May 2008 Babies....food glorious food....hot sausage and mustard!!!

[LuckyPumpkin74]

New thread as it's Nov so our babies are all hitting 6 months!

Evening ladies

Deathbymonkey - we're doing BLW too. We started last weekend just after Stella hit 6 months and this week she's had baby corn, aparagus, broccoli, green beans, carrots, sweet potato, avocado, banana and cucumber. She didn't like the banana and LOVED the cucumber. I think it was easier to hold (I didn't peel it) and she could suck the soft bit off. It also helped with the sore gums - she's been teething for 2.5 months and still no teeth! Have you got the Gill Rapley new book? I ordered it off Amazon and it arrived the next day. It's well worth it if only to remind you why you're doing BLW. My email is monkeysmama at ymail dot com uk if you want to drop me an email about it. I am by no means the font of all knowledge but it'd be nice to share hits and misses. I am really relaxed about how much she eats (& how much ends up caked on her face and legs!) - "food is fun until they're one" and all that. I am still breast feeding on demand and they get what they need from the milk for now. Dd seems to be eating more some days than others but I think the key is to keep calm around them at mealtimes (says she who is always hovering above the seat waiting to bang dd on the back in case she chokes )

TSO - If we weren't all such FMLs I wouldn't say this but.... Do you know any women who had babies so close together? I have 4 friends with bubbles very close together including the couple who've just been over for dinner. I think it is great in lots of ways but, and I hope no one minds me being honest, I know from the 2 women I am closest too that they find it very hard and seem to find less time to enjoy their kids. I am sure that in a few years they will & it'll be great. Maybe my view is just a bit skewed (spg??) by my sil and bf & ultimately if you want another baby and the window is narrow I wish you the best luck in the world! I emailed you earlier btw.

All going well here. Dd isn't crawling yet though she is getting closer every day but she is standingup !??! She did it for the first time in the bath the other night when I wasn't fast enough in passing her the plastic duck - went from sitting to standing all alone. She did it again today. It is a bit odd isn't it?

We've changed her pram today so she's moved from the carry cot / car seat to the forward facing pram. I feel a bit emotional about it . I love being able to see her see new things and the idea of pushing her out into the road and stuff in front of me is funny. I don't want to be one of those mummies who keeps her LO as a baby for as long as possible but I was secretly pleased when she kept trying to look for me when she tried the new pram for the first time.

I keep meaning to say in response to GDABD that I have a super sis! I complained about dp earlier this weekend but I actually had a great week! I stayed at my mum's (my sister & mum are flat mates) last week and after my sister had whisked dd off for a nappy change and then put her to sleep she came back into the kitchen and apologised for hogging her! The next morning I was served coffee and home made pain au chocolat in bed while mum and super sis played with dd. I woke up 2 hours later to find dd washed, dressed and asleep having been to the park! I will be going back this week!

Okay ladies - dp is watching tv while I use the laptop and listen to music so I'm going to be friendly and pop in and say hi.

Hope you all have a good week and before I forget, GDABD a big and hug to you especially - I hope this week is a happy one.

MM

MM - I got your mail... thanks!!!

I do totally know what you mean about bubbles close together.

I suppose now DH has said OK, I'm wondering whether I might actually regret it (not that you ever regret a baby, but YKWIM). I so adore DS, love being with him, I don't want to spoil it.... I need to be sure....

Hope you are all well and, as MM says, hope you al have good weeks.

TSO As you know my gap between the boys is 23 months. I think this is a good gap, well it is for me. But I don't know how long can you wait? But I am so pleased for you as I know you wanted another baby. But as you fell pregnant by accident last time and didn't know you were pregnant until much later. At least you shouldn't suffer during pregnancy(especially the 1st 20 weeks you are so lucky)
It could take 1 month to fall or it could take 1 year to fall pregnant especially with DH being away so often. I know you will cope whatever gap you have as you are a great mummy to DS.

Well after an eventful weekend of DD having a sickness bug and having to change her and bedlinen 3 times on friday night, being sent home from school on friday at 9:30 after having a seizure. We had lots of snow on sat and sun, so it made up for being stuck in the house and DS1 had so much fun playing in the snow. 10 more nights till DH comes home, not counting the days at all.

