Jan 2010: Weaning, sleeping crawling too...at least we've moved on from discussing poo

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Roll up roll up - let's get chatting...

sticky keyboard again, cant be arsed fixing.

sock Yes, pear might have been a better first but as super said, it won't harm her. Id have been annoyed too TBH.

Don't let folk decide when you should stop BF either. BF is a funny old game isn't it! You have the BF brigade shoving it down your throat. Then you have the @are you still feeding them' brigade, like your doing something strange and perverse. .

Can't win that one.

cant sorry to hear about Percy, I hope he is ok.

super good luck, im so excited to here about your scan and a bit too. x

hear not here - cant blame the keyboard for that one

ali no excuse, that was horrible

new I meant to say, ha, no I have small bangers!

I sort of sloutched on the sofa, almost on my side and DD was sloutching towards me. Just a very weird position now I think of it but it worked! Stopped her coming on and off with the reflux.

ali - bless Jacob, he is very cute and has grown loads. Sorry you're having such a rough time. Your sister sounds like a charmer. I'm sure if we look at the positive of what your sister meant maybe she meant it as in the stress that it puts you through and can you handle anymore.

sock - good luck at the Drs. Weaning doesnt mean the end of BF it just means that you will beginning to feed less but gradually. Jack had dropped down with his feeds from his ridiculous 8 ish a day but over the last couple of days hes wanted more of my milk so we are back doing more again.

wmdo - i think i know what you mean How is your DS doing at the moment?

Well, just to have a bit of a rant. Jacks dad is meant to see him on Thursdays at my house and today hes said he was waiting for his mum to get back to use the car and would let me know. Considering he should have been here at 11 i reckon its safe to say hes not coming. Why give some bullsht reason about a car if he didnt want to come???? He was out last night so im guessing he is at home nursing a hangover and sleeping. He prides himself on the fact hes not missed a weekend with his daughter since he broke up with her mum but hes done this twice now. I dont want to stop him seeing Jack because i want him to know who his dad is but i wont* have him letting Jack down as he is doing. I know Jack doesnt get it at the moment but he soon will that Daddy is meant to be seeing him but then he doesnt. So, any advice on how i should play it from here?

New - caveat. Don't listen to any advice from me on absent fathers. I'm very strict .

I would err on the side of caution - maybe, just maybe, there was a legitimate excuse for why he couldn't get over. Is there another day he could do to instead of today?

I would certainly call to find out what's happening though. I would also stress that he is to see Jack one day a week and if it is too much for him to do that, you would rather he didn't see Jack at all. You should not put up with rolling in and out when he feels like it later down the line.

As you rightly say, Jack knows diddly squat at the moment, but it won't be long before he does. As mothers, we protect our young and that means emotionally too.

My DS knows the full story of how he hasn't seen his biological dad and despite his father being desperate to make contact again, Alex has said absolutely no way until he's older and he feels able to deal with it "man to man" - his words. And for those that missed those posts, it was similar to New's story. He turned up every now and then, paid bugger all and wanted to be called "Daddy". I said he had to see him regularly and contribute financially or go away and not see us at all. He chose the latter.

sensible cant

My brother doesn't pay financially to his 3 (2 different ex's) but they both let him come and go as he pleases and he regularly lets them down. It wouldn't be me.

10 Yr old DD hates her dad now as he messes her around and I think it has damaged her confidence alot.

See what he says but there's only so many chances you can give him before it effects jack IMHO.

10 yr old niece!! I bet you were all thinking she kept that quiet!

Back has eased a little but still can't get in and out of car. DH taken DS to see house build as there are bricks up now - whoo hoo.

ali I can't believe she said that. Poor little spotty fella. Can I recommend a oaty bath for him? It helped my DSs when they had the pox. (You put a handfull of porrage oats in a sock, tie the top and pop it in the bath, the oat juice is very soothing on itchy skin)

