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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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If day 1 is a disaster do you keep trying?

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:50

Day 1 potty training DD who is almost 2y 10m. Four accidents and one half successful wee. Exhausting 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Do we keep trying and face another few days couped up inside or write it off for a month?

Really do need it sorted as she's moving to preschool after Christmas and I'm expecting DC2.

Is this normal for day 1?

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UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 08/10/2022 19:51

Totally normal!

Queenmargery · 08/10/2022 19:51

Yes. It's potty 'training'. There's a learning curve.

SummerHouse · 08/10/2022 19:53

I would give it a week. I think they have to have the accidents to learn so could you think if each accident as one step closer... 😁

ladywithnomanors · 08/10/2022 19:54

Persevere.

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:55

Thanks all and that's a good way to look at it @SummerHouse

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sarahc336 · 08/10/2022 19:55

If they're happy and trying then you keep going, but if they're upset, stressed or just not interested then you might need to give it a rest and come back to it. All children are different and ready at different times. But even if they are ready accidents are normal and it's the accidents that actually make them realise they no longer have a nappy on and then they learn to hold the wee rather than just doing it whenever the urge takes them. So yes you've had a normal first day if they're happy to continue. Good luck xx

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:55

I've taken Monday off work but she has nursery again on Tuesday and I can't take more time off. Will see where we are by end of Monday...

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:57

Hi @sarahc336 thank you, I think she's happy still - she definitely is happy without nappies on as she's told me the nappies are for the new baby and she doesn't want them. She gets upset when she realises she's setting herself

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Twentynone21 · 08/10/2022 19:57

Mine are both adults, however, from memory they were both late to be potty trained during the day. I tried too early with my eldest and just stressed us both out for no reason. My youngest wasn’t fully toilet trained during the day until he was 3 and a half. He went to day nursery, all of his peers were toilet trained, he didn’t care and it happened when he was ready. I picked him up one day and his room leader said that he’d asked to go to the toilet and they had danced together when he finished! There is so much pressure to overcome these milestones but it happens when they are ready and there is no point stressing about it. Be happy and good luck!

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:57

Wetting!

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:59

Wise words @Twentynone21 - unfortunately the preschool she is meant to be moving to doesn't take kids who aren't potty trained so time is against us although a few months yet

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Runnerduck34 · 08/10/2022 20:00

It's going to take more than a couple of days.
There will be lots of accidents, will nursery support potty training?
Keep trying as long as DC is willing to sit on potty or toilet and celebrate successes. At 2 years 10 months they are most likely ready.

PeppaPigStinks · 08/10/2022 20:01

Choc buttons worked for my youngest as a reward worked for my youngest 😁

sarahc336 · 08/10/2022 20:08

@WonderWoop all sounds normal and positive just keep going she'll get the hang of it, literally take the potty everywhere because often when the start to want to use it the time frame between telling you they need it and the wee coming out is very short 😂😂 x

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 20:13

@Runnerduck34 yea nursery will support but I wouldn't feel comfortable sending her in unless we had some success first. Worst case I'll revert to nappies on Tuesday but ideally not!

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 20:13

Haha @PeppaPigStinks tried smarties today might need to up them

@sarahc336 thanks for the tips and support!

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FlounderingFruitcake · 08/10/2022 20:15

If she’s realising she’s wetting herself then that’s the first stage of the learning process. In a nappy she was blissfully unaware. So that is huge progress! Absolutely persevere. I’ve trained one at 2 and a half, and another at 19 months and they both needed 3 days to be kind of getting it and a week to get to their first accident free day. For that time outings were really minimal i.e. they managed a pee and we’d hot foot it out to the nearest playground for max 30 minutes. But worth it to see them succeed and ditch the nappies!

YesItIsI · 08/10/2022 20:17

Are you doing the no pants phase 1, clothes but staying in phase 2 and short excursions phase 3 method? I think that's the oh crap 3 day method isn't it?

We sort of followed this but stayed in for 3 days mostly naked. I found chocolate buttons became a problem as he would only go when I said he could have one after and so if I missed a cue or didn't prompt him quick enough he'd just wet himself as he wasn't paying attention to his own signals. Something to bear in mind.

Saturdaydreamingway2355555 · 08/10/2022 20:17

We started DD on the Saturday (she was just 3) , 5 accidents nothing on potty, Sunday 3 accidents, two wees on the potty ( I bribed her with a new toy if she went wee on potty) 🤣 she’s nursey full time so we we sent her on the Monday with 6 changes of clothes and pants, she had maybe 2/3 accidents… within a week or so she’d cracked it, no accidents. The majority of it was nursey and they were fab and just kept going with her.

SatinHeart · 08/10/2022 20:19

WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 19:59

Wise words @Twentynone21 - unfortunately the preschool she is meant to be moving to doesn't take kids who aren't potty trained so time is against us although a few months yet

Is that even legal?

Princesspeony · 08/10/2022 20:22

Totally normal. She’s spent her entire life peeing/ pooing wherever she was without having to stop what she was doing or go anywhere so it’s a massive change for her and it’s a bit much to expect her to have it sussed after one day.
Disposable nappies are so good nowadays that often it can take children a few days to connect the feeling of needing to go with actually going as up until now she would have been dry even after peeing.

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 20:27

@FlounderingFruitcake that's really reassuring thank you!

@SatinHeart no idea I had just taken it at face value!

@YesItIsI have read the ohcrap method but to be honest hadn't yet thought past this initial stage!! We went naked today although I have training pants somewhere I could introduce but she seems happy with nothing on.

She's a smart little thing in some ways so when the smarties were introduced she just sat on the potty a few times and demanded a smarter for trying! 😂

@Saturdaydreamingway2355555 that's my dream! To get her far enough along to hand over to them on Tuesday. Most of her group are potty trained so she sees them all using it which should help

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 20:28

Thanks @Princesspeony and makes sense. Wasn't sure if a complete lack of success on day 1 meant we should pause for a few weeks but based on everyone's responses I'm just going to keep going.

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Goldfishjones · 08/10/2022 20:30

Day one is ALWAYS a disaster. Give it a week!

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WonderWoop · 08/10/2022 20:31

@Goldfishjones

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