3 year old refusing!-Toddler led training

[SnowWhite26]

So i posted on here a few weeks back abput my 3 year old. She was getting upset when trying for a wee and really not wanting to do it. We have made stcker charts had rewards bought new toliet seat put hole in happy sat on toliet with knickers everything you can think off! She as now regressed and doesn't even want to wear knickers! She tells me when she is weeing in her nappy sometimes. Anyway after a last big push she is point blank refusing! She is the kind of child who will do thongs when she wants to and just has a melt down if we make her ( life changing things not every day things to clarify)This is now a massive deal and i didn't want it to be. Anyway i have just read about toddler lead training. Basically leave everything on show like potty etc but let her tell me and take her to the loo with me and change her in bathroom. Has anyone tried this with success? Also thinking of just ignoring all and trying to forget about it till new year then start again?i have a 14 week old baby as well. Please just helpful advice last time loafs of ppl kept telling me she was 3 so should be potty trained I dont really no how that was helpful as im bloody trying here :( sorry very stressed. Thankyou xxx

Buy something nice,,, put it up on a shelf where she can see it, tell her it is a wee gift....
You are not going to make her use the loo, but the gift is there for when one day she decides she is a big girl and wants to use the loo...
Tell her each morning.. Ohh look the gift is there still waiting for you.... Then say nothing else... If she asks for it do not say no...
Say yes it is pretty, and when you think the time is right and you use the loo you can have it...
Then change the subject and get her to do something with you...

Thats a good idea. I might leave it till January then do the gift thing if still having issues. Thanks what a nice idea :)

My daughter was just like this. She had a bladder of steel and would hold it in all day. I’d sit her on the potty or toilet regularly, keep topping up her drinks, offer all manner of bribes... and she would not do a wee. Wouldn’t wet herself either. She’d be in pain but she wouldn’t give in.

It drove me insane. Stopped and started loads and then gave up while I was pregnant with severe SPD and just couldn’t face trying anymore.

Eventually, at the grand old age of 3 years and 10 months, I told her she was going to start wearing knickers every day and that was that. Of course, it started predictably and she held it in all day.

Well, it got to bedtime and I lost my temper. I told her I didn’t care how long it took, we were going to stay in the bathroom until she did a wee. So she let out a small wee. First time ever. I’m sure she didn’t empty her bladder but it was a start.

Day two, she tried the refusal trick again and I said no, I’m not having that anymore, you WILL start weeing on the toilet/potty... and she did. Basically, I broke her iron will by getting angry

It was plain sailing from there, no accidents ever. Poo on the toilet was a different kind of psychological warfare. This kid was something else

Oh my goodness Haworthia maybe thats what will become of us. Its so hard coz i feel if she can tell me as shes weeing in her nappy she obviously knows and she gets funny about going on the loo. She will sit for hours when she doesn't need it lol. We will see what happens in January but part of me thinks i might need to get angry but part of me thinks she physically can't work out how to wee sitting down! Its good to hear a very similar story with a happy end :) x

I didn’t use bribes at all. I got rid of all nappies put pants on them and showed them where the potty was. I didn’t remind my stubborn one when to go as I thought this might turn it into a battle. I did occasionally suggest to my others that they might like to try but never pushed the issue.