July 2008 - Living in the Twilight Zone of never quite enough sleep to be compus mentus

[libralady]

Just thought I'd better set up another thread as the old one is just about to run out.

Right, hubby stories.....

Mines abit rubbish really, I wasn't even due on my period, but was going out to Spain to see my mum and dad so bought a kit just in case, as I wanted to tell then face to face rather than on the phone... Anyway, I was working from home and popped upstairs to the toilet and it was on the bed, ready to pack, so I thought, what the heck and did it, it was positive (obviously!) So I went downstairs to DH (Who was also working form home and had NO IDEA that I thought I might be, I only came off the pill that month) So I said 'guess who's just found out she's pregnant' he said 'I don't know, who have you been talking to' and I said 'US!' his face was a picture, half shocked, half petrified!!! He still looks that way sometimes now!!!!

I can't remember the date I did mine, is that terrible????

Just had a quick look back and I flew out to mums on the 8th Nov, so I must have taken mine on the 6th Nov.

My Hubby story-

We were on our third month of trying and had just got back from a long weekend in Paris.

Went to the gym on the sunday and almost passed out during a body balance class and nearly passed out in shower that night so decided to use a test I had bought in hope then next morning (29th Oct)

While talking that night I said I didnt think I was but DH said he thought it was our month.
He joking bet me 20p that I was.
Mon morning I woke up and did the test but went straight back to bed as I was convinced it was a negative.
Dh then came into the bedroom a few minutes later saying I owed him 20p. I said yeah whatever and went to look and was so shocked to see "Pregnant" looking back at me!

Our little trip to Paris did the trick!

Jodie- thanks for update on Kaz, wondered where she was. In reply to your question, L has always been rather, erm, "tricky" shall we say. Just guess my ability to tolerate it has run out. That sounds awful, like I'm impatient and unkind but it's not that way, honest. at your pg test story- bet dh was mystified!

Libra- thanks for kind words. I feel like the worst mum ever at the mo, my confidence in my mothering abilities has taken a knock a bit by not knowing what my lovely little baby wants . But awww at your bonfire night revelation! I love mushy stuff.

I didn't tell dh as much as grin stupidly- with ds1 he'd said "god your boobs are huge at the moment" and I said I it was down to my period being due. Did pg test later that night and so told dh that there was another reason my norks were so inflated...this time round dh said "god your boobs are huge at the moment" and I replied that it was for the same reason as the last time he said that to me, grin grin beam beam etc. Both times we just giggled and giggled cos it was so funny and scary. Was 21st October, a few days before my period was due. WOW a year today!

bebe L is an exhausting daytime baby too. I feel your pain! It's so draining isn't it.
He sleeps for 45 mins at a time ABSOLUTE max, normally 30-35. But takes ages to get to sleep in the first place! And by the time he's asleep, I'll have managed to calm down a bit myself, bung a load of washing in and think about how to make it up to ds1 that I've just spent ages trying to sort ds2 out, he wakes up again. Nights he only wakes a few time during the wee hours and normally ends up in bed with me at about 5am. DH is sleeping in spare room to get some kip (started new job and it's a 1.5 hr commute each way) and I really miss him next to me in bed. But I have come to realise that I need a lot less sleep than I thought- I'm not terribly tired so coping ok on that front. Just the other bits that are getting to me. Only on here now as both ds's are having a rare nap at the same time (bit late for ds1, will pay for that at bed time) Ooops spoke too soon...

lol pigley at your high stakes pg bet!

