We’re on day 6 of potty training and it’s DS first day back at preschool. He’s 2yrs 5months. We’ve been off and had 5 days at home so took the time to start potty training. He’s been showing signs for a while. Beforehand, I told preschool that we were going to potty train asked was there a certain way they do things or things he has to learn before coming back to nursery, and they said no they will follow our lead and just to bring loads of changes of clothes.
We called them last Friday because we’d introduced pants after 2.5 very successful days with nothing on, where he’d used the potty consistently with only 2 accidents. Introducing pants meant he went completely back over and started just treating them like a nappy. I asked if they were ok with him still coming in while he was having all these accidents - they said yes - and I again checked if we needed to do anything specific. No.
Then today we took him in for his first day back. I told them that he’s done very well, has done so much better in the last couple of days since he started with pants, and didn't even have one single accident yesterday, and we even took him out the house for a few hours. I told them that he knows when he needs to go but he can’t hold it very well, so he may start to go in his pants a little on the way to the toilet. I asked them to make it clear to him which staff member(s) he had to tell when he needed a wee, make sure he knows where the toilets are (sometimes he will just take himself if he’s really desperate) and remind him/ask him if he needs to go regularly as well because no doubt he’ll get distracted playing with his friends and not realise.
DH picked him up tonight and he hasn’t had a single wee in the toilet, he’s wet through 6 pairs of trousers and 7 pants. I expected some accidents but not this. They then said they won’t take his pants down for him and that’s the problem as he can’t do that himself - so he’s basically stood by the toilet peeing himself with them watching! I’m furious. Of course he can’t take his own pants down. He’s 2 and is barely a week into potty training! Of course we’ll work on that but it absolutely should not be a barrier to him using the toilet. The better he gets at holding it will give him more time to work on getting them down.
I spoke to them before we started training about anything we needed to know from their end, and they said nothing and that they’d do what we do. Well, we help him take his pants down. They won’t.
It would have been useful to know that bit of info. Is this usual nursery behaviour? Are they not allowed to help him with his pants? Until 2 weeks ago they were changing his nappy and they of course changed him out his wet clothes today, so I’m not sure how that makes sense!