June 2018 babies - eat poop sleep repeat

[Embracethechaos]

Hi, couldn't find a June thread. Anyone?
Baby girl
Dob 19th
Born at 36 weeks
She is no longer just poop eat and sleep as she's staying awake longer. Tummy time = sleep or cry. Except once

@Embracethechaos I can imagine it's easier in a way to demand feed with breastfeeding, is it true that your supply matches the frequency baby feeds?

What about when they grow and need more milk?

And how long will you generally feed for? My LO guzzles a 6oz bottle in 15 mins at the most.

Sorry if these seem like silly questions, I know very little about breastfeeding.

It is true that it works in a supply and demand way. As time has gone on she's got better at relieving my sore hard boobs so they are squishy again. So if she stays awake longer now she's bigger she drinks more. It's tiring feeding so in the early days I passed out after feeding and expressing so I'm still learning about timings. Some days, I think she's having a growth spurt as she is demanding milk all day. She often falls asleep on my boob and wakes up within half an hour screeming and crying for more. I woke up past too mornings with leaky huge boobs. Yesterday I stayed in bed till 8 and woke up in a patch of sticky milk. Today I got up at 6, picked up my baby who started screeming quietly so I carried her downstairs to her moses basket in the living room got myself breakfast and espressed 4oz in half an hour,then when she woke up I changed her nappy and have been feeding her since.

My mum breastfed and didn't find we needed more, in fact as my dd is growing she's demanding less bottled milk.

It seems really difficult, I think it would have definitely broke me down. My boobs were really sore and leaky for what felt like ages (they only stopped 4 days ago). I had my nipples pierced years ago and the milk came through them holes too . If I didn't have that I think I may have dried up quicker. I used to get really upset when I'd leak on something too, do you find that?

Ouch, I did get upset when I was in hospital and my boobs were leaking on all my limited clothes. Back home, I just went topless for ages. My baby was a really good latch though so I'm glad I perceived. Now I can feel my boobs get sore and either stick my baby or a pump on them! Also, I'm hoping it will pay off for me as well with weightloss as I do love eating and am on medication which can cause me to get overweight and get diabetes. I've got gp soon so hopefully I can do buggyfit next week as I was a beginner runner before pregnancy but didn't keep up excersise in the first trimester.

Can I join?

Ds was born on the 24th weighed 5lb 15. He's been a very grumpy baby and last week was diagnosed as dairy intolerant so is now on prescription formula which seems to be making a difference.

He has a 5oz bottle every 4 hours but goes longer stretches over night.

He isn't smiling yet which I'm finding hard as his older sister smiled very early on.

Hi wingingitdaily, sounds like a tough beginning. He's so tiny, I hope he smiles for you soon, once his tummy is feeling better. We had our gp check today, baby is fast asleep now as she only had short naps all day. She smiled at my mental health key worker which made her day at 1pm then was just falling asleep when we had to leave for the gp at 3pm so got very upset, slept briefly in the car seat then got upset waking up at the gp to be prodded and poked. She's all healthy and had breast then bottle at the gp. Dh is cooking dinner, she will probably wake up when its on the table (thats also the moment my waters broke. If I were to do my birth again I'd have eaten before going to the hospital... Maybe... Lots of women arrived just after me and it was a full ward so maybe not...)

My DS also has a "mummy's about to eat" radar @Embracethechaos, it's ever so inconvenient isn't it? 😅

Yep, I'm getting good at one hand eating! 😂

He smiled today it was definitely worth the wait.

We've got the hv tomorrow which I never look forward too.

Sounds like you had a busy day embrace I find ds never sleeps very well if we are constantly on the move. Although currently his older sister wakes him up at every opportunity.

Dd 'slept through' past 2 nights (stayed up feeding for longer than usual past 11pm and woke up after 5, missed her 3am waking) she's also was sick twice on Friday (once before travelling, once immediately after her first feed after long car ride) got unsettled on Saturday, first full day at the grandparents and hasn't pooed since Thursday.

Congratulations wingingitdaily. I find when dd smiles after a difficult breastfeeding session when I'm all hot and bothered it makes me feel better so quickly and remind me it's all worth it.

Dd just did a huge poo. She waited till she got home and was relaxed feeding. She used to poo at every feed but hv said its normal for babies to start to hold it at her age and she's having hardly any formula and breastfed babies normally poo less often as it's more easily digestable.

Has anybody left their little one alone for the day with family members yet?

The longest I've been without mine is 2/3 hours (she was with her dad) whilst I took my nephew the cinema. I found that really difficult.

Me & OH are going to see a comedian at the end of the month - a birthday gift I got for him before I found out I was pregnant. This will be the first time she'll be without either of us and I'm so nervous. We'll be leaving her around the time she'll fall asleep anyway so that puts me at ease. I decided on my sister to look after her because she's the most recent person in the family to have a child & she helped me out a lot in the beginning with feeding, winding and changing.

MIL is constantly asking for us to leave DD with her but I'm not comfortable with it yet. The last baby she looked after was my OH. He turned out great so she did an amazing job, I just worry that she's 'old school' and she'd feed DD a roast dinner and give her whiskey if she was fussy etc. She's also not done basic things with DD i.e changed a nappy.
I wouldn't leave DD with my own mum yet so it's not a 'i hate my MIL complex' my mum just hasn't asked yet!

