Boy is peeing every 30-45 mins

ncdoddy · 2021-04-03T17:57:50+00:00

Hi all Trying to potty train at present - two days in and we have had mixed results, but my main concern is that our boy is peeing every 30 mins on average, sometimes even more frequently. All the advice about potty training I read suggests it shouldn’t be that frequent. Does anyone have any thoughts on that? If you have any golden nuggets of advice for potty training while you’re at it then that would be greatly appreciated! :)

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MiniMaxi · 03/04/2021 19:12

UTI?

My son did similar recently and needed a course of antibiotics

GoWalkabout · 03/04/2021 19:14

My dd did this the first few days - I think it was the novelty of getting praise for going on the potty. If you don't think he needs to go just see if you can distract him for a few more minutes.

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ncdoddy · 03/04/2021 19:14

I did wonder but he doesn’t have any other symptoms. He has gone as long as an hour but it’s not common.

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ncdoddy · 03/04/2021 19:16

@GoWalkabout

My dd did this the first few days - I think it was the novelty of getting praise for going on the potty. If you don't think he needs to go just see if you can distract him for a few more minutes.

Thanks. I thought that was the case yesterday but today the novelty wore off - but he had accidents after 45 mins if he hadn’t been.

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Sunshine1235 · 03/04/2021 19:17

I think they’re all different on how much they pee, when he’s wearing a nappy you can’t see how often he’s going, he may just go in lots of little bits. The first couple of weeks are intense, don’t worry if you’re having lots of accidents, he’ll get better at holding it

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ncdoddy · 03/04/2021 19:20

@Sunshine1235

I think they’re all different on how much they pee, when he’s wearing a nappy you can’t see how often he’s going, he may just go in lots of little bits. The first couple of weeks are intense, don’t worry if you’re having lots of accidents, he’ll get better at holding it

Thank you - we were following the process from the Oh Crap book but it’s not working... there are no clear signs of when he needs a pee.

Sometimes he tells us and sometimes he doesn’t, and that’s about how far we’ve got... but it does seem strange that he can have an accident less than 45 mins after he last peed.

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TeddyBeans · 03/04/2021 19:25

When I started my boy potty training he'd go every 20 minutes because I set a timer and conditioned him to go when it beeped. Gradually increased the time up to 40 minutes so he got used to holding it and then he just started taking himself when he needed to.

They can't bladder train by themselves, you have to teach them to hold it longer. After 2 days 30-45 minutes is really good imo - keep going!

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ncdoddy · 03/04/2021 19:32

@TeddyBeans

When I started my boy potty training he'd go every 20 minutes because I set a timer and conditioned him to go when it beeped. Gradually increased the time up to 40 minutes so he got used to holding it and then he just started taking himself when he needed to.

They can't bladder train by themselves, you have to teach them to hold it longer. After 2 days 30-45 minutes is really good imo - keep going!

Thanks a lot, thats kind.

Would you recommend trying the regular interval method? May I ask how long it took you for that to get to a good point?

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TeddyBeans · 03/04/2021 21:47

It took about a week to get him to go regularly by himself and I didn't introduce pants until a good few weeks later. He's been potty training for 3 months now and has it down to an art. We're still working on him taking his pants down himself but he'll get there 😊

He's 3 in a couple of weeks if that makes a difference? I don't think you've mentioned how old your little one is? The amount he drinks will obviously affect how often he needs to go as well

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ncdoddy · 05/04/2021 19:50

Thanks for the help. Ours is coming up to 2 and a half.

We’ve been doing the regular intervals for two days now. Only one accident but no real sign of him recognising that he needs to go.

Sadly he now returns to childcare / nursery for three days, so not sure how well they will go but fingers crossed!

If you have any guidance for how to move from regular intervals to him understanding that he needs to decide himself that he needs to go, it would be well received!

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TeddyBeans · 05/04/2021 22:09

When my DS went to nursery they were fantastic and the other children needing to go to the toilet regularly encouraged DS to go too. His first day at nursery resulted in two small accidents which is a lot better than I was anticipating.

I didn't really do anything to encourage him to go himself, I guess it just sort of clicked that the feeling of needing a wee was the same feeling he'd get when the timer went off and he was able to transition himself

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ncdoddy · 05/04/2021 22:26

Thanks a lot, appreciate your input, it really helps.

