March 09 - The spring babies have sprung

[jollyjoanne]

Thought I'd start us up a post-natal thread for the new mummies of March 09 (or thereabout!)

Slick

I'm planning on getting tea ready when dd2 asleep in the afternoon (i think she the samw age as your dd 19mths).

Hi Everyone

Glad everyone is getting on ok and babies are behaving!

Matthew is very settled, sleeps most of the day, and night waking every 3 hours for a bf.
Bf still painful, and Matthew has horrendous nappy rash which we think is thrush- he is not responding to caneston, and cries when we change his nappy. We are only using water to clean him.

I am just wondering if perhaps we both have a bit of thrush in breasts and is passing between us both. Any advice?

I feel a little bit depressed also, like sometimes I dont want to leave the house.

Cant help feling that this is due to coping with a newborn and dd 3 and i am also suffering still with episiotomy stiches.

Oh quick TMI question- Lochia is now a creamy colour, not bloody at all (2 weeks post birth) is this normal?

Thanks x

Lily - I was told bya HV that if the baby has thrush then the white patches in their mouth won't scrape off. Milk will. Whether you can get in to try is another matter.

Sorry to hear you're feeling depressed. It could well just be tiredness and it is only two weeks since having Matthew. Keep an eye on it though - are you still seeing a MW or HV ? Maybe mention it if you get the chance so they can keep an eye too.

As for the lochia - I think this is normal from what i've read. That said, I'm still bleeding on and off (usually after feeding or doing a lot) almost 5 weeks after the event. But I think I bled for 6 weeks with dd1 too.

Not much to report here. A better night - only one top up but even after a 15-20 min feed she scoffed almost 100 ml.

Off for lunch with some friends of dd1 today. I say lunch, but it is Macdonalds which I heartily disapprove of, but dd has been nagging and nagging and nagging and I guess it doesn't help to deny these things. Of course I shall insist she has carrot sticks instead of chips and pear instead of an ice cream - laughs heartily...

slick which one do you leave to cry? That is the bit that I am finding hard. Rosie seems to be awake when it is dd1's bed/story time so I am dreading having to do it when dh is not around.

Becuase of the mumps dh is not coming anywhere near Rosie so I rarely get to do dd1's bedtime. Managed it last night - but OMG how she howled when I left her room - she wanted me to sleep on the floor beside her cot (turns out dh actually did sleep on the floor for most of the night!)

I'm also still sterilising all bottles - sometimes they even go through the dishwasher then get sterilised

spooky def don't feel bad about bf being great for you - that is fantastic - and am very of your amazing sleeping baby - what have you got in your breast milk??!

I have a grunter too - squeaks, snorts and grunts with facial contortions! DH and I used to call dd1 a "creature" because of the racket she made at night! Her little sister is just the same!

lily my lochia is kind of creamy though still sometimes a bit bloody. However if you think you have thrush - could you have it down below too? Maybe check with the doc when you go about Matthew. Hope his nappy rash clears up soon - it does sound like thrush especially if you've only been using water to clean him.

Sorry to hear you're feeling down. Keep posting on here and we'll do our best to put a smile on your face. I can still have a cry every so often - when things get too much - or both dd's are crying and I don't know what to do. It will get easier - it has to!

boobz dd1 is still in white babygroes - so no pink here...........yet! Howevr she is going to inherit lots of pink from her big sister who has hardly any hair so needs at least one pink item of clothing or else she might get mistaken for a boy !

*wheely of McDonalds (one of my pregnancy cravings!!)

Lizzie I think I'm going to have to do that too, but it depends if I'm going out anywhere. Maybe do some the night before and reheat.

Meep If I can help it I leave the older one to cry (even tho she is the loudest ) because Fat Boab looks like he'll explode when he really gets going!!

Lily All sounds normal enough to me. I was blubbing til four weeks easily and then suddenly felt tonnes better just this last week. I don't agree that it has to just be a blub on day 5 and anything over that is the start of PND. You have a big adjustment in life and you are completely exhausted most of the time, you don't get used to that over night, and I think a good blub is def in order by means of coping! Like Wheely said keep an eye on it, but sometimes, expecting too much from yourself can make you feel down when you don't meet the expectations. Give yourself a chance and time.

Also get the thrush checked out as I've had it twice with two of mine and am away back to the dr today to try and fix it once and for all.

RE: Nappy Rash - one of THE best miracle cures that no-one ever tells you about is egg white. Mix up some egg white and dab it on with cotton wool, leave to dry without the nappy on and then put nappy on. Do that every time you change his/her nappy and you should see a big improvement almost over night. It's the albumen they say...

