Baby's after loss the penguin huddle continues

[Bluebelltulip]

This thread is for people who have had a baby following a loss(es) at any stage. This thread forms the third part of the penguin huddle which includes TTC after loss and pregnancy after loss but people that haven't used those threads are still welcome.

@Beaglemum93
@Yukka
@Melpops36
@Knitkitty
@Squiff70
@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue
@FrillyFarmer

I admire you @Bluebelltulip. I'm super keen to breastfeed but I'm not sure I could cut out dairy - well done for making the sacrifice so your son can have the best.

I had planned to do some jobs and sorting indoors and go to baby cinema today... I'm so tired that I've sacked it off for a day in the sofa watching old sex and the city dvds...Might even order a pizza

Really rough night here as everyone has sore throats and colds, but my little charmer knows how to keep mummy on side - we've had our first proper smiles this morning!

Hope everyone else is ok?

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue yay for smiles. Hope sleep and colds have improved.

DS was doing well since I went dairy free but I gave him some of the formula the GP gave me and he reacted to it so it's been hard seeing him poorly again. The formula has broken down milk protein in which some babies can tolerate but evidently DS can't so will need to get another. I want him to be able to have some formula to provide a back up and so I can have a break now and again.

That all sounds so stressful @Bluebelltulip and frustrating as it seems a lot of it is trial and error at this stage until you find out what works and what doesn't. I hope your little man is ok. You're doing a great job through all this. How is your DD now?

Hi ladies.

I’ve been thinking - I know it’s super hard to find time when you have a new baby and may be juggling an older child too. However, we’ve all been on such a journey together that I feel it would be a real shame to loose touch. So I wondered if there may be an easier way of us all keeping in contact? That is if people even want to! Something that might be easier to update without needing to type long replies? What about a closed/private Facebook group? Would anyone be interested?

Aside from that I really hope you and the babies are doing well!

Seven weeks here today, lots of smiles and feels like he has been part of our family for ages 😍

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue I really like that idea to stay in touch. I only have my little man (7 weeks tomorrow so a day behind you!) to take care of but I'm finding it hard to stay up to date with what's going on on here. A closed Facebook group or WhatsApp group would be great. I'd be more comfy sharing pics etc on that too xxx

Yes I'm interested in a group too.

Hello! Properly joining in now with my 4 day old DD (oooh first time I've typed DD for myself!)

Definitely interested in a closed FB or WhatsApp group. Only a few days in and already struggling to keep up online. Bubsy is the centre of our universe but goodness she keeps us on our toes and literally up all night! Think I have a velcro baby. So in love with her.

I said on the other group @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue but I'd also be interested in a closed Facebook group. It's much easier to keep up with than mumsnet I think.

Ah that's great! Thought maybe I was being a bit sentimental and over invested in you all! Be great to all keep in touch and get updates on the babies - the only problem is I have no idea how to set it up! I could do the group but I only use Mumsnet on my phone so I have no idea how you invite people without giving away my name/personal details/details of the group! Does anyone who is less technically challenged want to set it up?!

Sounds totally normal @InDreamland! She's only 4 days old bless her! Read up about the fourth trimester, feed, feed, feed (breastfeeding is relentless in the early weeks!) and enjoy keeping your gorgeous DD close! At 7 weeks we have no routine and I'm not even trying, Little Brother likes to be close so my sling/wrap is a lifesaver. He can be close to me but I can get on with my day, play with DD, cook etc. I thoroughly recommend one!

I've set one up so if you direct message me your email addresses I'll send you an invite :)

I've dm'd you @Beaglemum93 x

My baby spends a lot of time in the sling but so far isn't as velcroy as DD.

Hi ladies! Finally found the thread here 😊.

Rumi is seven days old today. Had some latching issues on one side that lead to bloody/cracked nipples, but otherwise doing ok (apart from sleeping two hours a night!).

Thanks @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue For your really helpful reply on the other thread! Good to know this is relatively normal. I watch for the feeding cues but sometimes it’s so fast and then he gets really angry and upset and can’t latch properly (hence why my nipple got all cut up on one side). Not sure what to do to calm him so he can latch better. Right now I’m trying to feed more often and offer both breasts to avoid him getting angry about feeding. Problem is he often falls asleep for 10-20 minutes after the first breast and then by the time I get him up for the second one he is already too agitated to latch well. Any advice on this? Thank you!! 💕

Hi everyone!! It's been a while so thrilled to see you all here. My dd is 10 weeks today and is starting to get clingy now lol. How are you all coping with this lockdown? I'm loving the family time but the days are rolling into one.

Hi @tinatsarina lovely to hear from you. Congratulations on the birth of your rainbow! She's a week and a few days younger than Bubsy. We've all pretty much moved over to the Facebook group as it's easier to keep in touch that way. Would be great for you to join us. Just DM @Beaglemum93 with your email address and she can send you an invitation to join.