September 08 Remember what we were doing this time last year?[wink]

[Debs75goldrings]

So what were we all doing this time last year?

Who was it that posted a link before Christmas of t-shirts that you have custom made with your own slogan?

I'd love to get a few:

They'll say: 'I won't trap my fingers!'

well, i just woke M and am giving her a distraction free feed before i collect the major distraction dd1!

thinking of getting one of these if i can 'win' one on ebay. I had one with dd1 and it was fab

me, here Good idea

oh ladies you are all so fantastic, its amazing what a few sympathetic supportive words can do!!

Carnial osteo was fantastic. She reckons he has quite a lot of tension/stiffness in in mid to lower back, possibly from quickish labour or because of all the coughing (he has been bunged up and coughy for 10 weeks now off and on including bronchiolitis). Also the areas either side of his eyes needed some work, again prob from delivery and she thought he was very congested and tried to clear it. Got another session next week. Feel so much better as I finally feel I am doing something to help him (and me!) instead of flailing about in the dark!! Then when I went into work (primary school) I bumped into the yoga teacher who also showed me some manipulation i can do to help loosen things up- she agreed he was quite stiff. So ultimately I can conclude...
a)he's not been feeding fully cos he cant breathe properly
b) because of a) he wants to feed more often
c) because of b) he wakes more in the night
d) if c) isnt happening then he is waking from discomfort in his back
e) if c) or d) arent happening then he is waking up because he cant breathe properly

phew! Also gonna get one of those plug in vapouriser things to try. Anyone used one?

right, off to bed for a snoozy feed

wet a washcloth, put a few drops of eucalyptus oil (and lavender oil) on it. Put on the bedroom radiator.

Starlight How old is your ds, I seem to think around 2? Ds's 'friend' was a lot like ds, active but not talkative and me and his mum came up with different strategies to try and get them to talk. Daft things like not talking to them all day and then talking to them constantly the next. Her son started talking at nursery where she noticed a few kids who had been 'quiet' were now happy chatters.
As for the ocd stuff a lot of kids have a specific thing they are fascinated with. My nephew used to line cars up for hours, sis who was a nursery nurse went through a few months of angst but he just grew out of it.
You're a pretty experienced Mner and there is loads of threads if you get worried for you to have a peek at.

A few pages ago we were talking about bumbo's. Asda are selling the Bebepod for £29. On ebay they are selling higher than bumbo's. They look the same are they just as good?

imoscars / hopefully - thanks for the assurance on the 2 year thing. I also have this feeeling that a second LO could not possibly be as angelic as DD, so I am scared to contemplate. What if we had another and it was a terror? DD is nearly always the best behaved baby anywhere we go. (Obviously nothing to do with my carefully honed parenting skills as I have no idea what I am doing from one day to the next).

Anyhow, my logic is, if I feel I am just coping when I have such a 'good' baby, how would I be with an average or terrible one? Or do you get given a 'good' one to start you off and ease you into the whole thing, so that when the second one arrives you are ready for it?

I can't find what new thread name was suggested. I was wondering about:
September 08 - and the tumbling begins...

Trust me Pony you don't always get a 'good' on first. (Not that a baby can be bad!)

plus i did get one of those vapuor things, but what foxy suggested was far more effective IME

starlight DS walked at 10 months, but not very talkative (unlike now!) - we were told it could have been because he was being brought up bilingual, though I just think it was the way he was developing (DD is far more "talkative" than he was at same age), very much like my brother, same starsign too . he loved opening and closing drawers (and quickly learnt not to get his fingers caught ) and always been obsessed with closing every door he comes across (a part from the bathroom's when I'm having a bath). he still lines up all his cars, or whatever he's playing with but nursery weren't concerned (I think he's trying to teach me how to be tidy )

i just scoffed half a pack of hobnobs with a cup of tea, [pig emoticon]

yum yum

indeed...

we better get a move on with that new thread. What was the name? September 08 - forgot what this thread was called?

ponymum

'DD is nearly always the best behaved baby anywhere we go.'

I believe you, but I expect the other mothers are thinking the exact same thing about theirs. Most mums get to KNOW their own children and plan outings accordingly, but this is much easier to do with the first as there is more flexibility. i.e. not going out to a stimulating place when they are tired. And if they do, make the excuse for their child's behaviour 'they're good really, I just took them on an outing to a stimulating place when they were tired'.