Hope everyone has a lovely week

Thanks, Mitchell. There is a good chance it won't happen, but the possibility is there. I can't expect any more from DH!!!

Sorry you sound like you are tough time of it... Your DH will be home soon.

My DH is home all week this week.

If DH has said yes of course it can happen. Just might need to put in lots of practice Enjoy your week off together.

Oh, we are switching... I am off into the office in an hour . DH is taking DS to Monkey Music (he has faithfully agreed, though I won't be surprised if I get home and he bottled it!! haha!!

I can't see DH going to Monkey music

Morning FMLs!

So I went to the GP today, who was lovely. It did feel a bit weird as I have felt good since last week, but I told her everything. She was very helpful and has referred me to a support group, and also given me a prescription for low dose ADs. She also gave me a prescription for more (different) anti-biotics for my chest infection (which I have now had for 2 months and is really getting me down) and an inhaler as I'm getting wheezy and tight chested with the chest infection. She suggested I treat the chest inf first, and see how much of a difference that makes, then try the ADs if I still feel bad. I am hoping not to need them, I didn't even collect the tablets from the pharmacy, but I know I have the prescription in my purse, should I need it.

serious I am in two minds about your second baby dilemma. Obviously I have found it hard, but to be quite honest, I think if I hadn't had PND it would have been fine, as both my girls are good girls. The age gap is exactly 2 yrs (bit like mitchell). I think this is a good age gap as 2 year olds can do quite a bit more than,say, 15 month olds, I know the difference between DD1 at 15 months and 2 yrs was pretty big, mainly cos she could really talk and communicate her feelings, which made a big difference.
I believe that having babies closer together (anything from 2yrs or less) is harder work in the beginning, when they are little, but easier in the long run, when they are older, IYSWIM. Denny had a 4.5 yr old when her DS (now 2) was born. I think she said she found that age gap almost harder as they are at such different levels as far as what to do with them all day long.
I'm also concerned for you that you are on your own all week while DH is at work. I'm not trying to put you off, but as a Mum of 2 little ones, it's incredibly demanding on you both physically and emotionally. How would you or DH feel about maybe getting a live in nanny to help if you did have another baby close together? It would be company for you too??? Just a thought.

monkeysmama I'm glad you have a supersis!! I love my sis to bits, and we are like best mates, but she's actually not as good with my DDs as superbro is. She's not so keen to change nappies!!! She loves them to bits though .
I can't believe your DD is sitting to standing on her own!!! DD2 can stand with a bit of support, but only if I put her there.

mitchell thinking of you lots while your DH is away.....keep counting!! Hope DD is better now, you really do have a lot on your plate.

I just want to say a genuine heartfelt thank-you to you all for your kind words and thoughts while I've been down, it's amazing how someone you've never met can be such a support and a good friend to you .

DD1 is at the CM all day today so I only have DD2 to contend with. I have washing on the line, and the house isn't too bad so I might even wrap some Christmas pressies while she is asleep! Only a month to go!

serious please do let us know how DH got on at monkey music with DS....he really is a changed man!!!!!

GDABDs - DH is NOT a changed man. He bottled monkey music. Mitchell wins haha!!

Seriously, though GDABDs so glad you are feeling a bit better. I am sure that, in some way, actually getting all this off your mind and to know that how you are feeling is perfectly normal is really important...

Know just what you mean about two babies, though I manage OK with one and loads of people told me it'd be impossible

best get back to work!

nothing's impossible........

It might just be bloody hard work.......

I'm inclined to say 'go for it', you may regret it if you don't....

Serious I was thinking I better come back and mention that your DH is musical so maybe he would go to see if this music malarkey with DS is helping his being a talented guitar player. ha ha ha
Best you get back to work, how often are you needed in the office.
GDABD suggestion of a nanny could just be a very good idea especially in the best/worse few months. (You know what I mean the first few months are hard)
How are you feeling, I take it your AB have worked?

