October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs pt ll

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok lets try here ladies!!!

[LisaLessLumpy]

Morning ladies

Inzi WOW!!!! That is fantastic, well done

Dal Feel for you regarding your parents, as Mine has said we don't know them so it is hard to give advice, but from what you have said I think you should do what you feel is best for your immediate family, and that seems to be to stop contact again. You have given it another shot and they have not learnt from past mistakes, so your conscience should be clear. I hope you sort it out soon {HUGS} xx

We are just settling down to watch the Grand Prix and then we are going to spend the day in the garden getting it ready for (hopefully) a good Summer. Its glorious here today so the boys are going to love being outside.

[Dalrymps]

Hi LLL!

Thats right, my consience should be clear, although I feel they're doing their best to make me feel that it isn't. I've had enough, I did the right thing, they didn't appreciate it or try to act differently. I am happy with my life without them in it.

Hope you have a lovely day in the garden

[muppetgirl]

Dal,
Sorry they're still being shte. I would stick to your guns about what you want irrespective of what they want. I would say look at the fact that they have 3 children (sorry if I've got that wrong ) and only 1 is really talking to them. They* have the problem, not you and dh otherwise you would all be playing happy families!

ALice glad all was okay in the end, so easliy done though xx

My dad is being a Sh*te too. He phoned yesterday at 3.30pm asking if he could pop round to drop Ollie's pressie off. (he lives 40 mins away and has a history of being late) I said it was a bit late as we were going food shopping to which he replied 'food shopping?!?!? Who goes food shopping at this time of day?. Hormonal me saw red and then said 'Those who are prgt and have 2 children and need their dh's to help them. Plus if you have no food in the cupboard you have to go...' He said 'All right I didn't want a lecture...'

He then asked when could he come round to drop the pressie off (making out to his girlfriend in the background that he's tried many times when I'd hread nothing from him in 7 days) and I said 'How about his actual birthday which was over a week ago????' (My dad thinks it's eccentric of him to forget birthdays and also says he has to wait to the end of the month before he gets paid yet he has money to go out most nights with his friends.) My sil says -he's a man why do you expect more from him? I find that annoying as why should he be excused just becasue he's a man? What a crappy sterotype that is partonising to men surely? Women hate any sterotypical references to their gender.

2 Years ago he origanised what we should buy him for his birthday -a ring and matching cufflinks - that cost about £700 (Oh yes, you are reading that right!) and he wondered why both my brothers and I said no. He said -Am I not worth that to you? You can afford it between the 3 of you... I felt crap becasue both my brothers went balistic and dad showed no understanding of why they were so upset. He forgets EVEYONES birthday every year. Yet can arrange for a ridiculously expensive one for himself.

...and breath



It's really hard to come to terms with the fact I actully don;t like my dad... He's extremly selfish, mysoginistic to the ectreme (why have a careeer when you will just have babies?) always negative (yet he thinks he's an eternal optomist) speaks to me as if I'm 4 and stupid and THINKS HE IS RIGHT ON EVERYTHING!!!!!! (He was even telling me how to do my job when I was teaching and I actually asked him where his degree certificate was )

Families, what a bunch of weirdos!

[muppetgirl]

Dal,
Sorry they're still being shte. I would stick to your guns about what you want irrespective of what they want. I would say look at the fact that they have 3 children (sorry if I've got that wrong ) and only 1 is really talking to them. They* have the problem, not you and dh otherwise you would all be playing happy families!

ALice glad all was okay in the end, so easliy done though xx

My dad is being a Sh*te too. He phoned yesterday at 3.30pm asking if he could pop round to drop Ollie's pressie off. (he lives 40 mins away and has a history of being late) I said it was a bit late as we were going food shopping to which he replied 'food shopping?!?!? Who goes food shopping at this time of day?. Hormonal me saw red and then said 'Those who are prgt and have 2 children and need their dh's to help them. Plus if you have no food in the cupboard you have to go...' He said 'All right I didn't want a lecture...'

He then asked when could he come round to drop the pressie off (making out to his girlfriend in the background that he's tried many times when I'd hread nothing from him in 7 days) and I said 'How about his actual birthday which was over a week ago????' (My dad thinks it's eccentric of him to forget birthdays and also says he has to wait to the end of the month before he gets paid yet he has money to go out most nights with his friends.) My sil says -he's a man why do you expect more from him? I find that annoying as why should he be excused just becasue he's a man? What a crappy sterotype that is partonising to men surely? Women hate any sterotypical references to their gender.

2 Years ago he origanised what we should buy him for his birthday -a ring and matching cufflinks - that cost about £700 (Oh yes, you are reading that right!) and he wondered why both my brothers and I said no. He said -Am I not worth that to you? You can afford it between the 3 of you... I felt crap becasue both my brothers went balistic and dad showed no understanding of why they were so upset. He forgets EVEYONES birthday every year. Yet can arrange for a ridiculously expensive one for himself.

