I am so fucking fed up

[BertieBotts]

Of attempting to change poo nappies with a child who will not fucking stay still and screams the house down throughout the entire experience. It's Not Helping that I have massive resentment over the fact he's 3.1 and not responding to any kind of potty training incentive, cajoling, softly-softly approach, anything!

WHAT can I do? I've tried explaining to him that if he does poos in the potty we won't have to go through this horrific experience which he hates probably even more than I do, but he says that's scary. I've tried bribing with chocolate buttons but the fear is outweighing the bribery factor. I'm now worried I've somehow done irreparable damage and he's going to be in nappies for ever. Seriously considering farming him out to someone for a couple of weeks and they can do it for me.

Cold turkey wise I used pants all day in the house to begin with, still put a nappy on when we went out (there's few public loos in our town) and when we went in the car. Just until he got the hang of it. Then it was a case of just braving it, always went juuust before leaving house, asked every half hour, looked for signs etc. Spare everything in a bag (including socks, don't forget socks!)

Has he weed yet??

The books don't tell you that they might hold it in for hours!! My Ds did this too. Be reassured that he does therefore have control and also you can leave the house

He had 2 accidents, and one in the potty :) But he didn't wee at all until 4.30pm, and then he didn't actually notice, because he was in a bit of a zombie-like state of tiredness. DP went and got the nappies in the middle of the day and he saw them, but we managed to convince him that the number 6 on the packet meant he couldn't have them on before 6 o'clock because they wouldn't work but he seemed to accept this quite happily.

He's going to the childminder in the morning, just for a few hours, so I will be brave and send the spare clothes! Tomorrow is going to be all day so that will be a bit harder. I have a feeling he's going to be nervous about public toilets, he has always hated coming in the cubicle with me, so I might stick to nappies when we go out just until he's more confident. I don't know.

I think we might struggle with poo. He was very windy today but insisted he didn't need one, and then said his willy was hurting and it told him it needed a nappy on.

If I were you, I would do cold turkey through the days- he's old enough to understand and you don't want to send mixed messages.
The holding the wee thing my dd did- as others said shows he physically can do it! Get him drinking lots thou as you don't want him to get a uti.

How was today?