You said
. Ds doesn't consistently tell me when he needs to go, he'll flat out deny poos, because he doesn't want to have a change rather than he doesn't know,
Ie he isn’t liking being changed
and will wet through a nappy with a single giant wee
So he is capable of holding for a long time and consolidating
then have a melt down and pull his nappy off.
senses that he is ready to move on from nappies, frustration with them
He has days where he tells me if he's had a wee and is very pleased.
makes connection with weeing being significant And is aware, and happy
Then days he denies all knowledge. This doesn't sound promising I know, but I think some of it is stubborness and not wanting to leave his game.
of course. You have also never explicitly said anything like “ ok, now we are moving in from nappies, we will be putting weeds and poos in the potty from now on, so if you tell me abiut them we can work together to learn how to do that...” - i assume?
I feel like in some ways he'll be happier to use a potty/ toilet instead. He's got good understanding, language and can do his own trousers etc.
all great! He just needs nudging from you
I'm twitching to get him potty trained because I've really had enough of nappies,
I was too. Feel better now doing sth positive to move forward
but I don't want to make a rod for my own back if I go for it too early and create a resister! This is just such a great time to go for it while we're at home, and before he starts preschool in Sept.
ideal timing
So I'm really on the fence...