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Child potty trained but will only go on one loo

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Prettyhorrified · 02/01/2022 16:01

Open to all advice as it’s been a year. My son is 3 and very bright - he potty trained a year ago within 2 days. No accidents and no problems; just wanted to do it and asked and that was it. After a couple of weeks we removed the potties snd transitioned to the loo with the small seat insert and step. We have 4 toilets in our house. He will only use my pink one, upstairs. That’s it. If we go out he holds it all day. If he goes to nursery he holds it all morning. There is nothing in a year that will convince him to use another loo than mine. He obviously won’t put a nappy on so when we have gone on holiday he either holds it until he poos himself or just poos/wees when he gets into the bath. I really, really don’t know what we are supposed to do about this. I’ve tried telling him my loo was broken. He caved eventually and used another one in the house. Once. Then he had an absolute meltdown and refused to go again and was screaming/holding it all day and was clearly in discomfort so I had to give in and let him back on my one.

Will he just grow out of it?! His reason is just that he likes my bathroom and that’s it! But I feel so sorry for him holding it in all day and it’s really stressful when we go on holiday! I’m also dreading him starting school next September as he surely can’t hold it every day all day.

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Prettyhorrified · 03/01/2022 07:42

@Heartofglass12345

He doesn’t like hand dryers and that’s it; but we don’t have any hand dryers at home in the other toilets of course. He just only wants to use my loo because it’s painted pink and he likes it. That’s all he has to say on the matter; and he could say more if he wanted to (he is very advanced re speech etc so could definitely communicate; he says he wants to paint all the bathrooms pink as it’s his favourite colour). The reason I don’t think it is too sensory related is just because it also includes 3 bathrooms at home he doesn’t want to use; and they are all identical pretty much, bar the wall colour!

I might try putting pink pictures up in the bathrooms at home….

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Mumdiva99 · 03/01/2022 07:59

This is a really weird suggestion. But could you get some pink lensed sun glasses that he can try wearing in another bathroom. They shouldn't expensive as available as fashion glasses. Then he can wear his 'magic glasses' to make another bathroom pink.

As for hand dryers in public loos - this is very common and I would say try taking him in with you to the disabled loo. Nor for him to go....just so he can see you go with no noise happening.

Finally I would get some pull up nappy pants....he needs to be told if he won't use a toilet somewhere else then he needs to wear them after a certain time....jist because you don't want an accident in the car on the way home. I don't mean to make it like a punishment but just matter of fact. (My kids wore them on long car journeys after being potty trained for a while - not because of them but I was worried about being stuck on M25 in traffic and unable to move to get them to a loo in time. Didn't last forever and they went with it.)

Prettyhorrified · 03/01/2022 09:23

We always used pull ups as he was a very early roller snd crawler but since being potty trained he absolutely refuses to wear them except for at night! Day time would be a no no

Pink glasses worth a try, thank you!

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Heartofglass12345 · 03/01/2022 10:51

You are going to have to have all pink bathrooms Grin sorry I know that's not helpful, hopefully some of the suggestions will help

Prettyhorrified · 03/01/2022 13:36

@Heartofglass12345

Ha! He is most insistent we paint the hotel bathroom pink 😆

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Prettyhorrified · 03/01/2022 13:36

This all feels like an unsolvable riddle

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Heartofglass12345 · 03/01/2022 16:29

That's kids for you though isn't it, it would be much easier if they came with a personalised manual when they were born, including how to manage during the later years as well Grin

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