May 2008 bubbas: Walking, Talking (& climbing!) Little Monkeys

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Thought we deserved a new thread

LM it's a tricky one, what's your gut feeling? If someone said you couldn't work at one which one would you be more upset about not working at?

I don't envy your decision. I start work on Tuesday, trying not to get myself het up about it. Although I have a big bridge preparation booked in the 2nd week and bridges are not my strong point... Just keep trying to stay calm!

That is a tricky one (and thanks for the warning about FB... I just nearly posted something on there!)... Is there any way you could combine the two jobs? So you work at the private hospital for some of the time, but still continue with parts of the NHS (like the hydrotherapy)... I'm guessing not, as I am sure you would have thought of that.

It's all very quiet here today Haribo is getting a bit better but is SOOOOO tired. he's asleep again now (Only got up at 7:30) Poor little mite. On the plus side, he's managing to keep food down him now - hasn't puked for well over 24 hours and he did a poo this morning (sorry, prob. TMI but I was very pleased!!!) but he is just super tired. I think it's just him getting over the infection, but I'll be pleased when my little dynamo is back on form.

And poor little mimi is under the weather too. She has a really bad cough and she choked a bit this morning. It really was nothing to worry about, but it really freaked me out. I just thought for a fraction of a second she was actually choking. I know it sounds a bit melodramatic, but I was literally shaking holding her afterwards.

I'm taking them both to the Paed this afternoon. I just need a little reassurance. I don't know why, but I'm feeling a bit nervous about being on my own at the mo. I think I had sort of thought that we'd be out in Germany for at least some of the time by now and it looks more and more likely now that DH doesn't want us to go at all. Plus, I'm in a fluster about DDog.. On one hand, I desperately don't want to get rid of him, but on the other, I can't put the kids through many more weekends like last weekend

I'd better stop waffling. I hate feeling like this. It's not like me at all.

Hope everyone else is well. MM - How is your dad?

Baiyu - Hope you are settling in OK an dnot missing bonnie scotland too much.

HM x

Oh HM I really feel for you with this latest DH problem. I think you are expected to compromise far too much! Your dog brings you pleasure and much needed companionship all through the week and you missed him hugely when he was away, I think it's totally unreasonable to ask you to give him away IMHO. It's the same as the spotless house issue a few months ago isn't it? Sounds as though your DH wants to come home to a perfect, clean, just like a hotel/disney film house/children/wife for a few 'aren't we all so gloriously happy' snapshots and isn't very interested in the nitty-gritty of family life. Sorry that's really harsh, I really don't mean to be rude! I just think he should take a long hard look at his priorities and appreciate all that he has! Would he ever consider changing job and being at home more? Then he might not live in such a bubble. He might not find the same salary so lifestyles and maybe even houses would have to change but money doesn't buy happiness! You clearly have your priorities in order, I think he needs to take a long hard look at himself before criticising the way you live.

Sho I'm inspired by your big life changes, you clearly have a lot of guts and determination! Very glad your DD is on the mend too.

fuzzy Brilliant news about the change of job, I definitely think it's worth a bit less money to have a job that's more enjoyable. I'm not in London, I'm in Cheltenham, much more provincial. Or actually outskirts of Chelt to be accurate. Still haven't met a soul. Went along to a bookstart rhyme time at the library yesterday all keen and ready to be social. Not a single person showed, how depressing.

Same dilemma for you LM! A really hard one, I'm sure once you've made the choice, either way, you'll feel better and won't look back! Good luck.

niknak how clever is your DS!

Oh and HM re cot/bed. We tried it for a few days only but DS just escaped all the time, we decided he wasn't really a good enough sleeper yet (massive understatement!) so have used his travel cot since then as it has much higher sides.

All ok here but DS is teething again so very grumpy and clingy. DH is in day 3 of new job and I think he's really liking it which is a relief after moving all this way! He's totally knackered with all the information overload, think he was in bed by 9 last night! Don't think our TTC efforts will get very far this month!

Thanks girls for your support. Sorry if I am boring you with it all.

The details are (will try and keep as brief as possible!)....