A bit waffly, but what I am trying to say is that IF you are just managing with 1, it is because you are employing strategies, and you'll do exactly the same with your second.

It'll be a little more complicated BUT you'll also be a little more experienced.

Also, even with a fairly small gap, having 2 is nowhere near as hard as I was expecting. In fact, the first is such a shock (and he too was a good baby) knowing what to expect with no.2, I can honestly say that I am finding life actually easier than just having DS in the early days.

I agree with all the above - and I think DS1 was actually not that "good" by comparison, but again thats just maybe me who was rubbish and my circumstances back then. The other thing thats taken me aback is how well my 2 DS's actually get on! I hadn't really anticipated just how close they would be so quickly - DS2's eyes light up already when his big brother comes home from school, and I know there is quite an age gap, but DS1 is incredibly useful at times - calming him in the car, fetching things, generally looking out for him, it's been an unexpected and very welcome bonus!

ninja - yes sorry, I think the correct terms are easy baby or challenging baby! It drove me nuts when MIL was staying and would call DD 'good' or 'naughty'. As if.

plus - Karvol on a paper towel stuck onto the cot with a clothes peg works well to clear A's head. Apparently you shouldn't use Olbas oil even though it's similar - I think there's black pepper in it.

A has slept through again, last night from 10.30 to 6.30am! Now just need to stop my breasts waking me up two hours before he does... Very glad he can sleep that long without needing to be taken on a two hour freezing 2-train+bus journey (this was how he slept the first 2 times). But for some reason the more sleep I get, the more my body thinks it needs and I feel more tired than last week, even though I now don't have a horrible cold.

A has rolled onto his side a few times but not all the way over even though I'm sure he could. He does lots of chatter, lots of happy noises now, but annoyingly they're idenctical to his distressed noises, so unless I look at him I don't know if he's happy or sad!

notcitrus Baby Starlight's laughing sounds just like her crying

Debithescot Thanks for the link. I've had a go, but the image doesn't seem to be appearing. I'll try again shortly.

Debs75 Thanks. DS is just 26months and on 'Autism Observation' whatever that is. It means he'll have his 2yr check with a more qualifited HCP than nursery nurse. He also has a SALT referal and I was sent on a free signing course yesterday which was fab, but totally useless at the same time because my DS rarely looks at me. He is definately 'odd' compared to his peers though, but not necessarily in a way that needs to be 'fixed' iyswim. I guess he's still young.

Pacita I agree with foxy. If you have the energy or inclination you should further/share your bfing knowledge and experience.

Sorry Ponymum not meaning to tell you off.

DD1 was certainly challenging as she rarely slept in the day. I could take her out for a walk when she was tired and after a 2 hour walk she would fall asleep .... for 10 mins. She didn't sleep at night either and would sometimes scream for 2 hours (in bed with me). She gave up day sleeps completely at 18 months, about the time when her night wakings went down to one or two (soem of the time)

She was also very active, rolling around rooms at 4 months, crawling and then walking at 10 1/2 (and I'm sorry for all your theories she was also very chatty)

She's lovely now, but can be quite stubborn. An angel at school though.

Just about to start a new thread - going for 'Sept 08: fear and loathing of the growth spurt' unless anyone can remember/find an alternative!

Have started a new thread here

ooops - I wonder who got there first. One more post left to clarify

So much to catch up on will have to reply to topics not people coz I can't remember it all...

rolling ds did this once, front to back while on a bed, and hasn't tried since so I'm pretty sure it was an accident! It worried me coz dd rolled back to front from about 12 weeks, and she's very chatty, but proof that all babies are different!

swimming I can def recommend a wetsuit rather than swimming costume. Neoprene ones are warmer, but beware the ones that do up with velcro coz it snags on your costume!

christening/baptism As with dd, we'll be getting ds dedicated. In the dedication service we will thank God for the gift of ds, and make promises about how we will bring him up to know Jesus (much like the baptism promises) but there'll be no water involved. Baptism is his choice later if he becomes a Christian.

hair mine fell out in handfulls last time, but not much this time. I wondered if bf delays it? I'm assuming its all hormones related!

Sorry I stole the last post by accident!!