October 08 - The Second Year

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

I wish I could help Myjob but naps are very hit and miss in this house. It's so frustrating isn't it, when you know they really need to sleep but they just can't manage it.

Star - Sorry, I missed your message before. It was free!! You only pay for the clothes you buy and there's no minimum spend. You book a 90 minute slot (which went really quickly), the stylist takes you to a private room with a big changing room, sits down with you to discuss what you want (work wardrobe, wedding outfit or whatever - I just wanted a smart casual wardrobe update) and what your budget is. Then they run around on the shop floor picking things out for you to try. She wasn't directing me to only the high priced stuff either - it was a good mixture.

I'm like you Myjob and find shopping really depressing: Big bum, small waist, big boobs.

The jeans are Great Plains Pistachio. I also tried on a really expensive pair (not sure which brand) and was very relieved when they didn't fit.

Star - Good to hear you and Q are on the mend. I wish I'd thought about the honey and lemon trick for S when he had that cough. I was taking it but didn't think to give him any.

BTW - we bought a rear-facing car seat today. We went to a place in Kent to get it fitted. I would recommend them if anyone's looking for rear-facing and is in the south east. (Also the one we got was a good price, as they're normally really expensive.)

Congrats on the rear facing seat, aubergenie
We like our forward facing one - Q likes it too and I'm convinced thatit's safe if an accident were to ever happen god forbid.

So glad you found good stuff aubergenie What a fun day!!

pistachio I'm going to try the vapo rub on feet thing, too.

aubergenie I didn't think of honey lemon thing either until the chemist at tesco suggested it. I always forget that it's safe to give them honey now.

myjob I'm not sure at all... maybe jsut drop the nap and see how it goes? Maybe she just doesn't need a nap anymore and wants longer night sleeps?

10:45 does sound very early for a nap for a child who has slept through the night and not got up til 7. Maybe try waiting another couple of hours, and putting her down straight after an earlyish lunch.

Oh, and screaming at mummy all day usually tooth or illness related ime.

hmmm she sounds uncomfortable or perhaps in pain? Could that be? have you tried giving her a bit of nurofen before a nap?

Myjob - S does that standing up half asleep screaming thing. It's really odd. It's like he really doesn't want to be awake but can't help himself. I usually just try to lie him down gently and rub his chest and he usually goes off to sleep again. He does it during the day and at night. I would say it's a bit less frequent than it was and I'm hoping he'll grow out of it.

That wasn't much help was it. But at least you know you're not alone.

Hey all, I've only read really quickly, sorry to hear some LO's and ladies are feeling ill Star, I've always wanted to know, what exactly are hives??

I'm made up re your results 50ft

I went to docs the other day and she said I can start trying again for another baby if I want. I'm reluctant to do it while I'm on such a high dose of AD's tho, has anyone got any thoughts on this?

I'm still having bad episodes (like yesterday and today!!) but I feel a bit better overall on the meds, doc has increased the dose from 100mg to 150mg sertraline.

Oh and I'm still ont he weightwatchers diet, I'm just doing it myself at home so I didn't weigh myself until the end of the first week and I was a stone lighter than I thought I was!!!!! So I don't know how much I've lost in the first week but I'm happy anyway! My jeans do feel a bit looser so I'm going in the right direction I think.

Took Pops to the paediatrician the other day for 6 month review and he's happy with her, she's to stay on the renitadine and domperidone for now, but only a low dose.

She's also got a few lumps at the back of her mouth where her big teeth are coming through and they've been driving the poor love crackers, she was awake from 3.30 to 5.30 this morning.

I am helping out at the NCT sale tomorrow from 8 till 1, so PIL are looking after her as DH is constantly working at the moment..AGAIN. Considering he's only in 2 days a week and not for a massive wage it's a bit ridiculous.

Your DH is a teacher, right HMM?

Glad you and poppy are well. Good luck TTC.
If it is sep anxiety, it will calm down over time, right, myjob?

aubergenie yes the photos of S are cute. You've got a fantastic camera, too!

I want to go to a nearly new sale near me this morning from 10.30-12 but that's right during Q's naptime and I missed nap yesterday since I had to get my car looked at. I only get the chance to relax during Q's nap on weekends, so I like to take advantage of it and sometimes go to sleep
A friend of mine told me that being at work should be "relaxing" for me as I'm not looking after Q... but people always seem to forget that I'm not going to an office... I'm going to my classroom with 16 children to look after, teach, confer with, help solve social issues... and all the other stuff that comes along with looking after young children. They don't stop needing that sort of attention just because they are in school. Teachers take over. Teachers are in fact, "in loco parentis". And even though I do have a nice "break" each day, I usually either spend all of that time going to play with and take care of Q or preparing lessons, having meetings with parents, other teachers...etc. I'm just so tired of hearing that "well, you work so you have no reason to be exhausted. you get a break from parenting". No, not really. I work with KIDS! I love my job, I do. LOVE IT, just sick of hearing from that!
Sorry for the rant.

And if I'm in school while the kids are at lunch or whatever it is quite often that I'll have to go and deal with a child who feels unwell or sad or needs some attention in some way, which I'm happy to do, but it's not like I'm "off duty" until they go home, then I've got 3 kids to drive to get Q.

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anyway,
Are your babies obsessed with dancing? Q canNOT pass by a rhythm or any music without moving to it / doing a little dance. If he hears it in the distance, he'll run closer to the noise and start dancing and smiling. Just loves music! It's too cute! People always stop and have a giggle when we're out and about and he does it.

