January 2005 babies

[Pollyanna]

Hi - anyone fancy making up a thread for babies born this month? My dd (child no 4 ) was born on 6th Jan - I have had a rough time so far with feeding (cracked nipples etc) but things have started to improve now (I think). if only I could get her to sleep at night....

Thanks fairi - my mum has been telling me the same thing, to get a little time away. I tend to think because he is bf and won't take a bottle or cup that it's not worth it for the time I would get. But a couple of hours wouldn't hurt and Grandma would be pleased to have him.
I will take a look at the website - anything so I know I'm the only one feeling like this.

Hi everyone. I haven't been here for ages! How is work Dizzymama? it does get easier - I went back after each of my first 3 babies and you get used to it.

Can I ask everyone, what naps are your babies having?

When does the baby just have one nap a day? I can't put dd3 down for her main nap until after lunch as I am picking up from nursery earlier than that, so I am still making her have a nap after breakfast - is this what your babies are doing?

My ds has 3 naps a day (most days). He wakes up at around 7 has bf then straight back to bed for an hour. He then has breakfast at 10.30ish and bf at 11.30ish, then back to bed for an hour or so at 12. Lunch he has at around 1.30 with bf at 3. Another nap at 3.30-4 for an hour or so then tea at 5 and bf at 7.30 then down for the night at 8ish.
Obviously this routine is about to go straight out of the window with the arrival of teeth!!

Hello, I haven't posted for ages either. DS born 31 Jan usually has two naps a day of anything from 30 to 90 minutes, one after breakfast and one after lunch. This does vary though, so we just wait for the eye-rubbing to start and get him down then. He usually sleeps 11-12 hours overnight. He already has two teeth, and teething affected naps a little, but not nighttime sleep, so yours might be OK too Luckie.

I think the Baby Whisperer (who we found really useful early on) says that babies drop to one nap a day at around 18 months. According to our DMs both DH and I stopped napping altogether earlier than that though - let's hope it's skipped a generation!!!

Pollyanna, work has been a bit of a nightmare but will be better next week when I go to my usual timetable (this week I've worked four very long days, usually I'll only be working two!) Felt very proud of myself this morning when I dropped her off at the childminder's and didn't cry , she seems to love it there which really helps.
Nap wise E tends to have two, one about two to three hours after she has woken up, for about an hour and one around two in the afternoon which lasts about thirty to forty minutes.
Luckie - hope Ds is ok and teeth not playing him up too much.

I've got beaver hair!!!

(stop being rude). I mean it's finally stopped falling out and is now growing back so I have a thick layer about an inch close to my head covered by flimsy long bits. At least I know my head will be warm if I want to go swimming in rivers

Me too Pagen!! I've got 2 fringes at the mo, one short one underneath and a long one over the top!!

I'd like to know how often your babes wake in the night now. Also - are they crawling yet? If so, are they your first or second child?

I ask as mine (ds2) seems to be "behind" his brothers development. While I'm not worried, I've noticed that other Mums I know whose second children are the same age as our Jan 05 babes, are finding things similar. Is it that second children are less stimulated than the first born and so develop slower? Or is it just down to individuality?

Don't know about second born fairi as E is our first but she certainly shows little sign of crawling at the moment. She's quite happy to get around by rolling all over the place!
As for waking in the night we had had it easy I suppose as E has slept through the night from early on. Now though (literally since Friday night) she's suddenly started to have really restless nights . We were up with her for nearly four hours on Friday and she was wide awake I'm hoping this doesn't signal the end to my sleep - she would wait until I go back to work!!

DS has only just learned to sit up by himself but not too worried. He still wakes through the night at least once. I had it very easy with DD as she slept right through from about 5 weeks so I'm not expecting the same miracles again and I believe that boys are generally more awkward than girls but hey that doesn't change with age and wisdom

My DD is almost crawling- going up on knees and once on toes- shes only shuffling backwards at the mo. It's made me look at the house in a completely different light and we've already had a smashed vase!All part of the fun eh?
As for sleep, she went through a phase of going all night recently and then has started waking about 5ish-wide awake. Maybe something to do with the colder nights or more teeth coming?
I think if you try to figure everything out it will send you mad so tend to just go with things now. Anyone elses baby making noises that sound like the kid from the Exorcist?Very scary- we went to a christening last week and DD did it right in the middle of the service- thought the vicar was going to chuck holy water over her!!!

Pmsl at the exorcist ess! E does the Jimmy Saville (now then now then eeeeeee type of noise iykwim!) anf the Fonz from Happy Days (eeeyyyyyy).She also does a freaky whisper - very scary over the baby monitor that one!

Hi everyone. Re. crawling - Lily has been crawling since 7.5 months and is now pulling herself to standing at every available opportunity and on every bit of furniture. She's even attempted the stairs.

Fairi - I reckon they're all different though so comparisons just mean worries. (Hard not to do it though isn't it?). You mentioned about 2nd babies being later developers though - with my two it's the other way round. DS didn't crawl until 9 months - Lily is doing all the physical stuff earlier but I think DS's speech development was faster.