ahhh jodie that dh story made me laugh a typical guy thing like guess whos pregnant and they say who?
it was my dh who told me i was pregnant and bought me a test i was adamant like no way hun am i pregnant in your dreams as he always wanted another after 6 id had enough
he was insisstant so took the test to shut him up and the blue lines appeared i burst into tears he just smiled all happy and cuddled me,it took me about 5 months to get used to the idea then it kicked in and i was ok
how i love my lil bump now though

ahh story

we had cum back from holiday in the middle east...and he was jus chillin my period was due on the 5th nov, my bil and his wife were abroad, so i was textin them askin them to hope that the best, they repleid bak askin if i was pregnant, i jsu laughed and texted dh at work tellin him..he said good idea do the test, i wa sliek naaah i aint preggy, we had only bn married 3 months... neways, i went on a mission to get the test, and then i got it, dh came hme and said have u doen it, i was liek naah, lets wait and see if my period cums, he was liek jsu do it, i was like noo they say do it i th emornin, neway i doen it, and all he cud hear was "Oh my god" "oh my god" and i came runin out, he held the stick..and was shocked and smiled..and then sed " eww u peed on that" lol...then i jus sat on the bed and cried, he 4t i was upset, but i was in shock...then told my inlaws- who were mean! lets not go into that!!!

oh yeh, aske dhim to a pee on another stick!!! lol coz i 4t it was wierd...

sk

exclusivly breastfeed
sleeps from 7:30/0 until 9 wakes up 2/3times

naps 40mins max

i do wakes/eat/play/sleep ting most of d time

Hi All,

It is nice being at parents but crap living there when you are a child - no buses, no friends nearby, nowt to do you can gwet snowed in in the winter. I was visitng my Mum once (when my dad still worked away) and we got up on the Sunday morning to find a 6 ' snowdrift at the door - had to tunnel my way out and scramble over huge drifts to get to the barn, make sledges form peat bags and go through drifts to feed the animals - took me 7 hours!!! I was snowed in for a week - no electricity or heating for 2 days. no phone either. Nice for a visit though and long walks.

MINKUS - I am very glad to say that Calvin has settled down a bit now - he hates being left alone at all and cries until you are back in the room, he sleeps during the days for about an hour here and there, but he is still up anything form 1-3 times a night - last night I was up at 2am 9despite feeding him at 11pm), then 4ish then he woke his big sis up, she came in with me, then up at 6 to give him calpol - (he seemed to have a sore tum) then big sis woke up so put her back to her own bed then Calvin was awake!!! Arggg!!!
You are not a bad Mummy and it is really really unbearable when they are so demanding and cry a lot - I find it mega stressful and it really wears me down so you are not alone.
I am sending you calming vibes for you and Louis fingers x he settles soon and you are a fab Mummy and give yourself a huge hug - you are only human not SUPERHUMAN

SK - C feeds about 4 6oz bottles during the day, and anything from 2 -3 during the night. He sleeps intermittently during the day for up to about 1-1.5 hours, has a bath at 6ish then bottle then sleeps usually until about 9 then bottle sometimes, or sometimes I wait until 10 or 11, then he usually wakens about 2-3am, then sometimes 4ish (either food or wind) then about 6-7ish. No set routine he just does whatever.

I can't remember when i told hubby, I phoned him at work as I had a very early mc the month before, and told him it was a BFP - he was annoyed that i had called him at work

well must go and spend some cuddle time with my wee chappie - second lot of jags today.

While I was up at my parents I came back with reels of cine film that my Grandpa took (he died 12 years ago) and I am taking them in to get converted tomorrow. I cannot wait to see them - I love family history and the earliest is form 1959 and shows my Grandmas parents, also he took my parents and Uncles wedding and all sorts of other stuff. I took the laptop along to my grandmas and jotted down some family history whilst I was up North (she is 82). I am lucky and had all my GPs until I was 19. My first memory is of visitng my G Grandma in hospital - I was 18 months old and she was dying of cancer - I remember looking up to this huge hjospital bed and seeing a wee lady there.

What are all your 1st memories? I am thinking Dds will be of being on the farm.

Take care allxxxx

Rumpel- your post could make me cry, thank you for understanding (and everyone else). Yes Calvin and Louis certainly sound similar!

1st memories- banging on the door of the downstairs bathroom telling my dad to come out because I wanted a wee- we moved from that house when I was just over 3 so would have been before that. Hope ds1s are hapy ones not of me being totally absent from his existence because of ds2! (melodramatic emoticon)

Evening all B was down for about an hour but is up again so I think I will be going upstairs in a bit to feed her and get her settled for the night.