HMM that rant was in no way directed at you. I Just realized it sort of looks taht way since I asked if dh was a teacher and he has been working a lot lately. It just sparked a memory of that comment and made me need a vent. Sorry about that.

I see that, pistachio, for sure
I don't think I would be able to do SAHM so I do admire those who do it day in, day out. It is very very hard work.

In my case, the friend who said this to me has 2 kids, both who are in school, leaving on a bus at 7.30am and arriving back at home at 4.15pm Monday - Friday (she doesn't do school runs). And she's a SAHM, who tells me that I'm so lucky to be "able to go to work and relax rather than have all the responsibilities of a SAHM". I'm probably totally out of line here... but I just think that in her situation, well, it's much much much different to those with young children at home full time or just in preschool or even to those doing school runs ffs!

I'm ok with someone like any of you on this thread thinking, god I'd rather be in your shoes going to work today than having all of this work to do at home... totally get that. I have lots of holidays where I can see the truth in that . But for someone in her situation to tell me that her day is so hectic and mine should be relaxing... just gets to me! Don't get me wrong, I do love my job, I love being busy. It's tiring but I like it! But I am justified in being exhausted by the end of the week and wanting a rest with my DS on a saturday (that's where this came up btw, that I shouldn't need to relax while Q naps on weekends because I "relax" all week at work ).

btw she spends an hour or two every morning at a cafe meeting friends and goes to the spa 3x/week from 12-2. Good on her. She's taking care of herself and I think that's absolutely fantastic. Very happy for her for making herself happy. Truthfully I feel that way.
And I'm not one to compare - I have never even thought twice about her lifestyle until She was that I'd be so tired on a weekend that I needed a little rest for 2 hours while Q naps (which is right now!) since I'm not a SAHM like her and don't have the same stresses she has... . I see my child actually more in one day than she does.

pistachio - To clarify, I have no problem with someone in your position saying that me going to work is like having a break. I really do get that. As I said, from many school holidays and the summer I had from June-mid August...etc. I'm always a bit relieved that I do have that change of scenery.

myjob P wakes usually around 7 ish and goes back to bed anywhere between 9:30 and 10:30 for an hour or two, she loves her morning sleep. Would N switch to an after lunch sleep now maybe? Maybe she does not want the morning one now or maybe just being stubborn to being put down to sleep when she wants to stay up? P can be like it sometimes but I let her cry it out and then she falls asleep. If she does sleep for 1/2 hour and something waked her she then does not go back to sleep and is grumpy until her afternoon sleep. It does sound like her being stubborn as P does that too and can be falling asleep on the rail, they just dont want to be away from the fun and games, its hard especially when you know they need the sleep.

DD1 has this sickness bug ? like your DS csws She was sick fri afternoon and night then nothing until last night! Not sure what to give her really, nothing dairy and just plain I suppose?!

star Work is tiring what ever you do as you still have to get up and get organised at home and for work and you have planning and homework too, people think teachers have an easy job but I believe it is bloody hard work! And as for not having a reason to be exchausted because you work is rather stupid! You will off course be shattered. You work and have a child of course its tiring. People dont understand! Sorry, I have no idea if that makes sense as tying to entertain Phoebe and Lydia at the same time as typing....basically I agree with you

I just reread my posts from this morning and realize I sound like a total whingy complaining b*ch. I mean, twunt

lol at star calling herself a twunt.

Start a thread re the ADs and ttc hmm - there are def people on mn with experience of this, but not necessarily on this thread.

Busy but good day here. Went to lunch with some good friends (dd's godmother) and other good friends (our best man and his wife) who we haven't seen for way too long (certainly not since ds was born!) were there too, so it was lovely to catch up, and tell them our news.

Sounds like a fabulous day, csws Was it you that said you had put a cup of water in with D? Did you mean IN his cot or in his room? Can't remember exact words. I know it's a big no no to leave a bottle in a cot (Q has never had a bottle at home so never been a problem as he was previously just attached to me but is it ok to put a sippy cup in the cot with water in case they wake and are thirsty? Q has been waking thirsty for water quite a bit lately and I'd love to just stick one in the corner by the mattress and side. I know the bottle thing is because of ear infection with babies laying flat and drinking... Q sits up to drink from his sippy cup every time... would that be ok?

Just popping in quickly. But before I forget...

Myjob - I was thinking about that standing up half asleep thing and talking to dp about it. We reckon it was at its height when S was just learning to walk. It was almost like he couldn't help himself, it was instinctive. He had to be on his feet. I've realised that he hasn't done it much recently, and he's quite a confident walker now. N's learning to walk at the moment isn't she? Could that be a part of it?

Back later.

So, are we having a christmas/holiday/winter party/gathering/meet up/"do" ??? I thought we were going to Ronshar's

Just popping to mark my place and to add....

Ooooo Christmas meet up yes yes yes.

Myjob - I agree with aubergenie. They do seem to have trouble sleeping around developmental leaps. Pistachio and I were discussing it as M wasn't sleeping very well then suddenly started walking & her talking improved. It could be that. Also if your instincts are telling you she's scared, then don't forget that separation anxiety peaks at this age.

I have had my very beautiful, very slim friend round for dinner today. Her soon to be ex-husband is is the "C" version of a Twunt. He started an affair with his boss when they're ds was born (he' just turned one). When she suspected him of cheating on her & questioned him about it he convinced her that she was going mad & she ended up on anti-depressants because he convinced her she was paranoid & unreasonable. Now it's all got really messy and she's having a really hard time.

Hmm - Hurrah for the weight loss!