NHS Awful manager, lots of arrogant alpha males who are less qualified than me but see me as some pathetic part timer who has 2 kids....the current physio dept is relocating next year and we don't know where we will all end up, probably a shit-hole to be honest as the NHS has no money. All the things I like about my job won't be there in 6 months (potentially). I love hydro but the woman who is my admin lady is crap and I hate working with her, she's useless. Everyday at work I get more and more stuff put on me, cos I'm one of those 'yeah I'll do that' kind of people...and I do actually get jobs done so I get put on I think. HOWEVER I like the people I work with closely on a daily basis. Because I am managerial, I can block out a lot of time in my diary to do admin so I don't treat patients all day long so it's a good mix.
Better money. More holiday and better pension.

private hospital. MUCH nicer environment. Closer contacts with all the Consultants. Easier parking (that's actually quite a problem in current job).
The thing that worried me last night is that if I do go there, I may have to work more hours to make up the money as they want to pay me less per annum. I don't mind working more hours in principal, but I would be seeing patients back to back all day long, they only get half hour lunch. I would have to do 10 hour days. I think quite simply I would be physically exhausted as it's a very physically demanding job. I wouldn't have the break up of my day with managerial jobs. My shoulder is still not 100% and I only did 2 hours there last night but had 3 'heavy' patients and I couldn't sleep with pain last night.

HOWEVER The manager at the Private place is very keen for me to set up a hydro service there, using a local private gyn pool. If I could do this, it would break up my day with hydro, and it would be less stress on my crap body.

I just need for that to be very feasible. I am working on it!!!

Sorry to bore you all. Hope that makes more sense? HM I don't wanna do half and half cos I think even if I did 4 hours a week NHS they would expect me to do what I did full time!!!!

NIKNAK That's a very good way of looking at it....which would I more more gutted NOT to work at.....hmmmmm

Baiyu Did you see 'Curry Corner' in Cheltenham on F word last night?

HM Hope your two are getting better. I had sickness in young kids....much better when they know to do it in a bowl!!!!

Fuzzy well done on the new job....

LM xxx

Well, quick update from me...

Today has been super stressful. Haribo seemed to have turned a corner this morning and I almost cancelled the Paed appt. But, wanting to get Mimi checked too, I thought... well I'll keep it... Around 11, haribo just lost it. SImply couldn't stay awake, just drifting in and out of sleep and not really 'there' when he was awake and his temperature rocketed...

Turns out they both have tonsilitis (on top of colds, coughs etc) and Mimi is on really strong ABs to stop it developing as haribo's has.

They have been soooo good to me today - haribo took his meds tonight, even though he hates taking anything and they are both now asleep... I feel mentally and physically drained!!!

Baiyu - not rude at all... and the super clean house is still an issue (more so with DDog in attendence ). It really does come down to the fact that DH thinks I don't do much all day apart from mess about with the kids and drink tea.....

LM - Only you really know what's right, but, honestly, my gut feeling would be to go with the private hospital (but with some sort of priviso that you get a few breaks perhaps?). Trouble is, with the NHS, the money / funding issues are likely to increase and increase - more and more people are taking out private medical care... (Haribo and Mimi already have private care sorted and most of my friends kids do too) and it's more likely that the parts of your job you enjoy will become more and more stressed and (for me) working environment is more important that actual wages (but appreciate that my PoV is not yours)

Fuzzy - is tomorrow your first day in the new place? Super good luck if it is!!! and Niknak - good luck with your job too!!!

Sho - How is DD now?

Bellared - Are you still here?

Well, will probably be on here even more than usual-- lots over the next two days, as my two are officially in isolation until the AB's kick in. Oh, the joy. At least I have DDog to walk

Hm x

HM Poor you....I really hope your DCs get better soon. Must be very hard coping with 2 poorly children on your own. I hate it when they're ill.

My gut instinct is private too....

HM I hope you and yours are now on the mend and you have a better weekend with DH.

LM I'm sure you'll make the right decision, do you think it's just the thought of leaving all you've ever known? I know when I made up my mind to leave my last permanent job I felt a whole lot better. At least you'll stay in the same place if you go for the private option?

HM, yeah I lost the thread on the 'I'm on' bit and got a virus and it really fooked the laptop up for a day. So no-one use Nod32/Esnet anti-virus!

All quiet here, I went for an interview last Wed and they said I would find out this week. I rang them earlier as I am impatient and the girl in HR said she would get the interviewer to ring me back. Still waiting.

I'm getting fed up with being out of work and am desperate for a job. I'm not after a silly salary either just £15k as a start. I've seen a few jobs but they involve some Saturday working which is a no-no as DH has Chron's and is sporting his colon outside on his chest, it's prolapsed too (so if you can imagine a large aubergine sized appendage hanging out that's a good guess at the size and shape!) so he can't pick up and run around after DS and Mother wont drive the 9 MILES here as she doesn't like going on the M.Way even though there are 3 other routes that take you on the B roads (I can't drive and DH is currently working 84hrs a week as no-one where he works will do any extra, luckily its a sit down job).

DS has a strange obsession with anything containing water. The dog bowl or toilet bowl! He didn't have his PM sleep today so hopefully he'll sleep tonight. I've noticed that if he doesn't have a sleep in the day he/we have a rubbish night with him. He's still not talking yet either!