Rumpel - thats lovely about the cinefilm, I would have loved to have seen footage of me as a baby too, we have a DVD camera now and I take some footage every 3-6 months so hopefully they will be able to see it in years to come.

Minkus - you poor thing it does wear you down I know exactly how you feel it's even worse when you have other DC cos then you get the guilt about ignoring them as well. This is a really difficult stage though as once they get a bit older and start to explore and get into toys and the world around them more it gets easier they get more content and hopefully sleep better. It will pass.

pigley - lovely story you should have called her Abigail Paris!

Thanks everyone for your responses re sleep glad in a way it's not just me (you would think being a third timer I would have cracked it by now) doesn't help sometimes like today when I went to toddlers and theres a baby a day older than B who is sleeping all night in her own room. Wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have to get up with the other two in the morning early. B was lying in our bed this morning all cosy and I so wanted to snuggle back up with her.

hubby story mine is quite boring really, was due period on Halloween and said I wouldn't test before then (Thursday) did a cheapie ebay test on the Monday (I am one of these women who just know they are pregnant every time) it was the faintest of lines, did another on Tuesday with a control of water (scientist in me), again faint line, Wednesday (yes I pee on sticks as a hobby) faint line, Thursday went out got CBD, DP was upstairs in conference call forever so I did it and took the test upstairs and waggled it under his nose whilst he was on the phone, poor man.

Do you realise if any of us were to get pregnant now we would be Due in July 2009? How crazy would that be, it happens though (not to be though) wonder who will be first for another (definitely not me).

I think it's quite natural for babies to start getting scared now as their little worlds are becoming bigger by the day and mummy is the only one who is a constant, Sam's certainly getting clingy at the moment, but the smiles I get when I do go to him are amazing!

My first memory was standing up in my cot blowing spit bubbles and thinking my mum was going to tell me off if she saw me. My mum reckons I would have been about 2. WW I often wonder what DS1 will remember, like you I think it will be of visiting my mum and dad as it's such an adventure.

I keep looking and there isn't a July 2009 thread yet, won't be long though... Feel abit and abit of them all though, is that crazy????

Oh just had a look and there is one, started this evening!!!

Jodie not crazy at all- a few of my friends have had babies since we all did and I have actually been jealous of them, getting to go through labour and those early baby days again. What's that all about? It bloody hurts, it's still knackering, fraught with self doubt and I'm jealous???!

Ah SK you never know! There could be a happy mistake!

On the hubby stories line:
I found out 2 weeks before we got married!! We had only just started trying, think it was 3rd time lucky and the 'birthday treat' I had on the 8th Nov!! We didn't think it would happen so quick, and I wasn't even due when I took the test, I just didn't feel right, and had had period type pains for 2 weeks! Went and did the test first thing one morning and it was positive, went into bedroom and told DH 'yep it's positive'...his response, 'well that is just typical'!!!!! Think it must have been the shock that it happened so fast!

Have left Phoebe downstairs screeching with delight at The Sound of Music on Sky so am going to go enjoy this nice happy baby while it lasts!!!

happy bithday to me

I nearly wet myself when i found out i was pregnant this time!! It was soooo not planned (but neither was my other 2) DD1 was only 1, DD2 was coming on 1 and me pregnant with No 3. I sat on the sofa and said to DP i have somthing to tell you and he just said, please dont tell me your pregnant!!! I said OK i wont but i am... We had a chat and said no point in worrying about it, and just get on with it. But i most def will not be the one to be pregnant in 2009!! Leaving that up to one of you ladies. Even though i am craving one already!!!! DP i dont think would allow!!

L doing well, has HN tommor and injections !!!aghhhh Poor wee thing has very bad dry skin again.

DISNEY
HAPPY BITHDAY to you happy birthday to you happy birthday to Disney happy birthday to you............ Hope you have a lovley day hun....

7-7 again last nigt!!! Yeah 3 nights in a row... whoopee

Happy Birthday Disneystar. Hope you have an excellent day, you deserve it!!!!! This time last year your 'birthday treat' ended up as Baby Sam!!!!