...and breath



It's really hard to come to terms with the fact I actully don;t like my dad... He's extremly selfish, mysoginistic to the ectreme (why have a careeer when you will just have babies?) always negative (yet he thinks he's an eternal optomist) speaks to me as if I'm 4 and stupid and THINKS HE IS RIGHT ON EVERYTHING!!!!!! (He was even telling me how to do my job when I was teaching and I actually asked him where his degree certificate was )

Families, what a bunch of weirdos!

[muppetgirl]

sorry!! 'puter went strange on me so I pressed the button again (how many tmes have I told children not to keep pressing the button )

[alicet]

Inzi nice one on the national! Treat yourself to some lovely new clothes aftr losing all that weight!

Dal and muppet sorry to hear you are having family problems still. Some people are just so wrapped up in themselves aren't they?

Dal I agree with Mine that if they are causing this much upset I would back off. They will be bound to play the hurtful 'you are keeping us from our grandson' thing but if they can't even acknowledge their part in this despite being estranged from your brothers too for similar reasons then they are better out of your life.

We have been spending most of the weekend looking at various options for flooring for our new house so not really taken advantage of the ncie weather. Off to a soft play party soon too - would much rather be outside but the boys will have a lovely time and I will get to see a lot of my friends which will be fab.

[muppetgirl]

Alice -sounds silly but make sure they sweep the floors before laying the carpets and they don't leave any rubbish behind! All our street have dark lines on the cream carpets due to the floors not being swept beofre the carpet was layed and the dust/rubble/dirt has come through. Also a neighbour found a drill bit in the middle of her son's floor under the carpet!

If you're having laminate check they have layed it correctly as (we didn't want the flooring we had as the house was sold before us and the previous buyer chose so we were stuck with it) they cut the bottom of the stairs off (bottom step) to push the laminate under and they cut the door frames to put the laminate under instead of butting up to them. You didn;t see this until we took the carpet off the stairs and chanhed the laminate for amtico. The gaps from the cut door frames need to be filled.

I would definately start that snagging list too

[Stefka]

Quick hello from me. Am on Easter holls thank god so was hoping to catch up with you all but of course I am ill now! Just a cold but I feel wiped out. I always get ill at the start of a break.

Anyway I hope all is well. Alice - thanks for telling us about the paracetamol think - I didn't know that. Glad it was all OK.

Hope I can catch up asap - have missed chatting with you all!

[muppetgirl]

..knew it was bad but brother didn't say what happened. NO WAY are dh and I watching that. We're a stupid soppy pair at the best of times x

What you doing with your winnings??

[FloriaTosca]

Oh dear Inzi..thanks for the warning I hate films like that.. I hope the nightmare stayed away. Congratulations again on your National win...I'm sure you have lots of plans for the money..enjoy

Stefka missed hearing from you too... I hope your illness is very briefand you can enjoy your easter break

Dal So Sorry your parents can't seem to change.I think another (briefish)letter explaining that they dont seem to understand or accept that their words and actions distress you and that though you had wanted to include them in your sons life their lack of ability to controll their manipulative urges has led you to now believe that their contact with him would not benefit him at all. (((hugs)))

Muppet Sorry you are having selfish parent issues too it must be so frustrating ...(((hugs)))to you too.

Well after one fabulous nights sleep and 2 good nights with only one wake up(which led to 3 fantastic days with a lovely giggly, happy boy) we ruined the amazing run and had a rubbish night last night...ho hum...still it was nice while it lasted and also gave us 3 good toileting days ..yesterday he was in big boy underpants until 3.30pm without accidents...and only not being able to get into the bathroom because Daddy had locked the door while he showered ruined that record...

[muppetgirl]

Hi Floria!

Well done Alex on the big boy pants!

Have made crispy cakes with Ollie, rice pudding which I am really trying not to eat all of it's the nutneg, I lOVE it! The we're off to a 5th birthday party for 2 hrs. Hopefully both boys will be knackered and want a quiet afternoon.

...fingers crossed then!
xx

LLL- hoping your poo pit isn't broken!!

[LisaLessLumpy]

Good news, it isn't broken, it was just full

[Stefka]

Thanks for the warning Inzi - I am never watching that film. Even hearing about it makes me feel ill.

Bit worried that Dareh isn't eating very well. He ate today a bit of pear a bit of kiwi, some crisps, some yogurt, a bit of soup and a bit of toast and cheese. That's it apart from feeding from me. HV says they eat in 72 hour cycles not 24 so going to see if he eats well tomorrow.

[Dalrymps]

Hi everyone,

Mine - Sorry your DH has undervaluing you, hope he's got his act together now.

Hope you enjoyed your BBQ

Muppet - Thanks for the advice re my parents, you always make me feel empowered .