Doc looked at boob, it's a blocked duct, not infected or anything, nothing she can do, it'll sort itself out eventually.
She did say "you can put it away now if you like" while she was explaining this I blame baby-brain (is that still allowed)

hey all

well on scan front, na na na na naaaa (said in childish voice) ONLY ONE BABY yay!!!!!!
all seems well, I asked about nuchal thing, she said although they don't do it there yet, she has had a good look and it doesn't look enlarged. i can have quad test at 16 wks, but not sure if we'll bother, because even if its 1 in 200 or 1 in 50,000, if we're the one then we'll be fine with that. dh agrees x x

new I be really careful how you handle it, i left p when ds was 2, and met dh when he was 3, p messed him around so much, he'd be sat on stairs with coat on, and p wouldn't come, so h would take him out on his bike/park whatever. because i always let him take him when he wanted, ds thinks the sun shines out of his rectum, and has a really starined relationships with dh although when i say do you remember how it used to be, he says yes but he'd rather forget. if i could do it over i would say you either commit regularly or not at all, i think a clean break would have been better for us. but thats just my opinion of course, ds now uses p for whatever he can get a holiday a year, season ticket, £20 a week spends and speaks to him on phone, they have a good relationship. ds and dh are getting better as he gets older but because dh was the disciplinarian and p strolled in with money, gifts etc when he wanted it has been hard. hope you sort it out.

sock baby brain definately still allowed, leaving boob on show maybe not lol

cant how is percy hope he's ok

I have posted some new pics, dd8 communion and new baby, so take a peek but don't get broody x x

aawwwwwwwww lovely little baby picture

Well Jacob is getting pox on top of pox he's got so many even on the soles of his feet he has got 4 on his eyelid and one on the bottom of his eye he feels so sorry for himself

thanks ali

awwwww spotty baby, i feel sorry for him too x x

super awww congrats, it's amazing to see a scan photo again.....

fights broody attack off

My DH had a massive unattractive hooter so I used to totally stare at the scans to see if they had the nose!

ali I can't imagine Olivia with chicken pox, it must be horrible to see him like that and so little .
DS seems to have missed every bout of pox flying about so I still have that to come with both of them.
Im sure they are saving it until we have booked our first big holiday or something!!

Im a bit stressed tonight. DS's reflux has came back . He has started being sick. Little projectile spit ups when he drinks water or milk. I can hear it come back in his throat and have done for months but wasn't sure. Now it is flying out. He has also started coughing and choking etc and I know it's reflux again.
He had it as a baby and it went away at 14 months. He is 3 now so im shocked it came back.
Now im feeling all stupidly guilty. How do they both have this, what have I done, ate, during PG or while feeding them?

Im wondering if all the mediction as a baby has caused it to come back somehow. Maybe it's better left to natural devices IYSWIM.

Oh I don't know, I just can't think why this would happen.

2 of them, weird.

wmdo for your ds, i don't know anything about reflux in babies/children, but i'm sure feeling guilty won't help, wheres your fighting sense of humour gone. hope ds gets/feels better soon, hugs to ds and you.

you said dh HAD a massive hooter, where is it now??????? he'll look a card with a massive hooter and swollen eye, tres attractive

sending broody vibes to when

Ooh I meant 'has'!

It's the full set, big, hooked and flared nostrils.

Let me tell you, I was very nervous for my children. 2 of his sisters look like men in drag !

It looks like DS could have it . Obviously he is 3 so it looks fine and small now but when he smiles or does facial expressions I can see it forming.

DD has a little button nose. Hopefully it will stay like mine.

Yes, the one eye doesn't help. All he needs now is a brace and i'd send him off to the circus, lol.

Take back thoses broody vibes woman!

super - I'm glad the scan went well

sock - how are you doing with your blocked duct?

wmdo - your poor DS, is it something that he will need medication for? I know you're feeling around inherited "good looks". XP has two lovely moles on his face and I'm terrified whenever DS gets a spot that it's the beginning of a mole.

ali - how is Jacob doing and your DD? I'm organising a cheeky monkeys tea party in aid of the NCT in West Bridgford on Friday 6th august so you and Jacob are more than welcome to come along

can't - any news on Percy?

