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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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3.5 yr Boy, Day 3 of PT and NOTHING except pee everywhere

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 15:10

FFS, I want to scream - we're stuck inside and it's fucking miserable. Pee ansd shit everywhere - why the hell isn't he getting it?????????

DS1 was toilet trained at the same age and got it within 48 hours.

I have 2 weeks beore pre-school goes back then my window is closed until August

any tips? Do I just give up?

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compo · 07/04/2010 15:12

why are you stuck inside?
is the weather awful where you are?
I used to go out anyway
have you got potty training books, star charts, stickers and are ready to go crazy when he has his first success? oh yes and bribe with choclate buttons

fruitshootsandheaves · 07/04/2010 15:13

yes give up.
It is SO much easier to wait until they are ready and you will just get stressed and the hols will be ruined.

Marne · 07/04/2010 15:16

Having the same problem with dd2 although she does have SN's but i'm sure she could do it if she wanted too.

I leave her without a nappy, she holds it in for hours, if i put pants on her she pee's every few minutes , she's peeing everywhere.

Dd is 4.1 and i really want her toilet trained for september but i just can't see her doing it at the moment.

Good luck.

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 15:18

chocsy buttons as a bribe - not interested

can't go out as he pees everywhere and shits everywhere

He just seems so OLD. I deliberately left it late -this worked a dream with DS1.

Ah well, back to nappies tomorrow
Pre-school are not going to be impressed

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magnolia74 · 07/04/2010 15:19

Same with ds1 (3.5) He will go on the potty if he sits for ages but its just luck imo with him. He can sit on the potty for ages most times and then get up and wee everywhere 5 minutes later
I take his nappy off dry and he still won't go on the potty or toilet.
Have given up and will try in the summer hols hoping he gets it before starting nursery!!

SethStarkaddersMum · 07/04/2010 15:22

I was having the same problem with my ds1 - two weeks and no progress whatever.
Then I increased the bribe from a dolly mixture to a chocolate mini-egg and PING! In an instant he was potty trained.

I'm sure it makes me a terrible parent but it worked.

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 15:38

seth - chocolate bribery went down a dream for DS1

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SethStarkaddersMum · 07/04/2010 15:40

Is there anything he wants other than chocolate?
I suppose you already have the Thomas loo seat and Lightning McQueen pants

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 15:43

he LOVES his Thomas and Chuggington pants, LOVES the dinosaur potty, LOVES pretending to stand at the loo with his brother and wee at the same time.

This is the first time in my life I've felt like a bad parent. All the others in pre-school are toilet trained

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MrsKitty · 07/04/2010 15:53

highlander I might have written your exact post myself this time last week!

We are now on day 10, and most of the wee is now happening on the potty (poo more unreliable) but right up till day 5 we had only 1 wee on the potty, lots of washing and a stinking house. I asked him several times when he was having lots of 'accidents' if he wanted to go back to nappies which was greeted with "Nooooooooooooooooo noooo nappiiiiiiieeeeees!" so maybe it was the thought of going back that spurred him into trying?

It might be worth hanging in there for a couple more days?

DS is 3.2 by the way.

SethStarkaddersMum · 07/04/2010 16:03

you definitely need to hang on in for a bit longer, if you have only been doing it 3 days.
Bet it feels like 3 weeks though....

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 16:31

ooh, ladies, you've inspired me. OK, I'll give it until the weekend.

have a bike trip organised for F|riday though. Looks like the rucksack will be filled with spare clothes.

I feel like I've done something terribly wrong in a previous life

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 16:32

funny kitty, I've had exactly the same response when I told DS2 he was going back in nappies.

seth - you are sooooooooooo right.

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 16:38

and I've spent 50 GBP on amazon books in the last 2 days. I'll be bloody bankrupt if life goes on like this ....

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SethStarkaddersMum · 07/04/2010 17:43

I am dying to know what happens now. I'll be logging in all week going 'Has he done a wee in the potty yet? Has he? Has he?'

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 20:52

told me at 6:20pm tonight that he needed a poo. Sat him on potty - he did a micro wee (YAY!!)

went back down to dinner table, hosed all over floor.

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mckenzie · 07/04/2010 21:00

what about ditching the potty and letting him wee standing up, let him pretend to be Fireman Sam and put the fire out with his own hose (ie, his willy). Put things down the toilet and if he hits them with his wee he gets a treat ('things' being coloured paper, ping pong ball).

Although i would think that perhaps as it has got you so wound up (understandably, I'm not being critical here) perhaps it would be best to call it a day for now and try again at the weekend in a few weeks time.

We tried with DS when he was the same age as your DS is now and gave up after about 3 days (I might have kept going a bit longer but I'd left him with Dh for about 3 hours and came back to DS being in a nappy . We tried again about 5 weeks later and he cracked it immediately.

SethStarkaddersMum · 08/04/2010 11:13

any progress?

Dominique07 · 08/04/2010 14:02

I was about to post a similar message: DS nearly 3, poo everywhere! We are on day 6. He is getting on ok with weeing in the potty, slightly embarrasing when on the high street next to main road, but we've got that concept under our belts for now...
Its just the poo which he doesn't want to do in the potty!
Can you just try out and out bribery? Sweets, stickers!?!?

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Highlander · 08/04/2010 14:45

Day 4. 3pm.

I give up, he's not getting it. It's also not fair on DS1; holidays and we've been stuck inside all week. I cannot spend another minute being housebound and yet I cannot take DS2 out wehwen he's shittinfg everywhere.

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Highlander · 08/04/2010 15:23

I feel so depressed. I had the vibe from pre-school last term, 'why haven't YOU trained him?''

I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do,I've given him alll the cues, but he's not latching on.

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Marne · 08/04/2010 15:38

Don't worry about pre-school, if he's not ready then he's not ready.

bubblagirl · 08/04/2010 15:42

leave nothing on while at home from waist down i had potty in every room i showed him potty in every room we had a chart every time he tried to wee he got a sticker every time he weed he got to move his rocket on his chart 7 wees got a treat choc buttons or small toy if he had accident i sat him straight on potty and calmly said you must wee on potty

he soon got the drift of weeing on potty then added pants and then when he could do this added loose trousers or shorts i never asked him if he needed a wee as he would always so no i would just say sit on potty and o a wee every 30 mins or so and if out i would just take him into toilets no asking again just telling him to wee

they do get it eventually so dont stress yourself too much we had wee's tackled but only started pooing in toilet at nearly 5 but finally were all there now just remember after every accident sit him straight on a potty

when he did wee in potty we did the big wee wee dance and made huge deal of it he loved it and this spurred him on lol

bubblagirl · 08/04/2010 15:43

sit in the garden and relax more about it when his ready it will happen but patience is needed and alot of it lol

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Highlander · 08/04/2010 16:58

just had an email from a Swedish friend - she's aghast that I pushed it after day 3. Even more shocked that pre-school try ro force it

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