I can't see me being comfortable any time soon, am I being neurotic?

Your not being neurotic, we left dd with my parents one evening and went out for a meal... We ate it then both wished we were home with dd. My dd got really upset with my dad holding her apparently until they gave her a bottle she had a sip then slept. Im actually more anxious leaving her now she's older as she's more aware and regonises people as well as I've built up more of a bond. Your sister sounds like a great babysitter and I wouldn't want to leave my baby with someone who's not even changed a nappy. That's a real bonding time I think. I've done babysitting and parents do worry, give detailed instructions and normally say call if there is any issue.

DH and I have had two date nights where my mum has had DS for about 4 hours then had him overnight in a room with her room (us in the house still but if I've had a glass of wine I'd rather he's sleeping in a room with someone who hasn't, paranoid!). I do find myself calling a couple of times whilst we're out but think it's good for me and DH to have some us time too. In laws have a offered to take DS at our house for a few hours in the evening soon too.

I'm not ready to leave him for any longer yet though and prefer to be within easy retur distance

A relief to know I'm not being unreasonable.

She doesn't know DD ques either which concerns me. Every cry means she's hungry in MIL eyes. I suppose she'll never get to know if she doesn't look after her but I just can't loosen up at the minute!

@firsttimemamaa

My DD is 6 weeks and I feel the exact same! I've only left her for 1 hour with DH to go to my postnatal check up, really not ready to leave her with anyone else yet! It's not a trust issue, I just feel it's too soon for me

@c24680

It's such a strange feeling isn't it, is this your first?

OH keeps saying I need to go and do something for myself for a few hours but I just can't. I know he can look after her so I don't know what my problem is! God knows how I'm ever going to return to work

How are you all getting on? I think with breastfeeding I don't really know my babys cues as it offers food, stimulation (I've heard it's more difficult than bottle feeding) cuddles and sleep. At 8 weeks I assume when she cries she wants boob or a nappy change but maybe I'm wrong. Recently I've found she often latches then doesn't drqink. I'm feeding on demand but over the weekend I had relatives trying to comfort her while I ate. Today I stroked her face with a soft paintbrush which she enjoyed. What toys do your babies have? I've been given lots of books, a rattle and toys that clip onto car seats. She's not shown any interest in them yet.

She had her injections today took them like an absolute champ but she's just had a major meltdown like nothing I've seen before & now she's crashed out! Shes due her 'bedtime' feed at 7 but I'll just leave her until she wakes.

I find she wriggles her legs a lot when her nappy needs changing and after she's changed she stops. I think I change her quite a lot though.

She gets overtired very quickly especially with visitors, if they make a fuss of her for too long she starts to scream not cry. I know she's overtired by the 'cry' she does and usually when somebody's talking to her she'll look them in the eyes and you can see she's listening once she's had enough she completely disengages, looks away and starts pushing away from them.

Feeding cues are usual for her - rooting, smacking lips and she'll cry actual tears if I've missed her cues. But with her being quite rigid with the 4 hour timings if she's fussy within an hour before it I know she's getting peckish.

Aww that's lovely with the paintbrush I'll have to try it!

Mine isn't interested in toys/rattles/car seat clips etc. We've noticed she loves lights and curtains, no idea why but she can look and coo at them for at least 30 mins! She'll happily watch the world go by, whenever we're outside she just takes it all in. I've shown her a baby sensory video on YouTube and she seemed to like that (this was before she was smiling) but lost interest quickly, I might give it another go whilst I can see her emotions more. She's quite a visual person thinking about it

My dd also loves lights and windows. She doesn't make much eye contact, only holds it briefly, more often looks to the side or goes cross eyed. She does respond to different sounds and voices and a doctor commented before she was a week old that he could see her actively listening to conversations.

I read somewhere that's another tired sign - going cross eyed. Sneezing & hiccuping also

I didn't know that, she does it less than she uses to, I was worried as she barely opened her eye2to begin with, She hiccups less now than newborn so that's all good. She screem sneezes as in starts screeming then sneezes loudly then calms down. We do have a dog and I'm always removing dog hairs from babys face an clothes (they get everywhere) so I put it down to that.

My little one is 8 weeks today and have found in last 5 days or so he's gone from gorgeous but fussy and quite hard work to full of smiles and only really crying when he needs something. He sleeps pretty well overnight, though as you can see, I still wake up in case he needs something 🙄, naps on and off through morning then is generally awake in the afternoon and evening. He's currently feeding about 2-3 hourly in the day to make up for the night sleep though. Feeling pretty lucky, he's a really god boy, bit worried about jabs next week and how he'll be after though. We did start infacol at the weekend and have fully transitioned to his new formula now so might be any of those things or a combination that have settled him a bit.

Funny you should say about the paintbrush, DS seems to be realising he has a body now and loves his face being stroked, poked or wiped with a mussy! He also quite likes games that involve him like hickory dicory doc and when I kick his legs or wave his arms. His favourite toy at the moment seems to be a Lamaze spider I have hanging from the pram. He's also very interested in licking everything he can reach - clothes, faces, shoulders 😂