Average age to be potty trained??

[wickedthemusical]

Just wondering what the average age for a child to be potty trained is? My DH has a DS who is 4 and still in nappies, I am pregnant and don't want my DC to still be in nappies when they start school, or is this a normal thing? Not being negative in any way to my DHs DS they have an agreement that works for them but wouldn't be what I would choose so just need some advice.

@Hercisback

2.5-3 to for the day ime. Sometimes boys are a bit later.

Your dps arrangement sounds interesting. Barring SEN I'd wonder why no one has actively tried to potty train him.

DH and his ExW both believe in the 'there is no rule book to parenting' so I don't like to get involved. Me on the other hand has a Montessori book and think peoples advice is the best thing as people speak from experience! I have told DH our joint DC will have a very Montessori based environment and I will not be taking the same approach as DH and his ExW.

Four is late when there is no medical reason. One of mine took until 4 and a hell of a lot of bribing as there was a medical reason and doctor involvement. The other was about to turn 3 and just decided one day that they weren't wearing nappies any more.

Remember that youe DC won't have read the book, so go with whatever works and they are all different.

All mine were 2.5 both sexes.

But one was later at nights maybe four as he had medical problems.

All dry day and night by school age though.

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Mine are 3 3/4 and are still in nappies. They’ll both use the toilet when they think of it but still frequently go in their nappies. I’m thinking the upcoming Christmas holiday might be a good time to try (again!) to crack it.

@Yourheartwillleadyouhome

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Mine was 3.5 when reliably dry during the day. Still in nappies at night until age 6.

A lot of people say their toddler was potty trained at 12/18 months 🙄. However that usually means cleaning piss up all day!

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DD1 was 2y7m in the day, 4y at night.
DD2 was 2y2m day and night.
DD3 was 2y2m day and 4y3m at night
DS1 was 2y7m day and night.

I think being not only out of nappies but also fairly reliable (ie accidents pretty rare) by 3 in the daytime is the norm even for pretty laidback parents. Nighttime can vary so much but only qualifies for assessment or input from NHS at age 7+. Obviously SEN / autism / issues with fine or gross motor skills etc can affect it too.

One was 2.5 (during day) and the other was just 2 (this was early and not my choice, they just started refusing to wear a nappy, and I have to say, despite the earlier start, the whole process took longer than the older child).

I'd say it was a good year after that before they were consistently dry at night.

Both of mine ware girls and I don't know how much truth there is in this but anecdotally I think boys are typically later starters when it comes to potty training.

I honestly wouldn't worry about pursuing it until they are showing signs but I do think it's good to get them potty trained before school (unless there are issues beyond your control) because you want them going in feeling confident and without the embarrassment of frequent accidents.

I'm glad I'm not alone, I have a 3.5 yo still in nappies fulltime and showing no interest in the potty.

I've recently switched from disposables to cloth to save money and see if it makes any difference. What nappies are other mums using on an older child?

My Ds was earlier than dd I think 2.5 v 3 but dd was dry at night at the same time which is a bit earlier

Is there any evidence that cloth nappies speed up training, they dont seem to be making much difference to us.

In the day ....

Ds1 was 3
Ds2 was 3
Dd was just turned 2
Ds3 was nearly 3

At night

Ds1 was 7
Ds2 was 6
Dd was 2
Ds3 was 3

Our current 2 year old is no where near ready so i'm not even considering it yet

Lockward - I think children were generally potty trained earlier when the only option was the old fashioned cloth nappies that had to be washed - often without a washing machine. Parents simply had more of an incentive to get it done earlier because of the labour involved.

Both mine were 2 and a half. DS took longer than Dd who was done in a weekend. Dry at night by 4.

www.eric.org.uk/blog/why-are-children-potty-training-later

Good summary here

DS1 was 2y 4mths
DS2 was 2y 9mths
Both were out of night nappies after being relaliby dry for a few weeks. And trained over a long weekend.

I really would suggest to your partner that he and the childs mum need to work together on it, but at 4 i think id skip the potty.

Pretty much everyone i know their kids were trained between 2 and 3. Average probably 2.5, slightly earlier for girls and slightly later for boys. I would certainly be concerned by a school aged child in nappies, don't the teachers have enough to deal with already?

Started potty training after DD 3rd birthday, she mastered it within a week, used sticker chart as reward. She still has nappies for bed and reckon she will for a good while yet

When my dc were little, then usually between 2 and 2y6m
Now it seems to be a bit later for quite a few, but still between 2y6m and 3.

If doesn't have SEND, then should always be trained before 4.

Mine were all done by around 2y 8m (later at night). 4y seems very late to me.

@A580Hojas

Lockward - I think children were generally potty trained earlier when the only option was the old fashioned cloth nappies that had to be washed - often without a washing machine. Parents simply had more of an incentive to get it done earlier because of the labour involved.

I think it’s because disposable nappies are so good now that they stay more comfortable. My children are in their 30s and were clean and dry during the day within a week starting at 2. All my nieces and nephews and friends kids the same. They were in disposable nappies but they weren’t as efficient as they are now so they felt wet. My boys took a bit longer at night but my daughter woke up dry shouting I want a wee wee as soon as she was dry in the daytime.

My eldest is 3.5 and I've tried potty training multiple times to no avail. Feel like a complete failure. I'm hoping if he turns 4 no-one judges me and would prefer helpful advice. He refuses

I think 4 is very late. I would say that is bordering on neglect if they haven’t even attempted, obviously some children have Sen or medical conditions which make potty training harder.
Everyone I know potty trained between 2 and 3. My oldest two were both potty trained before 2.5 as that is when they started pre school and the expectation was that they would be potty trained before they started.