Encouragement for parents of reluctant potty trainers

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Just posting this because it might help people be more relaxed about their children if they are late to use a potty.

My dd2 has been very continent for months. Dry at night since before 2. Able to hang on from about 2.5. However, she was very reluctant to sit on a potty or toilet and until Sunday (aged over 3.5) she has insisted on having a nappy put on when she needs a wee or poo.

Since 3.3 she has used the little toilets at nursery and last week she was staying with a friend and used their toilet.

Finally, on Sunday she nonchalently said that she was going to use her potty.

So, having been relatively relaxed about the slow progress we've now 'got there'. It just takes courage to ignore all those who can't understand why you're humouring a small child.

ah this is v helpful - am at end of day1 with DD who is 27 months and looks like she's not ready. Constant insistence from grans and gramps and aunties and everyone that in their day all of us were potty trained at 9 months has made me feel under loads of pressure.

My father in law today told me his kids trained at 6 months - boll0cks!! What does he know, he never even changed a nappy.

So thanks guys, I won't feel bad about waiting. Got DC2 on the way, just thought it worth a bash before they come

prostrate thanks for this thread.

dd 2.8 is still in nappies the whole time. All attempts at potty training so far have failed.
She had a burst of interest around Christmas but I failed to consolidate it into a habit.
She'll sometimes sit on the potty but invariably wanders off and does everything on the floor, always amazed at being wet etc.
Pressure from my womenfolk is massively irritating.
Particularly my beloved big sis who is obnoxious in this respect. She looks at me as if I want to have a child in nappies until she's 16 and won't hear that it's isn't simply a question of getting on with it. Arse.
I know a load of CMs who say to chill out, they're all different and to wait til she's ready and she'll do it quickly.....
I feel everyone is secretly thinking I'm rubbish though!

glad i found this thread

ds 3.4 is dry in the day and has been for months and months but refuses point blank to poo on the potty and insists on a nappy and hiding away somewhere for a poo.

the story in todays paper about nurserys refusing to take un-potty trained children has me worrying as ds is due to start in sept and i doubt i'll have him pooing on the loo, wiping his own bum, pulling trews back up(he gets them half up and walks around with his bum half hanging out) and washing his hands by then.

he has toddler diarrhoea too

I'm so glad I found this thread! DD1 is only 2.8 but I've had lots of comments from people about her still being in nappies & although I've been able to shut them up by saying it's bad timing with DD2s arrival (6wks) it really was starting to get to me
Thank-you for making me realise it's fine & she'll do it when she's good & ready!

If they didn't want to use the potty what I did was remove the nappy and slap them on the every time they went for a pee or poop on the floor. They soon learnt.

Slap them hard on the hand. Sorry.

My daughter aged 2.4 refuses to go near the potty, will occasionally sit on the toilet but not for a great length of time, she hasnt done anything on it though. im sure she waits till her nappy is back on. she used to tell me when she was goin in her nappy but that has now stopped she has had a few accidents on the floor etc when running around naked and tells me as shes doing it so no warning!! im feeling very presured my grandparents etc that she should be potty training by now, but she is just not interested at all, i feel forcing the issue will set her back even more. she is due to start play school in 3mths an im worried we will be no further on.
she is very forward for her age an reached her milestones way before her friends, she dresses and undressers herself and is very verbal about what she wants/doesnt want, i just dont understand why this is such an obstcle, perhaps im doing sumthing to put her off??

i agree with scrappydappydoo, dont think ill take any advise from concernedmotherv13, shocking!!!

What a great topic! Thank you! (we'll just ignore concernedmotherv13's comments, though).

I have tried several times to potty train DS1 (also pressured by lots of people, he is now 3.7). Two weeks ago I finally had a good moment to start trying again and let hem walk around without pants, pull-ups or nappies. It went fairly well until he got to wore pants. And so the trouble started and at daycare they put him back in pull-ups. When I got home again out of his pants and pull-ups. The wee's are finally all on the potty, but he still has some trouble with his poo. Although the last poo of today was still an accident, he did come over to tell me that he had pooed (he never told me before). So I praised him for tellling me that and we cleaned up the mess. Hopefully tomorrow things will go even better.

:) we've had 3 weeks without any wee accidents. Unfortunately dd2 still will not poo on the potty - 6mths of this now ah well I keep reassuring myself she will be toilet trained by the time she goes to uni ;)