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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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3.5 yr Boy, Day 3 of PT and NOTHING except pee everywhere

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Highlander · 07/04/2010 15:10

FFS, I want to scream - we're stuck inside and it's fucking miserable. Pee ansd shit everywhere - why the hell isn't he getting it?????????

DS1 was toilet trained at the same age and got it within 48 hours.

I have 2 weeks beore pre-school goes back then my window is closed until August

any tips? Do I just give up?

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SethStarkaddersMum · 08/04/2010 18:39

well these things are very culturally specific aren't they?!
You can't ever win with potty training - there are people who think you should do it when they're 1 and people who think you should never force it. In reality you have to do it in the context of real life and if you have reached the end of your tether, yes, then wait and try again another time.

mckenzie · 08/04/2010 20:20

I agree with Seth - you can't ever win with potty training, damned if you do, damned if you don't sort of thing.

For example, I would disagree with babblagirl's suggestion of going in the garden with no pants on etc. When you do it that way, they cannot feel when they are wet so thoroughly, they dont get that whole sensation of wet pants/trousers etc which personally I think really helps. But then who's to say that my way is right and babblagirl's is wrong, or vice versa.

Good luck whatever you do.

rubadubadoo · 08/04/2010 20:34

I thought I was the only one having a nightmare. DS is 3.3 and the previous couple of attempts at potty training lasted only about 2 hours before I gave in as he would pee lots and lots on the potty and still manage to soak through 4 pairs of trousers in the space of 2 hours. I've been waiting for the hols and good weather to start again which I did on Tuesday. For the past few months at most nappy changes he declared he needed to pee and went and found the toilet and peed in it and when at other peoples houses he often said he needed to go and would go and pee. So I thought it would be easy...I started on Tuesday... fantastic only 1 minor accident when coming home from my sisters. Peed and pooed in the potty... sometimes prompted sometimes of his own accord. Went to bed thinking fantastic we've made it. Wrong. Yesterday 4 big accidents even though he was asked if he needed the toilet 30 secs beforehand. He got cross and said "no don't need the potty" so I decided not to push it and then as he finished saying that he peed everywhere. Same today - 4 accidents even a poo one. I actually got quite cross (and I know I shouldn't) but why isn't he getting it when he does at other times... is he being lazy? difficult? or am I being unreasonable? I'm going to carry on and hope that he gets it soon as we will both end up miserable. Should I be prompting and if so when do they learn to thimk for themselves to go?

Sexonlegs · 08/04/2010 21:33

Highlander, how is it going? Your post about hosing at the dining table made me lol. Dh thought I was laughing at HIGNFY.

I feel for you.

DD2 is 3 in 2 weeks and we are getting nowhere. She asks to sit on the toilet/potty but has not produced anything. She knows what the toilet is for as dd1 shows her. We put her in big girl pants last Friday, and within 10 minutes of being in Halfords she had weed twice, even though I asked her every few minutes if she needed a wee.

Choc buttons haven't worked either; she just asks for them and doesn't get that they are a reward ( I don't give them to her to make a point)

I am at a loss. Dd1 was 25 months and it took less than a week to be completely dry.

I tend to agree that they need to feel the wetness as opposed to being free to wee/poo in the garden.

bubblagirl · 09/04/2010 10:06

no ones saying the way i did it was right but i found pants made him wee more i guess he may have felt it was a nappy i just looked for the signs and quickly sat him on ,potty at regular intervals then when he learnt to know when he needed to wee we added pants then again when he mastered pulling down pants we added another layer all children are different and all we can do is say what we did and hope it may help someone else

but i no way saying my way is right or someone elses is wrong children all learn differently my ds learnt very quick this way but he was probably near on ready anyway but did find clothes made him wee himself more until he learnt to control his wee

pull ups were still used for journeys and took him in every toilet we came to

mckenzie · 09/04/2010 12:15

sorry bubblagirl, I hope I didn't upset you, I was just trying to show how its such a confusing 'what the hell should we do' thing to do, this toilet training lark. I was suggesting you thought you were right or i was right or anyone was right. Sorry if it came across like that. We all just try our own way don't we and rightly so.
This is when i hate the fact that i am typing this and you can't hear the sincerity in my voice (new icon??).
mixed together maybe????

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Highlander · 09/04/2010 14:26

woke up to a lovely warm day. Biked to the park and had a fun morning.

Life's just too short to be stuck indorrs for days on end.

When they get it, they get it with 48 hours (as did DS1).

I'll try again in a month.

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partyparty2 · 14/04/2010 19:25

If it makes you fee better my son is 4 in May and we are still struggling. we have days where it works and other days are a nightmare. We have yet to have a poo in the toilet but at least he does wee. I really wanted it settled by the end of the Easter Hols but at least school is not concerned.

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