Please be kind. Small Eyes?

[Missni]

Mother of a 8 month old girl whom I love dearly. Dealt with pre natal and post natal anxiety due to drinking in the first 7 weeks of pregnancy. I’ve been told her eyes are not abnormally small however this is all I can see. Please share your thoughts?

She is developing well, surpassing and even ahead of milestones.
thank you

I love her very much. The guilt, prentaal depression and anxiety has unfortunately crossed over as they wanted me in might of during my pregnancy.
I working on getting the help x

Hi Missni I hope therapy helps ease your anxiety. Your daughter looks lovely with beautiful eyes. Sending good vibes to you x

Hello again all. Been awhile since my last therapy appointment due to her recovering from Eye surgery . She is back
this week.

I am up again late at night, trouble sleeping a Here is a full photo.

again, please be kind. Thank you? X

She looks absolutely normal. She has lovely eyes. You really have to.stop tormenting yourself over this. There is nothing unusual about how she looks whatsoever.

I can't understand why you think she has small eyes, I'm not seeing small eyes at all. She's beautiful.

Additional

She’s gorgeous @Missni
Her eyes look perfectly normal.
I hope you take some comfort from these messages.

Last time I will post.

Hello,

I am back again. Lack of sleep due to anxiety worried again.

I have to admit therapy has yet to help. I believe whatI believe. I have my good days but some days are bad and today is one of them.

Here are a few more photos:

7-8 weeks pregnant , daily drinking. I found out and stopped too late. All I could see was the features in my darling daughter today. I love her with all my heart, she knows she is loved. She gets all of my nurturing and affection - however as i stated - today was a bad day.

I need this to pass, whatever the outcome is.

She's a gorgeous but totally normal looking baby. She does not have small eyes. They're not huge cartoon eyes, but they are normal sized and very lovely. That photo of her in the pink is SO sweet.

I’m concerned about her other features also. Low upturned nose. I know it can be common in terms of ethnicity however, I am still anxious and concerned. Upper lip?

Im at a loss with these feelings.

OP, your baby is beautiful and perfectly normal.

But seeking reassurance here isn’t a good way to treat your mental health problem. You need to learn how to handle these feelings without needing to know everything is okay. Please speak to your therapist about how deeply this is affecting you, and go back to your GP. It sounds like trying some medication would be a good idea, if this is something which has been raised as a possibility. Don’t try to hide how bad things are, or you won’t get the help you deserve so you can get past this and enjoy your baby.

Thank you. I know you right in regards to seek reassurance online.

I do enjoy her, believe me I do. I don’t make it show during the day whilst playing and spending all my time with her. I feel flashes of guilt but keep it inside.
Then night time comes and I’m here googling and comparing.

I saw my GP today. Medication has been raised and even prescribed. Currently at the pharmacy infact awaiting me to pick them up.

The thing is, I have read anxiety may become worse for weeks before it gets better and I don’t believe that’s what my family needs right now.

:(

If you are worried about FASD please speak to your Dr.

I don't see the features on your beautiful little girl (I'm not medically qualified of course) especially around the upper lip and her lovely normal eyes.

So many women drink alcohol during pregnancy both knowingly and unknowingly (before they realise they are pregnant) and most babies are absolutely fine.

I hope you feel better about this soon, your darling baby looks so wonderful.

What’s best for your family is that you are happy and healthy. They love you and will want that too, so will support you through that short period. Keep focussed on the prize - all of you happy and relaxed. You can do this, for your baby.

She is beautiful! You have a beautiful daughter with perfectly formed features. Nothing in her to suggest foetal alcohol syndrome which I think is what you're worrying about? Her nose, eyes, lips all look perfect and in lovely proportion to the rest of her face and features.

You have not harmed her.

Keep on with your therapy and speaking to your gp. How is your day to day support?

I agree with PP that seeking reassurance on here isn't probably helping you. You have been repeatedly told she looks like a very cute completely normal baby, no different to any other cute baby (expect maybe a tiny bit cuter) but you can't hear it because your anxiety is shouting at you.

Engage with therapy, take your meds as prescribed and put down the internet.

All the very best.

I have experience with fasd and she doesn't display the facial features .
Have you got baby pics of yourself and her dad to compare ?
You need to drink ALOT to hurt your baby throughout the whole pregnancy . Most people don't know they are pregnant until 8 weeks unless they are actively trying and testing . Don't worry

Keep at it with the medication. Keep talking to the professionals.

One day soon, with the support of your GP, you're going to look at your lovely daughter's face and see exactly what everyone else sees; a healthy, much loved, beautiful baby with no concerning facial features at all.

Keep going with your treatment OP, you're doing great.