Potty training 3 year old girl. How to send into nursery tomorrow?

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Started training 36 month old DD yesterday, she’s actually done very well and only had 3 wee accidents and one poo accident yesterday.
I was so worried she’d be difficult to train like my DS was a few years back but she’s surprised us so far!
Anyway, she started a new nursery last week (having been at another one since she was 1), and she’s settled in well, so I felt like it was a good time to get her potty trained but wondering what the nursery will think and how we send her in. Shall I just send in with pants on and say there you go! Or send in a nappy and explain that we want to potty train.
Am I over thinking this?

Send her in in pants. My eldest is 4 and not reliable (actually has a referral for incontinence) nor dry overnight. My 3 year old potty trained at 28 months in a couple of days. And was out of nappies overnight in a week. They’re all different. I dreaded potty training my youngest but it was incredibly simple.

I would send her in pants but pack nappies and just explain! I think if she has a nappy on for nursery it might send mixed messages! Obviously pack loads of space underwear, bottoms and socks!

Good luck 🌺

Send lots of pants and spare clothes, but it might have been good to give nursery the heads up before you started! They’re good at this; it’s what they do. Her key person might want a little chat about how it’s been going at home.

Oh and maybe pack a spare pair of shoes.

Nurseries would much rather get involved in potty training than have a child in nappies.

Brilliant, thanks all!

one day isn’t potty training her so what you’re asking is for nursery to pick up the early, and moss intensive days of potty training. This really should have been a 2 way discussion to ensure they had the capacity for properly give her the attention she will need.

Personally I'd send her in a pull-up and talk to nursery about making sure she knows how to use the toilet and encouraging her to go at regular intervals. Then if she has any accidents, it won't be a big deal and dent her confidence. Given she's only been there a week, hasn't had time to form a close bond with the nursery staff there and has just gone through a big transition, I don't think it's fair to her to add possibly having lots of accidents in a busy and unfamiliar place to the list of what she has to cope with at the moment. I'd wait a few weeks until she's settled and used to everything before ditching pull-ups completely.

This is an excellent point, actually.

she probably hasn’t had time to make bonds and find trusted adults yet.

If you tell nursery your potty training they will also help potty train her. Just send in lots of spare clothes for her if shes still new to potty training - lots of children learn to use the potty at nursery as they copy other children

Honestly, I’d stop for a bit. Making her do something difficult in a brand new nursery isn’t fair on her, or the staff.

Do you have any time off over the summer? I’d do it then.

3 weeks and one poo accident is actually quite a lot of a three year old….

Okay good points here, I think we’ll send her in in a pull up and talk to them first. I’ll ask how they usually like the parents to do it and what they think is the most successful way to go. I feel like I’ve at least got the hardest bit out of the way first at home, and it’s already feeling less daunting.
what I will mention though is DD is very small. She was born small. She’s by no means behind mentally, just a very small frame and shorter than average; she wears 18-24 month clothes and even they are too big round the waist. I don’t know if anyone has experience of a particularly small child potty training?

The toilets will be small in a nursery don’t forget. And there will be steps and smaller seats

Personally I wouldn't send her in a pull up as it is a confusing message - its okay not to use the toilet at nursery. Ive worked in early years and consistency is key. Most children get the hang of potty training in 3 days if you are consistent an dont provide alternative options. They will then will obviously have the odd accident going forward but have got the concept and the willingness to try to use a potty or toilet. Children often have accidents at nursery and I think now you've started stick with it. I dont think they will knock her confidence but will instead provide lots of opportunities for staff to praise her when she gets it right. Pull ups are not that helpful if your goal is to learn the skill quickly.

Also size wont be an issue. Many children in nursery are trained around the time they turn 2 and so, as someone else has said, the toilets are tiny and they will have a potty option as well.

One day is not really fair. Definitely right to give them the heads up. We actually sent our dd potty in from home. It looked like a mini toilet, but it worked really well, even if I did look silly in the morning queue every day! Familiarity with what we did at home etc.

Pull up nappy until she's fully trained.

That literally makes no sense, how on earth do you expect to potty train a child who is still wearing a nappy all day?

She won’t get fully trained if she wears pull ups .

Sorry but I personally don't think you've timed this well with starting a new nursery on day 2 of training. I would postpone until she's settled or she has a few days at home.

That's very late in age to be potty training. Didn't she show any signs of wanting to go to the toilet , feeling being dirty or wet before now?
On average girls are easier and do come out of nappies alot earlier than boys.
Have you not attempted to do this before?
My daughter was dry at 2years old. I could have done it earlier but couldn't be bothered. She hated feeling wet and dirty.
You will have a difficult job now you've left it so late

My lil one started preschool last September at 3(almost 4). We asked her teachers advice, and sent her in pullups with change of clothes n shoes. A few accidents, then we transitioned to knickers after christmas. A few more minor accidents but she got there. She's fully potty trained for about 2 months now during day, and dry overnight 90% of the time. They really dont mind as long as youre all trying and on the same page. They just dont want the reception class starting still not toilet trained

This all feels a bit backwards. It’s really odd to start potty training at the same time as starting a new childcare setting, they won’t know her well enough to spot her signs or her them well enough to be totally comfortable asking for help.

Also most people speak to their childcare setting before starting not after, to get their advice and ask how they want to go about it.

When I trained both of mine, I took a week or two off work and did the hard stint myself before sending them back to childcare.

What about asking DD? When my DS1 decided to potty train I asked him what he wanted the first few times. The first day he said he wanted to wear a nappy when we went out and the next day he asked for pants. Then a few days later asked to wear pants at night. He was 2 years 9 months and got it pretty quickly but a few small accidents.

DS2 point blank refused to potty train until the day he turned 3 then he was dry day and night straight away. Stubborn boy!

DS1 was tiny and in 18-24 month clothes, had to find 12-18 month pants so they didn’t fall down. He didn’t feel very uncomfortable on a toilet even with a toddler seat on top (thought he’d fall in) so he would only use potties for quite a while. We just carried a portable potty for ages if we were going out.

They're really helpful at the invetween stage as the design is pants, not a usual nappy.