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Who bothers getting dressed?!

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Nicknamegoeshere · 19/11/2020 13:18

I'm on mat leave (baby almost 6 mo) and currently on lockdown with everyone else in England.
Still in my pj's as not sure what the point is of getting dressed? Can't go anywhere!
Anyone else?

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derbygirl23 · 20/11/2020 19:33

Hair not washed for over a week - speaks for itself

JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/11/2020 12:03

I'm not sure I'd be bothering either if I was in lockdown with a young baby Smile

derbygirl23 · 22/11/2020 15:32

@Nicknamegoeshere do you find your baby is ok when they see people? Mine is five months and seems to have stranger anxiety very early 😩

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Nicknamegoeshere · 23/11/2020 00:56

@derbygirl23 A little, but then she doesn't really see anyone outside of my family? She definitely prefers mummy over anyone else!

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Caspianberg · 26/11/2020 15:51

I get dressed every day. Baby almost 7 months.

I think if I stayed indoors in just pjs daily it would lead me down the road to depression and stop me just popping out.

It’s not like there’s anywhere to go really like you say, ( I’m overseas and in a stricter lockdown than uk still) but I think I I didn’t get dressed it would lease to the days all blurring into one

I’ve still popped out this AM quickly to bakery whilst baby stayed home, tidied up a bit of front garden weeds whilst baby napped in pram, walked baby around block slowly for hour in sun, spoke to several neighbours and passers by briefly whilst in garden. It’s hardly thrilling, but I wouldn’t have had any interactions with anyone all or or left house if hadn’t got dressed.

I think it’s good for baby also just popping out locally for walk as much as possible as like you say, it’s the only time they see other people right now.

LividLaughLurve · 26/11/2020 15:53

Get dressed every day (leggings and scruffy ponytail) to make sure we get out for a walk.

Highlight of the day is “Pram or sling?”

Ginfilledcats · 26/11/2020 15:55

I get dressed every day and shower every day. I do sometimes not bother with a bra, and sometimes look a right sight but I make us go for a walk every day, and pop somewhere 3 times a week: farm shop, Tesco's, range/garden centre/mums (childcare bubble) else I'd go insane!

KumquatSalad · 26/11/2020 16:20

I get showered and dressed every day too. I think I’d feel even worse if I stayed in my pjs all day long. I don’t put makeup on and I just pull my hair back in a bun (to stop it being pulled mostly). But at least I feel like I’m marking the difference between day and night.

I’m looking forward to getting out to some classes etc when lockdown is over. My 15 week old really likes seeing that other people exist. And especially other babies. And I really need to get out of the house.

Tibtab · 26/11/2020 16:23

My DD is 8 months and I always get dressed - usually just leggings and a long top, it makes me feel more human. If I don’t then I find it makes me more depressed. I try and get out of the house for a walk everyday weather permitting. It’s hard when you feel like everyday blurs into one.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 26/11/2020 19:43

I'd love to go to my parents' with the baby but thought you can't unless they are providing childcare eg you are not present? Although I know that changes soon...

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meeeeh · 27/11/2020 20:52

My baby is 9 weeks and I stay in pjs most days as I'm too knackered to do anything so just try to sleep when she sleeps in the day. When my husband is off work he watches her so I can go out or we go out with her together. I'd love to get out more; should force myself really but most days I'm just too tired

TheChineseChicken · 27/11/2020 20:56

I do get showered and dressed but since no one sees me outside the house without a coat on I can’t be arsed to wear anything nice. I started looking forward to going back to work so I could wear proper outfits and start caring again but then I remembered that work would just be in my house Sad

BackforGood · 27/11/2020 21:14

Where are you that has additional restrictions that say you can't go out ?

England's lockdown restrictions mean that you can go out every day.
An hour's walk, pushing your little one round any area will do your mental health the world of good, as well, of course, as getting them used to seeing a much wider view of the world.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 27/11/2020 22:58

@BackforGood It is just like groundhog day with a very young baby. What else is there to do except going for a walk really?

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BackforGood · 27/11/2020 23:26

Well, I didn't have the privilege of being able to spend all day, every day with any of mine when they were 6 months old, so I'm probably not the best person to help you with that side of things Smile

I was replying to the bit where you said you couldn't go anywhere, which isn't true.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 27/11/2020 23:30

@BackforGood Are you not in the UK? In know there are differences in mat leave in other countries so do appreciate that.

But mat leave in this pandemic has been crap.

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BackforGood · 27/11/2020 23:59

Yes, I live in England, and have done all my life, but when I had my dc, we got 3 months maternity leave Smile

I have every sympathy with folk who have had a baby since the beginning of March - particularly those for whom it is their first baby. Not to have been able to mix with wider family - in particular Grandparents must have made life incredibly challenging. I found I was completely knocked for 6 by the arrival of dc1, and would probably have gone under completely without the support I got from my Mum and my sister, so I send Flowers and Wine to every new Mum this year.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/11/2020 00:12

@BackforGood Thank you. It's been challenging to say the least. My parents live in the same village but have not been able to support much and being an older mum all of my existing friends don't have babies. So it's been myself and OH. Then a few weeks after baby was born OH was rushed to hospital for emergency spinal surgery (he was in for two weeks and then came home for six weeks with a catheter).

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flissity · 28/11/2020 00:16

@Nicknamegoeshere have you seen you can bubble up with another household if you have a child under 1? Regardless of the amount of adults in each house.

My third is 6 months next week. I do get dressed /showered each day as I have the school run to do! But I would anyway tbh. I feel crap If I don’t get dressed.

beargryllshasabigrope · 28/11/2020 00:17

Fuck ittttr

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/11/2020 00:18

@flissity Yes but still not sure whether to as my mum is 65 and my dad 70? I also have two older kids half of the time (primary and secondary).

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beargryllshasabigrope · 28/11/2020 00:18

In other words.. don't bother at all! Enjoy these lovely days pre nursery/school run etc. They will go faster than you could ever imagine while you're in them

flissity · 28/11/2020 00:20

@Nicknamegoeshere also have a year 4 and a year 7!

I have also decided not to bubble with my parents. Annoying as I got excited about that new rule! It’s not worth the risk. Especially with my eldest at high school. Shame really.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/11/2020 00:25

@flissity Mine are Year 6 and Year 9 😊

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flissity · 28/11/2020 00:31

I’ve just realised I replied to your thread the other day about bubbles and co_ parenting. It’s tricky isn’t it!!

I’m lucky and live near my parents and sister. So can go out for walks etc. I just would like to be a kit to plonk the baby on the carpet and sit and have a cup of tea and a chat! Plus they never see her out of a pushchair :( strange times.