Sorry about the essay!

HM, sorry to hear about the LO's, It's bad enough with one so I can't imagine how your feeling too. Have you got a large tin of emergency chocolates hidden anywhere? It's even more annoying as there is someone who can help but seems not to. It just goes to show that all mums have superpowers but the one missing is telekinesis (Is that the mind power that moves stuff? That's what I mean) so we can throw things at people.

LM, Fuzzy & NN - It's good to here all is going well with the jobs good news at last! I am terrible on the first day all sweaty hands and babbling on and end up making a muppet of myself!

MM, I had a kitchen and it was one of the best presents ever! Wonder if that's why I live in mine now??

I have however managed to eat almost a full large tin of Quality Street since Saturday (DH had about 10 of them). My excuse is that I want the cellophane wrappers to stick onto paper with DS!

And breathe!

XX

Bloody hell! That was a post!

Hello!

Hows things in the HM household? Hope you are feeling better? How long are you in isolation for? If you like I will send you some chocolate in the post?!!

LM Its a real dilemma about the job, if only you could find a middle road somewhere... such a shame there doesnt seem to be that option. I hope you make the right decision for you, and ultimately one that makes you happy.

bella good luck with the job hunt - I think you said your from around manchester? I am too, and the jobs on offer are practically non existant.

Well DD1 has bloomin worms! So we are all having to take worming stuff.... the bad thing is i have really bad obsession about germs, bordering on ocd... and I keep seeing worms all over th house (in my head of course) its freaking me out!!!!

DD2 full of cold (which she has kindly passed onto me) and I have a sore throat... one thing after another!

My last day in my current workplace tomorrow before i transfer to another place, cant wait!!

Hope everyone is ok xxx

Oh it sounds like all the kiddies are falling apart just now! Hope they all get better soon!
The primary school in my village has a role call of approx 50kids, and almost half have been off the last few weeks with suspected swineflu. Fortunately it looks like dd has managed to dodge the bullet so far.
Thank goodness for her been at home for 2weeks with the Impetigo. HM she is back to her normal self now thanks, and by eck she has got her appetite back! She still has a lot of marks around her mouth but fingers crossed they will fade.

fuzzy good luck in the new place

Well I have a busy day today. I still need to pack for Manchester, as well as tidy the house, and work and we leave straight from work. Im really looking forward to seeing all the family, we havent been down since October last year and there have been a few babies born since then.

Have a good weekend everyone
Sho x

Well I fancied a change of snack.

FP good luck in your new place!

Hi Fuzzy! I'm from Urmston but live in Leigh (for now) hoping to move to Swinton or Westhoughton next year maybe but we're un-decided!

You sound like me borderline OCD. I'm on bathroom clean up after I've posted then sofa cover wash, kitchen clean then floors before bed.

Can I have your old job? You're right about the non-existent jobs though, I've seen a couple in the local paper but then it's finding Nursery places and that.

I must correct myself on the aforementioned 84 hour week . Last week it was 84 and the week before that 72 and this week 72. It's DS's Baptism on Sunday so DH has to go and pick his Dad and friends up from Northumberland on Saturday and drop them back off Sunday evening. It's about 3 hours each way! So his only 2 days off are spent driving up and down the country.

HM, do you want us to send you random silly things in the post? We want a smile out of you .

BWC is that you NIKNAK??!!!

Yes

bella Haven't forgotten I said I'd email...will do it in a mo with some choice photos of the 'strawberry'. So glad to hear you can 'do' a whole tin or box of quality street on your own in one week....thought I was the only one who did that. I have too many RL friends who are lovely but v skinny and are of the 'no thanks I've had one already' frame of mind. I regularly do whole boxes of biscuits and chocs!! Good luck with the job hunting.

HM how are things today for you?

fuzzy good luck with your 'new' job. Hope it works out better for you.

BWC have you started yet or is it next Tuesday? btw, do you have any tips for how to spot a crap dentist? DH goes to a private one who has very plush surgery with all mod cons but charges IMO phenomenal prices. I go to an NHS one who is nice enough bloke and very good with the kids, but never seems to do much on my teeth....I wonder is he missing stuff or is DH's being typically private (sorry, mass generalisation!) and doing stuff for the sake of it to make money??? IYSWIM. I keep trying to convince DH to go elsewhere but he likes the guy. I personally find him smarmy. Any tips?? In private physio clinics a lot of physios are just out to make as much money as poss and they do rip people off, just wondered if dentistry the same?

