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April 2007 - I don't need Father Christmas, I've got my April Angels

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iMustBeMad · 22/12/2007 20:49

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Eddas · 28/12/2007 18:32

katy, do you mean the going blue? are you ok, obviously not really but, erm, sorry. How's T now?

runnyhabbit · 28/12/2007 18:33

Have had an absolutely manic day. We had to go and pick dh work van up from the garage which is roughly 1 1/2hr round trip. Then we had to go and drop off the pickup he had used to transport J present (from my parents - fab outdoor playhouse) which was another 1hr round trip, in the opposite direction. Then went to Argos to pick up the boys present from mil, and the carpark was hell. It wouldn't have been so bad if it was just me and dh. But the boys, as good as they are, get bored in the car.
(So I'm kind of quite looking forward to going back to work, just so I can have some peace, and a cup of tea without being interupted, or it going cold)

Have got the outlaws inlaws coming over tomorrow. And it was my suggestion - what was I thinking But it will be nice to see the "normal" sil bil and their dd. And it means that all the food we bought will get eaten.

Best go and get tidying etc....

Laters peeps
xx

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 18:34

It sounds like your dh is scared katy, maybe that's his way of dealing with the fear? walk away before he can get hurt?

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runnyhabbit · 28/12/2007 18:34

epb Rant away sweetie. How is T now?

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:34

yes, except he didnt go blue this time just held his breath
thought i handled it pretty well, straight out of high chair onto floor, calming him, soothing then offered bf when he started breathing, sure last time was so bad as we both panicked

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:35

oh he's fine thanks He's the only one

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 18:35

not that it's ok, and you need him supporting you, not going off on one.

did you see the gp after it happened last time?

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runnyhabbit · 28/12/2007 18:36

agree with imbm, some men would prefer (or think they would) to walk away than face something serious/stressful.

(dh did it to me a year after we bought the house)

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 18:36

sounds like you handled it perfectly, very calm, did exactly what needed to be done, I'm sure I wouldn't deal with it that well.

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ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:36

yeah he's terrified
but why can't he see we just have to deal with it? If t was diabetic we'd learn what to do if he did whatever happens to diabetics (sorry but can't think of phrase). Why is this different?

Eddas · 28/12/2007 18:37

does there seem to be any reason he did it either time? i agree with potc maybe dh is scared and that is his way of dealing with it, not that it's helping at all. But you know men, weirdos!

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 18:37

(you mean a hypo )

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runnyhabbit · 28/12/2007 18:38

Did T set off your dh? Or were you arguing before it happened?

He might feel frustrated that he can't do everything for his son. Not that I'm excusing him.

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:38

No, we haven;t seen the gp, just doc at a&e
I'll probably call the HV on MOnday though, think it might help to have someone 'official' tell him this stuff
If he's still here that is
He will be, I know he didn't mean that, i'm just so annoyed with him

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iMustBeMad · 28/12/2007 18:39

thing is katy, if T had diabetes you would probaly find your dh handled it in exactly the same way, even things as 'simple' as that can scare some people

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ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:40

t had cheese stuck to te roof of his mouth, not choking, just irritating him. DH was trying to get it out, I think T was annoyed by that, DH says it was the cheese, either way that started the frustrated crying + very tired led to the breath holding thing.

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:42

Yeah, hypo!
I don;t think diabetes is simple but in most cases it is manageable, and it's fairly common. He'll grow out of this, in the meantime we have to manage it! FFS he's the one who's been on the first aid training!

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:42

Just to clarify, I wasn't using diabetes as an example of something that's no big deal, iyswim

Eddas · 28/12/2007 18:43

we've not had anything that scary happen but my dh reacts in a smiliar way. DD had croup, but very mild, and couldn't breathe. I was pg with ds and he was shouting at me to hurry up getting up the stairs. He had such a go at me for taking too long but really I was seconds and then starting ranting away phone an amublance/mil. mil came over and he was still shouting do this do that at me it's just his way, but it's shit at the time

PillockOfTheCommunity · 28/12/2007 18:44

I didn't mean simple as such, but I can't explain it! Controllable is a better word I guess.

Now you've explained what happened to start it off I wouldn't be surprised if he's feeling like he caused it, and then you sorted it out while he panicked, so maybe feeling it would be better if he just wasn't there?

runnyhabbit · 28/12/2007 18:44

Bloody dh is stressing because he has to do the boys tea. FFS

epb - you were everything, and did everything that dh wanted to do/be. Calm and in control. take care

best go and sort tea

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 18:49

better go, thanks everyone

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 28/12/2007 19:09

just dashing in and out - wanted to say Katy - anything wrong with any of our kids is a guarantee dh and I will fall out! We should support each other - but the fear and frustration and exhaustion that come with sick children is a recipe for fireworks! Sounds like you did well though - here's hoping T never does this again!

ElfPolarBear · 28/12/2007 19:38

"feeling it would be better if he just wasn't there? "
Pillock, you've hit the nail on the head I think, and he's not the only one!
He's apologised, but is now acting like he's drunk, sort of slow responses and not making a lot of sense. Shock?

PillockOfTheCommunity · 28/12/2007 19:49

shock, stupidity, just plain man-ness????