Does anyone have any tried and tested cradle cap treatments, we are currently using olive oil and dentinox shampoo, but P won't stop scratching it...very deliberately, and making it bleed at the front and leaving her looking like the cat has clawed her!!! Cant get her nails any shorter, and she digs them in so much have had to put mitts on her which she hates! Would appreciate any suggestions!

Funny, I found out on bonfire night with my first, I remember sitting on the top of the bus home from a firework display and deciding with hubby that I would do a test when we got home as I was 2 days late. Can't remember the circumstances with my second!

this last time we had been trying for about 8 months, but only properly for 3. I was 2 days late and was saving my last preg test and did it one monday morning befreo school. I remember standing in the kitchen and showing hubby, while the girls were in the living room. I then went to school and told my friend who also had done a test that morning which was also positive!!

Hi All,

Happy birthday Disney! Hope you had a fab day

Had a hospital appointment today. A follow up because of my tear during birth. Spoke about the next pregnancy and my options. It wasnt as bad as I though it was going to be.

DH has been off work today to look after Abigail during my appointment so nice to have an extra family day.

Abigail has been sooo sleepy this afternoon.
She went up for her afternoon nap just before 4 and finally woke at 7! DH fed her at 6 but the lazy mare fed with her eyes closed and went back to sleep immediately!! She woke herself at 7, was all smiles and played happily on her playmat untill about 8 when she fell asleep there! So shes just been put up to bed for the night.

Thought bedtime would be disrupted after her long afternoon sleep but obviously not as 8 is her usual bedtime.
Im sure we are in for an early wakening in the morning! Cant be that lucky

SK - Florence is exc BF. She goes to bed at about 7.30, after feed-bath-storytime with dd1-feed routine, sometimes needs one last little bit to settle by 8. She then either sleeps through till 6.30ish! which happens about twice a week at mo, or she wakes a couple of times - if she wakes, it's usually between 1 and 2 for food, other wakings she just fusses and farts and can usually be resettled. She has a cold at the mo so think is waking more cos of that. It's bliss when she sleeps through!

She feeds on average every couple of hours in the day, naps for between 40 mins and an hour a few times; first thing, middle of the day and couple of short naps late afternoon. Though today slept for 3 hrs

She is very quick feeder - 5 mins and done!!

I did preg test when period about a week late last year - dh and i were on way home having left dd1 with my mum for the night as had just moved house and no carpets, kitchen etc. We stopped at tesco and went round separately with the challenge of buying the most random collection of items. Ended up with, between us, some marzipan animal cake decorations, a washing up bowl, a rainbow feather duster, some jars of mace and some other weird spice, shoe polish and a two-pack of tests! Of which i still have one in a drawer... I kept saying 'it might still be a bit early..prob won't show' - and the line was there instantly! Said to dh, 'er - don't think there's much doubt - we're having another one...'

bebe - I have some 'green baby' scalp massage oil - you rub it in, then comb and the cradle cap comes out - leaves them with v v greasy hair tho!

oh it's cold tonight Winter is definitely here

disney - happy birthday hope you have had a nice day and been spoiled a bit

pigley - glad the appointment went well, I have a friend who had a nasty third degree tear and went onto to have another baby without any problems. I have had a second degree one which I had loads of stitches and changed my geography downstairs, nothing with the heaviest baby and another second degree with B which wasn't stitched but seems to have leaked OK

bebe - would try the stratch mitts TBH as you don't want her scratches getting infected, poor wee thing though

Jodie - and

momma23 - I'm not surprised you almost wet yourself but I think it's great your girls will be so close, now you better get sorted as you must be superfertile

minkus - no happy accidents here, I so know my body and when I ovulate I couldn't have an accident. I so know what everyone means about being a bit jealous of pregnant women even I do and I hate being pregnant. My BF is 36 weeks with her first and part of me is envious, she was asking me how bad labour is and I said yes it's bad but then you get a baby and it's the best day of your life and theres not a feeling like it when you hold that little smily warm fuzzy person for the first time you cannot describe it. Got all gooey just thinking about it. I think I will have to become a mad woman who goes around maternity wards looking for newborn heads to snuzzle, I love snuzzling newborns.