Sorry your dad is being shit, it shows such a lack of care when people forget birthdays over and over. It's especially upsetting when it's a childs birthday, he should know better! on your behalf, hope he sorts it out!

It's funny that you say he speaks to you like you're 4 and thinks he's right on everything, sounds just like my dad!

Alicet - Thanks for the support and advice re my parents. I agree with all that you say. Hope you had fun at soft play

Stefka - Great to hear from you, hope you're not too run off your feet with work . Try not to worry too much about Dareh's eating, he might just be having an off day or maybe coming down with a cold/teething etc. Maybe just see how he goes. Dylan has just had an off week! Not unusual at all for him though, think it was teething related.

Inzi - Well done on your national win woo hoo! Thanks for the warning re the film, I hate stuff like that and it tends to stay with me for years afterwards too so good job you let me know.

The chute/swing thing you're getting Jane sounds great. We're pretty skint at the moment but we're considering getting Dylan a swing that is on offer at Argos at the mo.

Floria - Sorry the good sleep pattern was broken but I suppose at least you had some good days... Hope you get some more.

I think the idea of a brief letter to my parents is good, although to be honest everything I say to them goes in one ear and out the other . I am going to see if they call again, dh says if they do then he will speak to them and tell them how it is, if not then i'll send a letter.

LLL - Glad your poo pit is ok

Well, i've been doing my Davina dvd again today and my nuscles are ok but one of my legs feels all achey like it's rotting . Also, me knees feel like i've damaged them in some way, must rest tomorrow!

Hi to all i've missed, speak soon x

[CrochetDiva]

aaaaaaaaah!
Have just tried to catch up with what's going on, and given up - will try again tomorrow!

love to all ... what did you want to ask about milk protein and soy thread muppetgirl?

am loving the Easter emoticons ...

[CrochetDiva]

oh, and big hugs to alice! thanks for the tip on the childproof lids - I can never undo them, but it doesn't mean that the children can't!

I'm having to keep a watchful eye on M at the mo' - she's been having breathing difficulties - coughing so badly at night that she makes herself vomit 3 or 4 times a night - anyway, the doc has put her on inhalers ... only little madam has worked out how to take them herself - they're now on a very high shelf so she can't get at them!

Her excema got horrendous a couple of weeks ago too, so she's been on brute-strength steroid creams, antibiotics, and monster emillients to be appled at least 4 times daily ... strangely, she didn't try to take the antibiotics - mind you, they taste vile!

I've had recurrent corneal abrasions caused by viral conjunctivitis, so am using artificial tears to try to stop the damage ...

We're falling apart!

Will catch up with all your comings and goings tomorrow ...

[muppetgirl]

Dal ? you know the Harry Enfield character who says ?you don?t want to do it like that?!? That?s my dad. Irritating at the best of times and patronising at worst.
Well done on doing Davina! X

Crochet ?fab you?re back!!! re the thread, how will it wash? I make all my blankets out of natural fibres and they wash absolutely fine on a cold wash in the washing machine and then dried flat and had no shrinkage yet. Is soya natural? Will milk protein fall apart? (I sound like a real dufuss here )
Am sorry M is not well it sounds awful especially the coughing so much she was vomiting What caused your abrasions? How long will it take for them to get better. Can you see okay?

We?re off to a wildlife park later today. Henry is off food for some reason, he can?t stand anything apart from soft food so I think it?s his teeth. These last 2 are taking an age and causing all manor of problems for him. He woke up really early this morning very distressed and soaking wet poor thing. Am washing like mad as we?re off on holiday on fri, just to a cottage in Cornwall but really looking forward to it. We?re taking the dogs as the house has a run and they don?t mind dogs so it?s the best of both worlds for us all.

Will probably be back later
xxx

[muppetgirl]

My dad says on instant messenger...

So when can I come over with Oliver's B/day present and their Easter eggs?

Muppet says:

Sometime this week in the early evening. If you let me know which one Ollie can stay up. On Saturday I didn't like the way you questioned why anyone would go food shopping at that time of day day and when I explained you then said 'All right, I don't want a lecture'. I wasn't lecturing, just giving you a reason to your stange question. Just beacuse you do something a certain way it does't mean other people do it the same.

I am 6 months prgt, have 2 children and need help at the mo. I am also writng assignments for my uni course as well as being a children's entertainer for the end of term holiday. To say I'm tired is an understatement. Ringing at 3.30pm to ask to come round when it'll take you 40 mins to get here is too late bearing in mind the kids go to bed around 6. I did explain we had to go food shopping and we would then have to get home, cook and feed the children also. I was also annoyed that you said the previous Saturday you'd pop a present round and then we heard nothing from you for a week, you could have posted one out to Ollie quicker.

I suggest you ring up in the morning if you want to come round so we can make arrangements for our day to give you quality time.