GDABD Hopefully these new AB do the trick and I think it is reasurring knowing that if you need help they are sitting in our bag. Maybe all you need is to get rid of this nasty Chest infection. Thanks for your kind words aswell everyone is very nice here and also agree that people you have not met in real life feel like friends. And it is nice to put a face to words on the yahoo site and facebook.

DD is much better and back to school today obviously only a 24 bug. I don't like posting about her Because I don't want people to feel sorry for her or our situation. But sometimes need to ofload about other stuff. My little angel is happy and healthy.

DS2 seems to be sleeping better again so I am very pleased but he still has milk every 3 to 4 hours unfortunetley. Going to start watering down the bottle between 1 and 6am to see if he really needs it or not.

Seriously.....how many poos can one baby do in a day .

DD2 seems to do a poo every half an hour or so.....

just my two-pence worth about babies cloe together. there is a 20 month gap between our two ds's. it is tough for the first 6 months but as long as you can get through the chaos of that it gets much easier after that. and they do interact well with that age gap i feel and wil do so for the rest of their lives. dh has 15 months between him and bil.

we made the decision to get an au pair once we had ds2. it has made life much easier and to be honest much more enjoyable. it's a lot cheaper (obviously) than a nanny and as long as you can deal with someone living in it's a viable alternative. it's help rather than some one kind of taking over for the time they are there. I know i would ahve found it tough with a nanny as i'm pretty strong minded on what i want done with the boys. anyway we can talk more on friday.

that's it for the moment gotta go it's time for ds1's dinner and he's being a bit of a pita about eating it at the moment and all ds2 has seemed to do this afternoon is yell apparently, although i have been out getting the last christmas gifts and 40th birthday gift for dh. he's getting a big depressed about being 40 i think

I've managed to wrap most of my Christmas pressies this afternoon .

flick please excuse my ignorance, but what is the difference between an au pair and a nanny? I'm guessing an au pair is someone who just comes to help and lives in, whereas a nanny conjures up images of Claire Verity......did anyone see that programme last year??!

Exactly, GDABDs, Au Pairs are generally younger and will not have formal childcare experience - they are a great help around the house (my DH's Ex had one for years) but they aren't really expected to look after the kids on their own, and I can say that Flick's Au Pair seems lovely!!

Mitchell - My DH's musical talents don't quite stretch to Monkey Music, though apparently they did have a bit of Deep Purple Appreciation this afternoon and Dh took DS out in the new car... I am sure DS got a lot out of that I am pleased that your DD is feeling better... Please don't feel bad about posting... She IS a little angel (and a happy one too, looking at her photos) but you are bound to worry about her, especially with your DH away too..

MM - WIll e-mail you back just now....

Babylove - How are you? and MumofJandK? and PINA????

I think, GDABDs, you have summed it up well, I will regret NOT trying for another baby SOOO much more than having two and finding it tough. How exciting!!!

TSO xxx

Yay!!! It will be exciting to have some pregnant ladies on the thread again....

just not me!!!!

Or me!!!!

Is it my sleep deprivation confusing me or does that mean you 2 are preggers

No, no more children for me.

Pina sorry to hear about your DH and sleeping. I have insomnia problems and it's crap...Well done to your DD with her teeth. Al is just keen to get on in life I think, and teeth are useful for keeping up his fat reserves
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Good luck with the nursery, I found it really hard the 1st few weeks leaving my DS1, but they love it, and get loads of stimulation etc etc. Can't remember if you're working now, if you are you're probably not going to have time to miss her!

Mitchell Slightly relieved it's just me not understanding your post. You definitely have your hands full already. I'm in the never say never camp over having No 3, but only because I think I would have to try for No 4 to get a nice even number. And that's far too many to fit in an average car with DH aswell....

Niknak: If my circumstances where different I would have one more, but because I need to wait at least 3 or 4 years to make sure boys where quite independent with listening to instructions, walking alongside wheelcahir etc. I think the gap will be to big as DH is 12 years older than I am. So he thinks he will be to old, he will be 40 next year.

Pina Sorry to hear that you are feeling low and things aren't great with DH, I am here for you whenever on FB. Are you working Tuesday 8th Dec? DH has an exam and I am in two minds about coming with him.

IMO the man is never too old....If the equipment works!

Pina I mean Tues 9th dec