Gotta go again, my two wee monkeys are refusing to sleep.....

dh and I have just realised that we haven't registered Rosies birth/name ..... oops! All the paperwork is in dh's office and he won't be back until next week! eek!

I have nevr tried eggwhite slick - will needto remeber that. My favourite is Metanium cream - horrid stuff but works a treat!

I have to say that now with 2 dd's I am a bit more immune to their crying. When dd1 was little I would cry myself if she got going! At the moment Rosie is pretty laid back whereas dd1 is a full on drama queen with howls and tears! I will let you know which one gets left to howl as time goes on........

Yes, I'm pretty sure it'll be me sitting in the corner of the kitchen howling some days....

Hi all,

There is a lost soul that could benefit from an invitation to your group:

here

thanks starlight, she has been cordially invited over here (I am sure she was on our ante-natal thread - I recgnise the names)

I had Noah Charles on the 28th March weighing 8lb 9 oz. He has been very poorly with sickness and loose nappies and been in hospital a couple of times in past 2 weeks so quites scary to b honest.

I would like a little advice on how to sleep him as he is now on lactose free milk as had a runny nappies. He will only go an hour or so in the night so shattered what does anybody suggest. He hates the crib and screams when goes in it. I even brought it downstairs for him to get used to and for some reson will just not sleep in it at all so have had him in the carrycot of the bugaboo but unsur eif this is safe or not- does anybody know?

Has anybody else got any idea how i can settle him a little in the eveings/night. Even during the day he is very unsettled and wants picking up all the time. He is very snuffly at the moment but does not have a cold or anything.

Congratualtions to all other new mummies.. oh this is my 4th baby and nver had one like this!
By meep on Tue 14-Apr-09 13:20:28
hi there babyalfie - come over here to the March 09 thread.

sorry to hear you're having a difficult time. Have the doctors said what might be wrong with him?

I used a bugaboo carrycot as a moses basket for dd1 - propped up on the moses basket stand - perfectly safe as far as I'm aware.

The only way I can settle dd2 at night is to feed her until she crashes out.

Hopefully otheres will have some tips for you on the March thread

Meep you have 6 weeiks to register Rosie so just make sure you're within that time period. Also I had to make an appointment to see the registrar and that took about a week so you may want to do that asap. You can register at any register office but it is easier if you do it in the same Council area as your baby was born, you can probably find the numbers on the relevant councils website.

Sent my form off today for child benefits and child trust fund so Mae should get some money soon. But I've no idea what to do with it. Anyone know anything about finances?

5 weeks in and the bleeding has at last stopped - was starting to think it would go on forever.

Also now feeling much more human, even considering a bit of husband and wife time if we can find chance while Mae is sleeping.

Mae doesn't snort as such but she does snore when she's asleep and when she's awake lying in her cot she will blow raspberries its quite funny.

baby Mae is 5 weeks and still sleeping in her pram at night as it is the only place she will sleep at night. I think it is becos it is smaller than the moses basket or cot. The midwife had said it was ok if it was the only place she would sleep.

hi can I join the party? Amelia born 5th March, 8lb 3oz.

Does anyone have any tips about getting baby to sleep in moses basket? At the mo, we are co-sleeping at night and she naps in her Amby hammock during the day (or on my lap, when she's supposed to be feeding!)Have tried hot water bottle, she is not fooled!

At the beginning she would sleep in the basket, but now she just doesn't seem to like it. Even if she's fast asleep when we put her in it, her bottom touches the basket mattress and her eyes flick open! Part of me thinks that she's just too little and she will settle in it later....

What have you found?

Hi and welcome babyalfie and hoochymama - congratulations on Noah and Amelia.

I don't have any tips on settling babies tbh as I'm struggling myself . I think it will just take time - I guess they've been all cosy and comfy tucked up inside for 9 months being out in the big wide world must come as quite a shock.

Sorry to hear NOah hasn't been well BabyAlfie, I hope he's doing better now - do you mind if I ask a question as I am now paranoid - my baby, Lara, has very runny nappies which I thought was just because she was breastfed (my other daughter was principally formula fed). When are runny nappies a problem ?

On the crying front - I do quite a good job at ignoring poor Lara if I'm in the middle of something... I think it helps to explain to the older one that they both have to learn to wait sometimes (or that's my excuse anyway).

