Midwife menace.

[CanIHaveAHolidayPlease]

Long story short.... baby born Sunday and has been in intensive care since. (Not life threatening)
I was discharged from hospital but naturally spend as much time there as humanly possible.

Community Midwife (random Midwife, never met her before) rings my mobile today whilst I'm visiting new baby at the hospital and informs me that my home visits begin tomorrow so I will need to wait at home 9am -5pm for her to arrive. She is fully aware of our situation as she has my notes available. I asked her if an allocated time slot / appointment system is available to which she replies no. I am to wait in the house for up to 8 hours for her to turn up, the reason being "we have to check up on your health."

Now somebody tell me if I am being a hormonal diva... is this unreasonable? Would I be a complete diva to refuse to wait in all day? She may even arrive early, who knows? I want to spend every minute possible with my sick child.
I understand that it's her job and I could probably do with the support at the moment and that she has other patients to get to etc but quite frankly I don't want to sit twiddling my thumbs waiting for when it's convenient for her to show up!

I'm thinking of ringing her at 10am tomorrow morning to inform her I'll be going out.

I cannot see rationally at the moment so am aware I may sound like a complete nut job
Thanks

I work on nicu and the midwife will either come and see our mums in the hospital or arrange for them to be seen on triage. They would never expect you to wait in for hours away from your baby.

No you're not going mad. You phone her tomorrow when you're on the way to the hospital and say that if she needs you, you'll be in the hospital with your child. She can do her checks there or wait until baby comes home.

You're in a building crammed with drs and nurses all day, I would imagine if you had any pressing birth related health issues you'd probably mention it to someone anyway.

Thankyou all for taking the time to reply.

So I left the house early as my baby had suffered an awful night and I didn't actually care about ringing the midwife to explain I wasn't going to be home after the way she spoke to me the previous day.
At 10.40 that morning she text to say there weren't enough staff that day to manage the visit and could I take a phone call the following day. (Today)
Erm yeah!!!!

She probably saw this post haha!

For those wondering, yeah she's completely aware of my situation with baby being in hospital.
Baby is making small improvements but have suffered setbacks as expected.

The midwife on the Neonatal team is looking after me, the trouble stems from the community team being under a different trust to the hospital team. They are able to communicate and share notes though!

My first was in intensive care for a couple of weeks following birth due to sepsis. I was passed to the midwives in the hospital for my after care. I had my appointments there. They worked around me and my son's care. They were lovely. You are not being unreasonable. Best of luck and take care of yourself as best you can.

Defiantly complain.

On a practical note my baby was in NICU when I was discharged. The midwives at the hospital saw me for my postpartum appointments. They gave me a timed appointment so I only had to nip down a corridor to minimise how long I was away from baby. Maybe ring the main hospital maternity line and request this? Or ask in NICU they might be able to sort it for you.

Just an update guys...

No phonecall from midwife today as expected. Received a call from the health visitor wanting to book an appointment to do a "new baby visit" Maybe Midwife has passed me over to the HV team?

I'm receiving care from a midwife in the NICU anyway.

More importantly, baby has had a great day!!

They're bloody awful. I had my baby in April, waited in all day at home for them to come as I was told to do and no one came so I rang the hospital who contacted our community midwives. They called me and said they'd missed me off and would come the next day between 9 and 5. I told them,"No you won't you'll come first thing". the mix up was their fault and I wasn't waiting in a full day again. The rest of my appointments I told them I'd go to them. 🙄