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Postnatal health

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Getting test results about the baby after a surgical termination

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Debbievdl · 21/06/2023 14:27

Hello,

I'm not sure if anyone can help or if I just need to rant.

I found out that I was pregnant for a second time a year after having our first baby boy. He is the light of my life and I love him so much.
At our 12 week scan there was something not quite right. We were offered all the blood test but ultimately decided to go with a CVS as the blood tests can only tell us so much.
The results came back and we found that our baby had turners syndrome. We ultimately decided (after a heart breaking conversation with both doctors and between my partner and myself) to terminate the pregnancy.
The procedure was heartbreaking and we are finally getting back to normal (whatever that might be) and then today I got a call from the hospital. They want to have us back in to go over the further tests they run after having the termination.

I am not sure if I want to go but my partner is adamant that he doesn't want to go.

What do I do? Do I go and bring this all back up or move on knowing that these results could be what we already know.

Any help or advise would be appreciated as I am not sure what I want to do.

Thanks for listening.

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Beluowens · 21/06/2023 16:42

notes1 · 21/06/2023 14:42

So sorry you are going through this. I have also had a TFMR in the past and it is heartbreaking.

I would definitely go for this appointment as, like others have said, it may have picked up that you or your partner have a genetic condition that could affect future pregnancies. I guess it could also be possible that your existing child could carry a genetic mutation that might impact their future pregnancies. I think it would be unlikely that this appointment would just be to go over old ground.

It may be a good idea to call ARC beforehand and get their views on what the appointment could be for and to help you prepare.

This poster is spot on and clearly states my thoughts exactly (I probably wouldn't have phrased them quite as concisely though, hence the quote).
I am so, so sorry for yours and your DP's.💐

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 28/06/2023 13:16

I completely agree with notes1 too. We've had a TMFR in the past and I know how hard it can be for you both right now.

Like others have said, if you are thinking of having future babies I would go, but actually I'd go anyway as the information might be useful for DS should he ever consider starting a family.

Incidentally my DH was exactly the same and only felt able to access counselling some months later. I think he was consumed with looking after me at the time.

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