Muppet

Dad turned up just before 9 this morning. NO phonecall, nothing just arrived. I was still in dressing gown and quietly fumming.

I HAVE BEEN TOTALLY IGNORED AGAIN!

He said 'have you heard from R??????????'(my brother)

I said yes

dad: when?

Me: Last week

Dad: I email and he never emails me back

Me: then ring him

Dad: But I email him and he never answers

Me: I ring him and have no problems keeping in contact. Have you rung?

Dad: Well, no but I email and he never answers

Me: he's very busy at work as are most people associated with banks. He doesn't answer my emails at the mo. Ring him. Especailly at the weekends when he's not working.

Dad changes the subject....

My dad won't ring my brothers because it costs money. If you phone my brother who works for RBC (Royal Bank of Canada) he always phones back but dad won't even pay the first phonecall cost.

I am so fed up with being ignored by him. He siad he couldn't come round tonight as he was busy as he is wed night and he's away at the weekend. He's known this for a while yet still doesn't 'fit' Ollie in. I can't understand why he has 2 grandchildren near to him yet he never sees them...He forgot Ollie's birthday yet has made no effort to make amends by cancelling some of his own plans to come and see him. He comes first ALL the time!!!!!!!

And another thing....

What nasty marketing comany sends prgt mothers who are very hormonal lovely catalogues of VERY cute babywear. It really shouldn't be allowed

[FloriaTosca]

ooh those evil catalogue marketing people. they sneek up and catch you just when you could do with some serious retail therapy... and you watch , they'll try to wear you down with special offers and discounts especially and exclusively just for you...nasty indeed!!!!

Sorry your Dad is being an a*se ...and a tight one too ...no advice obviously..sorry...but, small consolation that it is, the person who is missing out most is himself..

[Mine]

BREATH Muppet Breath!!!!!

I guess you have to accept that your dad will never change.
Thats the way he is. They are too old to try i think. and the older they get, the more stubborn and pig headed they get!

I have resounded myself to this very fact and now my b*tch of an aunt still bugs me but she can;t quite push my buttons like she used to.

I can;t believe you're 6 months pg already.. where did the time go

[muppetgirl]

..tee hee xxx

My dad is a twat!

yep, got jojo maman bebe and one called frugi today. Such lovely stuff!!!!

Mine I am 27 weeks this coming sat OMG! I an't believe how quickly it's going.

[WhiteWineAndJaffaCakes]

FT - woohoo on Alex sleeping through. Glad you managed to get a good night's sleep as well.

Alice - so glad Sam was ok - how scary for you though.

Inzi - fab news on your Grand National win. Sounds like you are really going to enjoy your winnings.

Dal/Muppet - sorry you're both having a hard time with families. Hugs to both.

Stefka - hope your cold clears up soon. Hope you enjoy the holidays.

Crochet - hope you and M get better soon - sounds like you're having everything all at once.

Having a bit of a tough time at work atm. Since Christmas I've been meeting my targets for getting client appointments but last week I had more than usual and I didn't get the time to phone to make appointments for this/next week - so I got a complete bllcking off my boss in my monthly meeting today. Plus the fact that although I'm busy the quality of the leads is rubbish and I'm not actually getting clients who want to do any business so I got a lecture about having to justify my salary (which isn't great in the first place). I actually phoned an agency this afternoon so I can go back on their books in case any part-time accountancy jobs come up - they're thin on the ground but I need to hedge my bets in case I get sacked. Wasn't really planning to go back to accountancy but I'm just a glorified sales person doing financial services so maybe it wasn't such a great career move after all. Sorry for moan.

Happier note. Anya is loving her easter activities. We had the SureStart easter party on Monday - she met the easter bunny and made an easter card. Today she went to the Trafford Centre where they had a little petting farm set up. Then tomorrow she's going on a "fun bunny hunt in the woods" . Her social life is so much better than mine .

[CrochetDiva]

oh muppet - he sincerely is just being a tw@t ... I also can't believe you're 27 weeks already ...

As for the soy yarn, it washes beautifully and drapes like a dream - much like bamboo yarn - great if you want drapy things, but not much good if you want some body in what you're making.

You're good washing everything in cold water: mine gets bunged in the machine on the wool wash which is at 40!

Oh, and as for the catalogues, the minute you order something, they'll send you an unmissable offer giving you 20% off your next order ... b@st@rds - don't they know that shopping for the new one is one of the only greatest pleasures of all for pregnant women?

Inzi fabulous news on the win - the beers are on you then?

WWAJC - they really don't deserve you - I don't blame you putting your name down for some agencies ...
am also at the kids' social lives ...

Hiya to Mine, Dal, FT, Alice, and everybody else ...

Wasn't going to spend much time on the 'puter tonight, but Ravelry got the better of me!