Had a rubbish day. Bloody shoulder really playing up again and DD2 is just so heavy now (12KG!!!!!) The number of times I had to lift her in and out of car or out of cupboards/off tables etc today......
Someone brought their puppy to school at pick up time and it ran up to DD1 and she completely freaked out, she was petrified poor thing. It was awful. The mother flet bad but I felt that people would be thinking DD1 was a wuss....then in cuddling her and consoling her DD2 ran off....I bloody hate the school run!!!

fuzzy Is it still Pripson??? God I hated that as a child......

Off to view this pool tomorrow with a view to using it for hydro at private hospital. Looks like heaven huh??!!

LM xxx

LM, send it when (if) you get 5.
What've you done to your shoulder?

DS is coming down with something, he was hot before and has started to cough a little bit. He's woken up twice since he went to bed (7.30) but it's been for his dummy but it might be falling out cos he cant breath, I'll see how he gets on.

Mmmmmm, Scampi NikNaks.....

LM Wow, do you get to have a go in the pool?

It's Tuesday I start, will be pleased when I've got the 1st day over and done with.

Re the NHS/Private Rip off/missing stuff, it would be very difficult to tell. Unfortunately you can have a crap dentist but who has all the talk and everyone loves them, and a good one who gets tripped up by the not so lovely patients and gets a bad reputation which is not deserved. I think it is best to find someone you like. Most NHS practices can't afford the plush surgeries and maybe you don't need anything doing because you look after your teeth? My husband's practice is not very plush and he doesn't charge a lot (he only has a v small NHS contract), but one down the road who we share out of hours with are into their toys and charging. I don't really like their attitude in general life, and professionallt it's not much different. It's such a personal thing, and you don't always get what you pay for.

Every profession/trade can have it's cowboys, but if you and your DH are happy just stick to what you know. Or ask if you want an opinion!

My brother's coming tomorrow to drop off a tv for my parents new flat. Dad in Malaysia on a boys holiday. Got Mum staying for over 2 weeks, hopefully we'll rub along ok. She stayed this time last year when he did the same, I do get on with her but we have problems with my Dad's parents and sometimes I don't want to talk about them, but she needs to.

Sorry enough rambling.

HM thinking of you this weekend, hope you have a calm one x

PS re the chocs, have to buy size 16 trousers for work, only ever done that just postnatal

Thanks BWC re: dentist info.

Yes I would be in the pool treating patients. Went today, it was lovely, all dimly lit and 'moody'. Wheelchair access etc. My only concern is their apparent complainsancy (sp?) re health and safety.....

(me) "so what would you do if someone arrested (heart attack) in the pool?"

(Member of staff) "erm, I'm sure we must have a policy....."

I have unfortunately been spoilt by having a pool in a hospital with several doctors only a crash call away......

Out for dinner with DH tonight...got a new outfit and wanted an excuse to wear it....

bought these gorgeous shoes (in red) and then had to buy a dress to go with the shoes..... then needed an excuse to wear them so told DH I would take him out for dinner to say thank-you for being so wonderful .

Must go and get tarted up!!!

LM xxx

Ahem, a week to eat a whole tin of quality street???? my god, I could actually eat it in one day if I let myself

LM yep it is pripson, it wasnt tooo bad! I'm not sure its worked tho as DD1 still itching like mad at night
have a good night out with dh, lady in red

I love red shoes and have many pairs, hope you're having a good night out

Had a lovely night out ta. Lovely meal (courtesy of Tesco coupons.....what a gippo!!!) and wore my red shoes for the first time...I have one foot a bit bigger than the other so my right foot was numb most of the night....but hey ho!!

Had a breakthrough this morning. I've been taking the girls to mid-week mass as it's shorter and quieter...a lot easier to cope with them on my own (DH doesn't come). I've been feeling that DD2 is getting easier so thought I would brave Sunday mass on my own today....and it was lovely! Both girls were good as gold!! DD1 just sat reading her books, and singing the hymns and saying the prayers (she does them at school now so she's very into it!!!). DD2 sat reading books or just cuddled up to me (awwww!) and it was just really lovely special time. DD1 said that she likes mass cos it's 'special Mummy & girls time'....

Off to my sister's for a couple of hours with DD1 to do some crafty stuff with her. My sis found out that one of er school friends committed suicide yesterday so she is very and needs some Sophietime...

Hope you are all having a lovely Sunday!

LM xxx

LM Your poor sis, suicide is such an awful thing to deal with .

Had a busy Sunday, have busy Monday planned, then work eeeeek!

Prob won't have time to come on here tomorrow as at work all day so Good Luck BWC!!!

LM xx

Hi girls

Sorry I haven't been around for a few days - so uch to read through!

Will come back and say hi tomorrow. Hoping everyone is okay and happy. Especially you HM and her lovely babies

MM