August 2008 - 8 months and still not sleeping though the night....

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you'd think after 33 threads we'd have all the answers by now.

Dizzy thanks yes I was looking for a dress as no point me buying seperates as I might at least get some wear out of a dress here (too hot for much else).

I really like the ones from Phase 8. Think I have tried most of the ones in Monsoon on (they have one here) but was most disappointed when none of my usual size would fit over the norks!

I really really wish you hadn't sent the 275(can't find pound sign on desktop) one because it is gorgeous and very 'me' but don't think I can justify it (especially as the only credit card I have is on DH's account so can't even hidy it away!

do you not have any weddings or occassions to go to later in the year that effectively half the cost of the dress?!?

How are you feeling this morning hotter?? buckets love the idea of dogflap btw
On the subject of dogs I watched Marley & Me the other night (actually blubbed a little) and I vowed to appreciate my dog more as she really is good.

halve, half? am never sure sorry

this was the dress that I had for DD2 for the christening so I think I'm going to list it back on ebay no point in keeping it dress for christening

No worries. May have a chat with DH ply with wine and convince him

No weddings but a few champagne brunches coming up (basically buffet lunch with every possible type of food you can imagine and free flow champagne)! One of the really great things about Singapore.

no problem, its a silly way I have of justifying spending more money on things than I normally would

Good lord you've all been busy yesterday and this morning.
Tis 10.30 here I am still in my pjs, baby is dressed - but ony in a vest and tights, I have walked her on the balcony for 45 mins resulting in exactly no naps and I have just eaten over half of the cake I made yesterday.

Bums.

Expectant I don't think a german cigar is a euphemism (sp?) for aything, just one of those random things you get on language cds.

Would this bug you?

DH got home at 6.45, popped his head round the door too tell me he was going out again.
He came back half an hour later with a kettle and a cool box.
The baby was settled, I had tidied up the days mess and put the dinner on.
He settled down with a beer and barely moved all night.
I went to bed at 10, baby woke at 11.3o, just as he was coming to bed so I asked him to settle her, he refused saying she was probably hungry. AFter I fed her he took her for 15 minutes, couldn't settle her and gave up.
So after a day of being woken at 4.30 and getting up at 6, my DH deigned to spend 10 minutes helping me out.

I definately think he is avoiding bath and bedtime. he used to the bath every night, but since we moved here and I insist on a 6pm bath he finds a reason to be out doing something else at that time.

But so difficult to say anything without getting my head bitten off and told that I must take responsibility for the decision of bathing the baby early and deal with the outcomes.

I'm not raving angry at him, just disappointed and very very tired.
Baby woke at 11.30-12.30, 2.30-3 and then 5.45-6.45 and then up for good at 7.

I am going to go on a marathon walking session today so she will catch up on some sleep and then do a very early bath - DH will be out doing the shopping so no-one to argue with me.

steaky he's being a childish PITA sorry but he is. Am not sure what else to advise you as you can't sod off out for the day and leave your boobs behind. Just try to enjoy your lovely girl, ignore all his shite, pile up his rubbish etc out of your way but don't 'do' it iyswim and hopefully he might take a hint

DH had less than ah hour at home the other day (he worked from 9 am till midnight ) and in that hour he managed to unload a huge supermarket shop from my car and feed Dylan her lunch to give me time to put the shop away - now am not saying he's brilliant by any means and he does still need a LOT of nagging direction BUT fecking hell he knows he still has to help out

cake looks lovely btw and no wonder you've eaten more than half

I was trying really hard not to moan about him here too, benefit of the doubt and all. And he does cook 3 or 4 nights a week, however this is another reason to not help with Izzy.

I feel like he is just doing it to prove a point, but it is him missing out on time with Izzy which I wouldn't mind but it is her missing out on time with him too.

The way I look at the domestic stuff is that I want it done so I'm doing it for me and Izzy and keeping on top of things keeps my life easier.

Right, the is baby smothered in yoghurt so it is probably time to get my arse into gear.

