Boy is peeing every 30-45 mins

[ncdoddy]

Hi all

Trying to potty train at present - two days in and we have had mixed results, but my main concern is that our boy is peeing every 30 mins on average, sometimes even more frequently.

All the advice about potty training I read suggests it shouldn’t be that frequent.

Does anyone have any thoughts on that?

If you have any golden nuggets of advice for potty training while you’re at it then that would be greatly appreciated! :)

It sounds like he’s not ready. My son was like this. I tried 3 times and to start with he just didn’t get it. He’d sit on the potty and then get up and wet himself. It was so stressful. So many accidents. I tried 3rd time at3 year 4 months and he got it in a morning and that was that.

It sounds like your boy doesn’t have the bladder capacity yet if he is wetting every 30 minutes. They should be able to hold it a bit longer. Honestly, you’ve stuck it out a week. It’s not working. I would leave it a couple of months and try again. It shouldn’t be that difficult. I know, I’ve been there!

I agree to leaving it. I tried with my now 4yo every couple of months from when he turned 2 and everytime it got too stressful I'd just stop and go back to nappies. It finally clicked basically a year later, the week he turned 3. He was fully potty trained within 2 days and dry through the night on the third night. It was ridiculously easy given how much of a failure it had been up until that point. If they aren't ready, don't stress is my advice! Just try again in a month or two.

I feel exactly the same... there’s no manual for this is there!

Can you call nursery the day / week before to explain?

@Siennabear

It sounds like he’s not ready. My son was like this. I tried 3 times and to start with he just didn’t get it. He’d sit on the potty and then get up and wet himself. It was so stressful. So many accidents. I tried 3rd time at3 year 4 months and he got it in a morning and that was that.

It sounds like your boy doesn’t have the bladder capacity yet if he is wetting every 30 minutes. They should be able to hold it a bit longer. Honestly, you’ve stuck it out a week. It’s not working. I would leave it a couple of months and try again. It shouldn’t be that difficult. I know, I’ve been there!

Thanks but we’ve moved past the half hour now - our intervals are mostly an hour and very few accidents.

The difficulty we’re having is getting him to recognise when he needs to go rather than us telling him every hour.

That and the fact he seems scared to poo.

@ncdoddy your little one has made excellent progress with his wees! That's great news!

Holding his poop is a little more concerning, does he poop okay in a nappy when he has to wear one? (Nap time, bed time, etc) I bought a big pack of dairy milk buttons and gave him one every time he went to the potty, then cut it down to whenever he did a poo. The first few poos were accidental - they just came out whenever he was doing a wee - but he twigged that a poo was rewarded with chocolate and it became a good thing to poop in the potty.

Bribery may not be your thing which is fine but it worked for me and he stopped asking for a choccy button after about 6 weeks so now he doesn't get them at all but still poops happily on the potty

Ask him regularly if he needs a wee in between the timer going off, it may help him to recognise what he's feeling to help with the transition to taking himself to the potty for a wee

@TeddyBeans

Thanks a lot... I am concerned at the dependence on us with this approach but I suppose we just need to stick at it.

The pooing is a problem - he doesn’t go in his nappy, so he’s getting to the point of being really uncomfortable, so much so that he is crying, before he has no option but to go.

I really think it’s because he is feeling pain and not wanting to push through it.

We’ve tried everything we can think of, so rewards is our last hope. The buttons is a nice idea. We tried a rewards chart but not sure he understands it.

@TeddyBeans

Ask him regularly if he needs a wee in between the timer going off, it may help him to recognise what he's feeling to help with the transition to taking himself to the potty for a wee

Thanks, we are doing that but good to know you think it’s worth keep doing. He hasn’t said yes yet!

I'd be inclined to say if it's hurting him to poop then it might be worth scaling back a bit. The last thing you want is for him to become impacted because that creates a whole host of issues.

DS says no a lot when I ask him if he needs a wee but he'll suddenly pop out with 'I need a wee wee!' you might find your little one continues to use the potty even if you put him back in a nappy for now

Whatever you choose to do, you haven't failed or wasted time here. He's made incredible progress but it's not worth it if it's hurting him to poop

Thanks a lot.

The strange thing with the pooping is that he was fine initially, it’s only been the last couple of days it’s become quite bad. I think we’ll persist for now but agree that if it becomes a big issue then we’ll have to stop.

That said, I’m not convinced he’ll poop in his nappies as he hasn’t gone once since we started 9 days ago.

I think the poo thing is pretty common. I've heard that a lot with friends' kids.
DD has been dry all day- wee every hour/hour and a half when I've asked her to. Instructed her to poop and she did. Unsure what happens now.

@Kitkatchunkyplease

I think the poo thing is pretty common. I've heard that a lot with friends' kids. DD has been dry all day- wee every hour/hour and a half when I've asked her to. Instructed her to poop and she did. Unsure what happens now.

Great! Sounds like things are going well.

I suppose the hope is that they’ll start to develop and understanding of why they need to use the toilet and then start to take control. Not really sure though.

I hate potty training!

Haven't read the full thread but the oh crap potty training method says some kids esp boys tend to do this and they learn to consolidate their ways over time so don't worry. We're day one and my boy is constantly dribbling!

• wees not ways

How’s everyone getting on?

We have reached disaster point with pooing.

He’s scared of doing it because it hurt a few times. We’ve used Lactulose and that has helped soften it, but the lasting memory of it hurting is meaning that he’s still resisting.

Absolute nightmare every day of him resisting until he can no longer hold it.

We’ve tried everything we can think of. Any ideas?