Oh crap method versus waiting til 'ready'

[Rubyroost]

So the oh crap says best time is between 20 and 30 months. My boy is coming up to 30 months. However, from what I read on here and from mum's it seems most wait until their child is 'ready' and seems to be nearer 36 months.
I don't know whether to try and train toddler or wait until signs of readiness. He doesn't tell me before he needs a wee or pooh, he doesn't hide to do a pooh etc. He has been introduced to a potty and I tried a day in training pants, he seemed oblivious apart from the first time he weed he came to tell me he was doing a wee when he was doing it. After that he just kept weeing and was oblivious. We decided not to carry on as my 3 month old was a bit poorly and it was quite exhausting. I'm wanting to try again, but don't really know whether I should or whether to wait a while. Any advice would be brill.

Okay so tired momma checking in. I'm doing the oh crap method...very badly. He went on potty at 1.30 after holding in his wee all morning (I'm guessing he wants his nappy back) we went for walk in nappy as I can't stay in all day, came back dry. He did a big wee in his high chair and he knew he'd had an accident and wasn't pleased with himself. No fuss made from me. He held his wee in again after lunch and then said he needed a wee, so he got on his potty a d strained a bit to do a pooh, but was not keen. I told him to stay on potty to do a wee anyway, he got upset didn't watmnt to be on potty. I said let's go inside then and brought potty in at which point he said, no-weewee, weewee and was crying. He just wants to do the opposite! Put him in nappy for naptime at which he promptly poohed and weed so I went in to change him. Then he had bike ride with nappy on with dad and ate dinner wuth nappy on. I know I'm shit, wondering where to go from here.

Neither, just winged it.

@Hellohello20 thanks, beginning to think this is the attitude I need to take! 😂

When I thought my LO was holding her wee, I put her on the potty with the iPad. I said “once you’ve done a wee we will head to the shop”....then I pottered about not overly watching her, then a big well done when finished “right off to the shop”.

@Rubyroost similarly unsuccessful day here!

First day commando. Outside all morning, pretty much following him round with potty. Nada. Not a trickle.

Came inside, after much prompting he sat on it a few times and did a couple of tiny dribbles in it. Couple of small pees on floor. Couple of times sat on it watching cartons but no joy. Put him in pull-ups for lunch and dinner and of course they were wet after. I don’t know if he’s holding it in deliberately- there’s no fear/ dislike of potty but I don’t know why there were so few pees. He just doesn’t seem massively interested 🤷🏻‍♀️

And no poo at all all day which is stressing me out as I know if they start to hold it in it can lead to constipation. Hopefully he’ll do one when he wakes up!

I’m in 2 minds as to whether he’s ‘ready’. In some ways I fear not, but I don’t know if I’m just expecting it to be too easy.

DD (21 months) said she wanted to do a pee on the potty over and over til I put her on, at which point she burst into tears and started wailing ‘nappy on! Nappy on!’ Wonderful.

Overall not a resounding success so far 😆

Awww that's nice you've got two so close together in age. I think the idea is to force them to be without nappies as thatscwhst they're used to weeing in sbd they need to unlearn that. Think that's why if you put them in anything that resembles a nappy they wee. For me, he weed in high chair as I had lined it with a mat he could pee on. Today befire bed and after dinner took his nappy off. He said wee wee went to potty, pretended to do a wee and took his potty liner to the back door to empty it. Yes we've been emptying it in the empty field next to us. 🙈

So I'm updating @bumblebean I've decided to hold off and get him acquainted with the idea more and talk to him and wait for him to be more of an eager and willing participant. Think it was just stressing us both out. Am gonna ask him if he wants to go on potty from time to time etc. Feel like I've put too much pressure on myself and him and don't think it will do anyone any good.