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BalancingStick · 05/04/2021 22:41

I agree with pp. first few days with my DC felt awful, I really questioned whether they were ready and why I'd ever started it! They had lots of accidents but after 4/5 days it got much better. Something clicked.

TeddyBeans · 09/04/2021 08:37

How's it going @ncdoddy?

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ncdoddy · 09/04/2021 08:44

It's okay thank you, although I have no point of comparison!

Accidents are quite few and far between with the regular, timed approach, although there were a few at nursery because he didn't like the toilet, but he got over that quite quickly.

No real sign of him telling us he needs a pee though, so just continuing with the timed approach and hoping he will pick it up.

Seems that he can comfortably hold for an hour in the mornings but as the day wears on and he has more liquid, his timings are a bit sporadic, which is when accidents happen.

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TeddyBeans · 09/04/2021 08:54

That sounds about right, DS would have more accidents in the afternoon/evening when he started to get tired

DS would take himself off to the potty without saying anything to begin with and when I eventually put pants on him I had to badger him constantly with 'do you need a wee?' before he'd start saying he did

Sounds like he's making excellent progress!

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ncdoddy · 09/04/2021 09:05

Thanks a lot.

I'm a bit concerned about how we get to a point where he knows he needs to go and doesn't need prompting, but trying to be patient as I suppose it is early days.

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ncdoddy · 09/04/2021 20:41

Disappointing evening today.

After a day of childcare I got him home, took him to the toilet and he sat down, did nothing. 10 mins later he had an accident whilst sat on me downstairs.

Barely any indication he’d even done it.

A week has passed now and we seem to have made no progress from the first day.

Any advice would be welcomed.

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TeddyBeans · 10/04/2021 09:06

When DS went to his dad's for the first time a week after we started potty training, he came back in a nappy and made no effort to go to the potty, just wet himself where he stood. I just set the timer back to 20 minutes and started him off again. It only took him a day to get back to taking himself off to the potty.

Think the best thing you can do is keep going. You've started now and he knows what to do, I think you'll just confuse him if you put him back in a nappy full time. Maybe put a nappy on him from after dinner if he's having accidents because he's tired and slowly increase the time back up to bed time?

TeddyBeans · 10/04/2021 09:07

Should add that it might take your little one a bit longer because he's that much younger

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ncdoddy · 10/04/2021 09:35

Thanks.

I’m not so bothered about the accidents to use a nappy and agree it would be confusing - I think my despair is just that there’s no sign of him knowing when he needs to go.

As you say though, need to stick at it I think.

Thanks for replying, feels like a lonely experience at times!

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bishbashbosh99 · 10/04/2021 09:51

My boy did this, it's was SO weird but didn't last.

Kitkatchunkyplease · 10/04/2021 20:02

@ncdoddy

Disappointing evening today.

After a day of childcare I got him home, took him to the toilet and he sat down, did nothing. 10 mins later he had an accident whilst sat on me downstairs.

Barely any indication he’d even done it.

A week has passed now and we seem to have made no progress from the first day.

Any advice would be welcomed.

I am in the same position! 8 days and she goes when I tell her to but no hints at all that she would go if I didn't tell her. Or even that she would notice. Got nursery this week... I'm not sure what their policy is regarding pants vs nappies but I don't really want to stop now.

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ncdoddy · 10/04/2021 20:31

Sorry to hear that, how old is your child?

Our nursery take kids to the toilet on a regular basis. The first day went badly as our son didn’t feel comfortable using the toilet but as soon as he went once, he was fine.

We have an added challenge that our son has reduced his pooping and I think it’s hurting him more than usual, so he’s now refusing to poop!

Would be good to stay in touch on here and share stories - hopefully things will click soon.

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Kitkatchunkyplease · 10/04/2021 21:39

She is just over 2 and a half. I find it so hard with nursery at the moment to find a time to be able to talk to anyone and just doing drop off and saying 'she is in knickers, please tell her every hour!' seems a bit weird.
I just find myself thinking about it and googling it a lot. Am I doing it right, will this click for her (and when!!). It is ridiculous how not easy this is 😂