I made it with oranges as had no lemons. It comes out like a baked cheescake, but a bit softer. Although I might have not left it long enough, it is still delish.

moan away, its what we're here for. I sometimes wonder if they're slightly misguided re things? Does he believe he is doing you a 'favour' but cooking those times? when DH is here I make sure I cook and he does the bath whether he likes it or not if he's doing the bath I can clean up the kids dinner thing, tidy a bit, a touch of ironing etc and it gives me a badly needed break from them

I love my kids, I really do but bloody hell they're constant, not just them but everything that goes along with it and maybe its a sad reflection on my life that I consider 5 minutes peace and quiet to do the pots & pans as my time but bloody hell its all I've got and I'm clinging to it

have you tried the old 'sweetheart, you haven't seen Izzy all day, why don't you give her a bath tonight and we'll both cook a meal afterwards?' routine?

actually more like 3/4s eaten.

that and my DH's idea of a meal is cooked waffles, cold beans and slices of cheese inbetween so cooking not really his thing!!!

Oh so misguided. I occassionaly go on strike, just go and lie down and refuse to move so DH has to do something.

gah,stinky baby bum, so i really have to go.

morning all
can't believe its 11 already! I'm really hoping DS wants a nap soon because there's a shower with my name on it upstairs!
we're still getting hundreds of wake ups but hey ho. you'll know when we have a good night because i'll be on here saying "we only had four wake ups!!!!"

I really don't understand all these DPs/DHs who haven't changed many nappies. I guess i'm lucky with mine. If I worked out how many nappy changes we've both done in proportion to the time we've spent with DS. DP's would probably be higher. Not sure i've explained that v well! What I mean is that if DP and I are both here, DP is more likely than not to change DS. I obviously do more overall because he's out during the day. Not sure i've made it any clearer, i'm going to jump out of my pit now!

dizz i know what you mean about washing up time being me time!

Miamla - I understand what you mean - it is the nappy to time spent ratio. Still not sure DH's would be higher than mine though. Whenever we are together as a family he tends to cop out defer to me as the mother.

I got my shower, I put Izzy in her baby seat in the baby bath and let her play while I washed, otherwise I would have been going into town in my pjs. I'm all for playing up the Crazy Eengleesh Laydee but not quite that far.

Dizzy I like the sound of your DH's cooking.
Mansteak cooked roast beef the other day, it was erm a very english roast too and not in a good way - burnt on the outside an either end and tough as boots inside. It is actually the fault of the oven that is very fierce.

Busy morning here!

So sorry to hear about your job hp. At least there won't be any pressure on you when you go back as they'll expect you to be demotivated. You can then take you time to find the right thing (and MN ).

Welcome back VG! So glad you had a fab hol. We too spend childhood hols there but must admit that my abiding memory is of sitting in traffic jams on burning hot black plastic seats (oh the joy of the '70s). So... what was the farm like? [tentative emoticon]

Sorry to hear mansteak is employing such a range of avoidance tactics steaky. My DH is out before they're up in the morning and aims to be back in time to put them to bed. It's always non-negotiable` that if he's around at that time, during the week he does that and I do dinner. It's my favourite part of the day . My Dad was away for long periods throughout my childhood but when he was home my Mum was absolute that he had to do bedtime. The whole physical contact thing aiding bonding (and being a big help ).

I'm lucky to have a helpful DH on the nappy front too. Am sure he does more, proportionally, than me, esp. with DD2, as he feels that it's a way of evening up the parenting stakes as I'm the only one who does the milk. I like this thinking!

Sorry to hear about your friends' loss no1 and the broken relationships sibh and no1. Despite having a pretty acrimonious divorce, my parents now get on (rather unnervingly) well. I suspect that now, not only are they happier in themselves, but they get on better than if they had battled on and stayed together.

Such a shame DD2 doesn't fit that Monsoon dress Dizzy. I can imagine it would have looked fab on her. DD1 also woke up on the day of her sister's christening having grown and didn't fit her dress. Luckily though I too had a back-up intended for some later date.

Lovely dress suggestions there expectant from dizzy. Must admit to not being a shoe lady , but those shoes could persuade me to take interest in future. They're gorgeous! In the end I wore this for DD2's christening. Worked out well as I just added a brown shrug cardi thing and already had some brown heels that are tres comfy.

Eek and at the length of that. Sorry.

sazzles - not sure I got round to sharing my DD1's bunny clock gem.... One morning when she'd obviously been awake for a while, waiting for the bunny to 'wake' so that she could come in to us, she appeared in our room declaring that the bunny must be dead because he wouldn't wake up .