Thanks for your advice re XP. Last week he did the same and didn't get in touch when he was meant to have Jzck it turned out he had apparently left his phone in the work van but he didn't think to let me know even though he has a landline and his parents know my number etc. I was beating myself up last week thinking something must be wrong but it wasn't. Anyway, this week I finally got a response from him when I asked him if he wanted to see. Jack on Friday apparently as he didn't have access to a car even though he went to pick his daughter up. I put my foot down and said I wasn't taking jack round to his yesterday but he was welcome to come to mine which he said he as going to do but once again he didn't get in.touch uuntil late. I feel like I've made my point and I'm not taking his shit anymore.

On a separate note, I'm m attempting to do sleep training with jack this weekend because he just refuses to sleep. I'm torn between doing PU/PD, shush pat or cuddling him in his cot. He gets really distressed if I'm there and not picking him up but he just refuses sleep so much. The only other thing I was going to try was taking his mattress out of his cot and lining it up with my mattress on the floor and gradually getting him happy falling asleep by himself then move him into his cot. Any ideas or recommendations are welcome and also alcohol, junk food, cake and sweets to get me through. I'm New beginning and I comfort eat.

new thanks for the invite that would be fun do you want to email me details [email protected]
Jacob is now covered from head to toe in chicken pox and is so poorly sent dh out on medicine run and waiting for nhs direct to ring back. I have never seen a child so covered.

How is Jacob ali?

Poor little Jacob. DS1 was like that, even had them in his mouth and on his tongue, he was older though. Hope he's better soon.

Noop rolled over for the first time yesterday. Will have to watch where I leave her now! She has also perfected the "attention cough" and blowing raspberries at inappropriate times.

WMDO how is DS's reflux?

We ended up at out of hours at the weekend and Jacob was given piriton and some different antibiotics horrid pink ones as the spots are very inflamed
He is slowly getting better although today he has slept 8.30-11.30 12.30-3.00 then back asleep now he must be catching up as he has really struggled to sleep.

We have an appointment with orthopoedic doctor 23rd Sept although I rang today to try and get one sooner and they said keep ringing up for cancellations.

Hope everyone is doing okay

Glad he is still bearing up ali.

Where is everyone?

I need a MN break too I think.

Kept coming on here last week to zone out of eye and back problems!

I wandered out onto other threads and did classic WMDO long posting then realised I was more mentally unstable than I previously thought.

One poster was worried about her worrying so I posted on how much I worry to make her feel better but now i am really worried about my worrying because, well.......
it's a worry.

WMDO signs out for a week of councelling....

ali- poor Jacob. Is he doing any better with the new medicine? On the bright side though, once they start clearing up you could keep your other DCs entertained by letting them play dot to dot on him

wmdo- how is your back and how is DHs eye? Don't have a break from us, you know you love us really. As for the worrying, maybe you should google it to see what that particular condition is We all know you love a bit of googling action.

sock- rolling over is a treat! DS has perfected rolling whilst having his nappy changed and getting his foot right in his poo. Luckily he hasn't rolled anywhere yet though.

Right, where are the
Rest of you hiding? Anyone would think you had real lifes to be getting on with

I googled it and it turns out Im killing myself slowly with stress.

It's really bad for you and I won't live long, arggghhhhhhhhhhh

I need those fridge magnets with the philosophical statements on them, or a self help book.

No that won't do, I seen a woman reading a self help book in a restaurant and she was rocking back and forward and wearing a big knitted body suit.

Im really going now, I could be getting cancer from the wifi

Hi all, I popped on to see how everyones' doing and there's been little visiting going on. Ali poor Jacob, hope it clears up soon. WMDO stop streessing, what happens happens. if you can have an effect on the outcome of something I'm sure you would have done it, if it's out of your hands sit back and enjoy the ride iykwim.

Not much going on here, teeth, wriggling, lack of sleep, poos (T's not mine) I still haven't lost any weight, and am now saying that once the boob feeding is done I'll start chastising and restricting food but not unti then...what's the oldest breastfed child we know of?..joke btw.

Any chins up peeps.
bbfn

Had a letter for Jacob to go into hospital for tests it is 10th August it says he will have PH study, x-rays, a sugar swallow? and some blood tests it says we will be on a ward for 2-3days it's a shame thay can't x-ray his hips at the same time.