I'm chuffed with Lily today as she just had her first EVER night without me or dp going in to her. Over the last few days we've been leaving her to cry longer when she wakes in the night and I'm not saying we've cracked it but a week ago she was waking every 2 or hours and the last 2 nights she's only woken once (not counting feed at 10pm) and last night she woke and cried at 2.30am but went back to sleep herself. Hooray !!!

Bet you I'm on hear moaning that it's all gone wrong again next week

Kama - Ashley is doing the same (feeds at night and waking - same schedule). What solids are you feeding her? I've been doing the "natural way" - by giving only fruit and veg (of which he eats a mountain) - and drinks loads of goats milk too. (I got advice from a nutrtion fundi not to give any concentrated starch before the age of 1 - which was fine for ds1, but ds2 is waking at night for too many feeds. But no matter how much I give him for "supper", he still has the same routine. He also has a poo for every meal - at least - often with his milk too! I'm finally at desperation point - so I've now got some rice cereal and plan to use it tomorrow.
He hasn't even started crawling. He reaches far for things, grabs things and is very interested in what is around him... but crawling is still not coming. He also only has one tooth.
I know I shouldn't but I keep catching myself comparing him to his 2yr old brother (who by this point was crawling, had 9 teeth and pretty much slept through.)... from a frustrated Fairi

do you mind if I join you? My ds was born on hte 20th Jan and gets around by humping the floor like a seal and then pullin with his hands. We have a wooden floor is this normal - everybody elses baby seem to be way ahead. He can sit by himself but not get into a sitting position.

Kama - can't believe Serena is walking already. She's been really quick to learn hasn't she? Lily is getting really frustrated at being able to pull herseilf up but not quite reach things - I mean she can see more stuff now (like things higher up) but still can't get to it so it's driving her mad!

Fairi - what's made a difference for us with the sleeping is just refusing to feed her when she wakes at night. We didn't do the total controlled crying thing - I couldn't bear to. But we tried just rocking her in our arms to get her back to sleep for a couple of nights and when I realised that she would go back to sleep it proved to me that she wasn't really hungry.

Then we've been gradually wihdrawing the amount of attention she gets when she wakes and she seems to be waking less and settling herself more (Magscat quickly touches the nearest bit of wood).

Food-wise she has:

• half a weetabix & fruit mushed with cow's milk for breakfast -6oz formula about 10am -lunch E.g. mashed veg with cheese. Sometimes with pasta. Equivalent amount to a jar for babies 7 months + -6oz formula about 2ish
• Tea (similar to lunch)
• 6oz formula 6.30pm
• 6oz formula whenever she wakes (between 10pm & midnight usually)

What foods are concentrated starch and why were you advised to avoid them? Are they just no good nutritionally or are they actively 'bad' ?

Hi Suss & welcome.

My baby is New Year's Eve & Kama's is also New Year (1st or 2nd?) so don't worry about our two doing stuff like crawling loads & standing (mind you Kama's Serena is way ahead with walking already.

Good to hear from you. How are you doing sleep-wise?

Hi all.
Suss, my DS was born 23rd Jan and is still not sitting for more than a couple of seconds on his own. He also gets around by rolling and occasionally humping around like a seal!

Hi Suss and welcome! My dd was born on the 6th Jan and she has just started bum shuffling (well, kind of jumping along on her bottom - it's very funny). She's nowhere near pulling herself up or walking. I can't believe Serena is walking already Kama - my dd2 walked very early, and I thought it looked so strange (but very cute) - they look so miniature walking around.

Fairi, I am giving dd3 only fruit and veg too, but she is pretty hungry, and I've been thinking about rice and pasta - what does your nutrionist say about those? (are they the starchy things she says to avoid?). I can't really remember when you can start giving pasta.

this is a long one i am afaid thanks forbthe welcome. Sleep wise we started really well he slept from 11 to 7 at about six weeks and then from 7 to 7 at about 19 weeks (can't honestly remember exactly) he was breast fed with an expressed bottle at 11pm and I weaned him at about 17weeks (he started waking every two hours in the night and I had lost so much weight breast feeding I couldn't eat enough to keep up with him. He is a v good eater and eats some of everything I put in front of him . Sleep we have sort have had a bad patch for the last six to eight weeks since he started rolling over big time. He wakes briefly or cries out in his sleep most nights and I am afraid I leave him to it. Unless he cries persistently and then I go in v briefly, check him and leave before he has calmed down sometimes! (brutal mother) He actually cries more when I go in! We did let him cry it out at about four months, yes I know, I am a vile person, but in my defence he cried for 20 mins before he was asleep and he has never cried for more than 20 mins since.

Hi Suss - I kow what you mean about them crying more when you go in and I don't think leaving him crying for up to 20 mins (assuming this isn't major distress crying) makes you a 'brutal mother' - perfectly sensible - I've done the same with Lily.
Hope you get over the dodgy patch & back to your quiet nights soon

Thank you magscat, everyone I have admited to letting my lo cry it out has given me quite short shift! I do have a question though does anyone know how to start getting my ds off his bottle. He drinks water from a proper adult cup, with my help ofcourse, but won't take formula, that he will only drink from a bottle! I breastfed him until he was seven months. Perhaps I should have gone straight to a cup! Am I being too pushy? He won't use a cup with a spout either- he thinks its a toy!