...tantrum after tantrum cos mummy has to do absolutely everything, rows about discipline, waking at 5.30am, barely talking to dh now as we're both physically and mentally drained from it..at least he can go to work tomorrow!! in the middle of it all we just looked at each other and saud 'why the hell are we having another one'... i feel so ungrateful as children are a blessing, but OMG they are sent to test us, especially stroppy, strong-willed 2.5 year old girls!!! i am not even worried about coping with new baby, it's the toddler that i'm stressing about; she wont let anyone else do anything for her. i'm booked in for c-sect and am seriously thinking of checking into hotel after hospital cos i'll not get a minute's rest if i come home.

[Hermya321]

Preghead I agree, things that I thought were super important before are now just lost in a sea of 'whatever'.