THOM, its so hard isn't it. I do that all the time, think 'mum would like that' or even my dad who died nearly 4 years ago. A while ago there was something on tv about the Mary Rose and he was one of the divers involved in the recovery and raising of her and I was going to ring him
dinky I think it does help being able to visit them (they are both in the same grave with my brother who died age 3) but I'm sort of dreading leaving them next month if that makes sense. Made a start on sorting out some of the bags of stuff I brought back from mums when I went over a month ago and what is spooky is the envelope I pulled out was a picture of their grave, obviously a few years after their first son was buried and my older brother putting flowers on it. It makes me sad that the gravestone was never replaced after my dad died (think mum developed ostrich syndrome) and one thing I insisted on when I spoke to my brother a few weeks ago (the one I'm talking to!) is that I want the grave done, ie new surround, gravestone etc with all their details on. I don't care if I have to pay for it all myself, I want it done as it makes me sad seeing it all abandoned. Felt better today brightening it up with the rose bush and will plant something else next month when DH is over, just before I leave.
Sorry, doom and gloom over!
THOM hope Mr T is ok. I remember DD1 getting it really badly when she was just over a year old and she kept rubbing her eyes and her mouth and had it everywhere poor little thing. DS1 had it very mildly and I hope Mr T gets it in a very mild form.
meet up Checking my diary I am definitely free on the Friday of that week so could do anytime (will also have DCs 1 and 2 for crowd control and help on journey. Ref the Monday, have something on from 10am to 11am but could be up there by about 1pm if thats the only day everyone can do