how long did it take for your dc to do poos in the potty?

[HeadFairy]

ds is brilliant with pees, he takes himself to the potty when we're at home and he's not wearing anything, remembers when he's wearing pants and trousers and we're out, but he steadfastly refuses to poo in the potty or the loo. He did it the first two days we were potty training, but now he refuses. He holds on for days until he's really uncomfortable and then he'll do it if he's wearing a pull up. I know he will eventually get it, but when did your dc get it. Poor ds is so constipated from holding on!

Could privacy be an issue ?

Like your DS my twins (2.9) will happily pee in a potty (providing they're naked, which these days is most of the time) but will not poo in one, whatever we do.

At the weekend one of them ran up to me and said she'd pooed, but all the potties were empty - so a game of hunt the poo followed. It turned out she'd used a wardrobe - I reckon she needed a bit of privacy; our solution has been to put a potty in the offending wardrobe but this hasn't been successful so far.

The other thing it time - they wee almost as soon as they realise they want to but they have to give a poo a moment and I'm not sure they have the patience. They can't sit on the potty and do a crossword after all.

My Daughter seems to have finally got pooing in the potty after 2 months. Been a long slog of poos in pants (2 a day aswell!) and the only thing that seems to have worked is saying that Mummy & Daddy are sad when she poos in her pants, but very very happy when she does it in the potty/toilet!

She now poos in her potty after shouting very loudly that she needs a poo (anywhere, she is not proud!) and then asks me how happy I am once she has done it.

Chocolate biscuits and promises to play outside seem to have played a part, but does seem to be praise that has really done the trick!

Fingers crossed it continues, we are on day 5 of clean pants..

Oh dear, I'm really worried now. DD's poop is always soft and sludge-y, I really don't know how I'm going to cope with the poo-ing in the pants when we start.

I think I'll be binning alot of knickers!

FickleFairy,
You do cheer me up!! Sat here pi**ing myself at your message, it wouldn't be so funny if I wasn't in exactly in the same boat!!

The crying bit is genius!! Don?t feel too guilty, we have been through a lot of poo?d pants!!! U do get desperate.

Seems to me that u have been doing everything possible not 2 cause any lasting psychological damage, so try not 2 worry (easier said than done, I know), be lying if I said it had not x?d my mind.

Know exactly what u mean about going out anywhere, it?s the first thing I think of. Always take half his wardrobe and 14 tesco bags for soils!!!!!

Hoping for great things tomorrow, my PIL have had him today, and what-do-u-know, he came strolling in from the Garden told his Gran a poo was coming sat on the potty and poo?d!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TYPICAL!!! Couldn?t believe it when I got home from work!! Hope he?s not just been winding me up for a month.
Bring it on!!

themothershipcalling,

Sounds like u r dreading starting!! Who knows it may b a breeze for you 2.

Primark do really cheap knickers that u could afford 2 throw!!
Good luck
XX

DS similar to above and I have really been hitting a wall about it over the last couple of days. DS (3.4) has been dry in the day for months, but will only poo in nappy. He did manage to go in the potty a couple of weeks back when he was so desperate he couldn't hold it in, and we made a huge fuss, and bought him a goal for the garden as promised. Thought that would the trick as he was very pleased with himself. Now, he's refusing to even sit on the potty and if he does, he just says it won't come out when he's sitting down. He'll sit there for ages with ds and books but he's not making the effort to push it out. For the last couple of days he says he needs a poo and then, when I take him into the bathroom, he says he doesn't need to anymore and is refusing to even sit down. It feels like we've gone backwards. Bribery and Pooland story hasn't worked.
I really wanted to get it done before we go on holiday in 6 weeks, as the thought of taking nappies for days as well as nights is miserable, plus I hate stripping him off to put a nappy on in the park/by the pool/on the beach etc. Also, due to start pre-school in Sept and worried that it needs to be sorted by then (although he manages to hold it in whilst at the childminder so.....)
I am just feeling like he is holding all the cards on this at the moment, and much as I know I should back off as I am probably making things worse, I just don't seem to be able to get any perspective. As someone says above, I am worried I am still going to be changing nappies when he is 6. Before he turned 3, we agreed he would start to go on the potty after his birthday, now he's saying he'll do it when he's 4.

You're not going to like my answer

DS1 started doing wees standing up at the loo at 2.7. Never bothered with the potty, just copied an older friend and baely had an accident after that. So far so good

Poos however were a different matter. Point blank refusal to go near the potty or loo. Hysterics ifI pushed it. Requested a nappy for every poo (so clearly knew when he needed to go). I tried treats, sticker charts, bribery etc etc but nohing worked.

After a while I was advised to withold the nappies to see what happened. What happened was that he would hold his poo for 3/4 days, be white as a sheet, be off his food and groan in pain lying in his bed while trying to prevent this rock hard monster poo coming out of his little bottom. Horrendous.

In the end I reverted to the nappies as I couldn't see him in pain.

One day he just walked out of the livig room and said "Just going for a poo on the loo Mummy" and that was that. I could not believe it. We have never looked back.

The down side to all this though is that when all this happened he was 3.10 so 15 months after he was initially trained.

We are probably an extreme case but honestly, it will happen when your DS is ready and if it takes forever then I really wouldn't worry, I promise you he will eventually get there!

Doesn't anyone put the potty in front of the telly? Works a dream. Worked in two days for my Mum when I was freaking out over a 2.4 yo who wouldn't, my firstborn. And he just did, just like that.

can people pls keep this thread updated? somehow encouraging to hear other ppl's stories...

about two weeks in to training dd2 (2y8m), does wees well, with occasional accidents. poos not going well. she withholds and then gets really upset when she can't hold it in anymore. then either has accident or if i can get there quick enough, does it in a nappy.

she says the poo hurts her bum, so i've been giving her orange juice and more fruit to see if it helps soften stools altho it never seems hard.

o dear so much poo talk!

We had this - we've had to abandon potty training entirely twice because DS absolutely would not poo on his potty. Then, in desperation, I followed a link on here and printed out the Poo goes home to Pooland book on saturday. I was hugely, hugely sceptical and thought there was no way it could possibly work (having tried several other books about poo that I'd spent good money on!), but blow me, it did! He asked to have it read to him three times on Saturday evening and then on Sunday morning he pooed on his potty! He's done every poo on his potty since, and loves waving it off as it's flushed away home to Pooland. I don't know how it works and I don't know why it works, but it really does, and best of all it's free to print out