So I survived Macdonalds and actually meep you remind me what a hypocrite I am as I craved it too in early pregnancy. Everyone told me that meant I was having a boy

crossed posts Lula - hello and welcome as well ! Congratulations on Michael

Welcome all newbies!!

Jolly we only have 3 weeks up here (Scotland) to register the birth so it's a bit of a bummer when you're still only trying to get to grips with things to remember that you have to do serious stuff too! Well, you know, other kind of serious stuff.

I'm not having a great day with DS - he's not slept at all, is feeding constantly and needing winded constantly. Can't get a bloody thing done, not had even a warm cup of tea! Took him to the docs for Nystatin for his tongue (thrush) so hope that will clear it up.

Someone was asking about growth spurts? Apparently they are meant to be every couple of weeks or so, but in my experience, all three have been every 5 days so who knows? Mind, with Fat Boab, it seems like every day...

Lula I think you just have to keep trying. We have been warming a wheatbag and sticking it in the moses basket or cot before we put him down so he's not noticing the difference in body heat to a cold mattress all the time. Although, that's only sometimes. Doesn't necessarily mean he'll stay there tho!

hoochymama

Welcome. Are you swaddling (sp) your dd. I found dd1 would only settle when wrapped tight. But both dd2 and ds like to be in those sleeping bags things with their arms free as they both like their arms above their heads.

slick, Rosie was 3 weeks old yesterday! We can't do anything as dh is still contagious. Is Rosie doomed to being a non-person?

Also have an unsettled baby here - awake on and off since around 2pm

Misery loves company, she says weepily. I'm sorry to hear others are struggling with getting their bubs to go down -- but immensely relieved that Rhys isn't the only stubborn little git in the world! babyalfie, hoochymama and lulubellarama, you've got my sympathies and as many sleepy vibes as I can spare.

We're on to a new record, though he's been down (i.e., in his bouncy chair in his cot we're going for the layered look ) for ... ummm ... 50 minutes! And no screams! It will not last. HOWEVER, he did sleep on DP's chest for FIVE HOURS last night. I came snorting awake at 5am with incredibly sore boobs wondering what on earth had happened to 'em.

I'm thinking (perhaps superstitiously) that the fennel oil drops are helping with his digestion and letting him sleep easier. Now it's "just" a matter of convincing him at some point that he can sleep alone...

meep, see if you can beat this non-person story (happened Friday and can only now talk about it without shrieking and gnashing my teeth): 1) We went as required to declare Rhys' birth at the town hall of the commune he was born in. 2) DP's name includes a Junior at the end (think this is strictly a US naming convention -- means that his given names (NEITHER of which is Rhys Patrick!) are the same as his father's). 3) Belgian law requires that the child's last name be EXACTLY the same as the father's last name. 4) No matter how hard we tried to explain, nothing would convince them that the Jr. would make NO SENSE. 5) Rhys' legal name is now Rhys Patrick XXXX, Jr.

It will take an appeal to the Ministry of Justice and a two-year wait to get that COMPLETELY WRONG AND BLOODY USELESS suffix removed from his name. So all of the documentation we need to do now (Belgian passport, identity card, health insurance, etc) will need to be re-done then. If DP's father were alive, I'd kill him.

The only bright spot is that apparently this won't f* up the US paperwork -- we can make a sworn statement and get his US passport and social security number in the right name.

Harrumph.

Hi all,

Meep and Slick I totally sympathise re toddler bedtime - just had a horrendous couple of hours putting dd1 to bed while Melissa was screaming her head off. Usually DP and I take one each for dd1's bedtime but he's off at a gig tonight so I was on my own. I ended up putting Missy down on my bed and leaving her to scream while I got dd1 ready for bed and then going back and forth to calm her down between bedtime stories and songs etc, which obviously wasn't ideal for either of them - but it was the only way I could think of dealing with it! Now, of course, M is sleeping peacefully on my shoulder like she's never cried in her life .

If anyone with two or more has tips on how to deal with this, I'd received them gratefully .

Right, off to watch tv before I crash out

Hello and thanks for the welcomes!

Alot of of you say swaddling is good but hoiw do I do this and I know it sounds a silly question but not done it before and if you could let me know what blanket to but for this.

gosh have to go baby screaming again but will be back in a mo...

N

here, using a cabbage patch doll!!! But the general ideal is there.

Good morning everyone. We were discharged from the Midwife yesterday but not before Lauren was weighed. Her encore was to wee on the scales

Had a day out, took all the girls out to a local Butterfly farm and they had a fab time. Was hoping for the older two to sleep in, but no such luck!!