MAY BABIES 2004 GIRLS - LOOK HERE PLEASE!!!!!

[Egypt]

Sorry to do this, but for some reason I can't get into our old thread! Have tried for days, internet explorer bans me and shuts me down!!! Can you all convert to this one please?!! pretty please?

What, no news?

Is anyone having trouble with their May babies and consistent disobedience? I get so used to asking dd2 to do/not to do something several times, then having to withdraw toys/treats before she does as she's told that I've begain making a mental note when she does it, and I'm starting to get the impression that she never does anything unless she wants to that is, she doesn't respond to discipline. Naughty step (the hallway) is ignored, as are counting to three and threats to take toys away (until we actually do it). Bit of a worry for the future really as I can't imagine it getting better, and I'm not sure how to crack it. Any magic potions?

helsy, I have a similar problem. DS1s tantrums are getting worse and worse, some days you only have to look at him the wrong way and he's on the floor screaming .
The problem is, as you say, it's wilful disobedience. That arrogant "no" when you ask them to do something really simple. Tidy up time is a complete nightmare, as is, leaving the house, getting dressed etc.
DH goes straight for the most severe response "off to your room" he shouts, with me muttering in the background - "but we're supposed to be going out?!"
No magic potion as you say, but I worry if I have such a tenuous hold over their behaviour at this stage, where do we go when they get older (and bigger....)
We find out our school allocations this week, ours should be a no brainer - people actually park outside our house to drop their children off - but some of my friends are on tenterhooks. Anyone else?

oh yes, and i'm 39 in 2 weeks time helsy - I take note of your TTC record!

No magic potions here, either. I find myself using threats a lot. I know it's not ideal. I do have another technique that I used that you haven't mentioned. I learnt about it at work. It's called the broken record technique I think. It just involves asking again and again and again in a firm, unchanged and calm voice until they are so sick of you asking, they do it. It actually works very well sometimes with DS1 but not all the time. Sometimes, it'll get him to do what I ask and sometimes it will actually push him over the edge into that tantrum. I can usually see which way it's going to and change tack. I'm wondering though, if by doing this technique, I'm actually teaching him the art of persistent asking. I know this is something every child is good at but I shouldn't be giving him a helping hand by teaching him!

I can't believe you are going for a third PR!

I also have a lot of problems with DS1, especially with getting up and dressed. The thought of absolutely having to get him to school by 9 every day in a year's time fills me with dread.

Ponka, are you still feeling Christmassy or just very proud of your drawers?
Yes, thinking about No 3, can't decide whether I ought to pinch myself or slap myself...
No news yet anyway so purely academic, tho DH is surprisingly keen (could be just the "practising" tho).

Phew, glad it's not just me then! Yes, tried the broken record tactic but can't stay calm enough for long enough to do it properly...

I've just booked three days in York with both dds at half-term - on my own. Never done it before. DH has coursework for some professional qualification he's doing so he's staying at home. Quite excited really!

Just feeling pure lazy, Pepperabbit!

That sounds nice Helsy. I have to admit I thought it was a little bit crazy at first but that's because I scanned your message quickly and read New York instead of York!

at ponka and York/New York. I think fantastic idea. I would love to do something like that with the DC if I had the holidays/money.

TBH I am not in the least bit worried about getting DD to school. But that is probably because we have been getting her to nursery 3 days a week for 8am since she was a few months old, and for the last 2 1/2 years she has been coming to school on the other two days to drop DS off. And it is always DS that we are waiting for - he is the dreamy one here. DD is very on the ball. Can be a disadvantage - I sneak a couple of smarties and DS is busily telling me about some football match (either on the PS2, the DS, the school field, football training, in the garden on his own, off the radio or off the TV - yes I have to listen to all of them) and totally doesn't realise whereas DD is "Mummy, what you got in your mouth?" immediately.

My SIL is now a full week overdue. So probably will end up being the same day as my sister's DS, and I will have birthday party conflicts forever.... Still I should be feeling sorry for her really, not me! She is quite fed-up.

Now I feel robbed that we're not going to New York! . We're going on the train and have to change at Manchester Piccadilly so all sorts of potential for horridness and shouting.
Has your SIL had the baby Bozza?
Your Ds has conversations like my dd1 - about her Nintendo DS world as though it's real, about the Beano as though the characters are real - as if she doesn't have enough going on in her own life! Dd2 is definitely more observant, and more compassionate - more likely to ask me how I am and offer me things (well stickers mainly, but it's the thought...)

Hello!
I got a BFP last night!!
Quite a lot more excited than i expected to be, given this is 3rd time round. And as a bonus I'm not 39 till tomorrow so I totally count as being PG at a mere 38.....
Obviously no one knows in real life yet so i shall be maintaining a facebook silence on the subject for a little while.
Though i did mention it to DH, in passing.

Congratulations pr. LOL at facebook warning..... Will try and be good. Judd promised she was going to come and post on here and I even sent her a link, but no post.

helsy no SIL has not had baby so we still have "boy baby born". She will be induced either Thursday or Friday if nothing happens in the meantime - but she did have a show on Sunday. It is my other nephew's birthday today so I am going to have years of clashing birthday parties etc. Are you on face book?

No Bozza, I'm not on Facebook. Too paranoid!
We have loads of birthdays this month too - DH "Did I mention I need Sopranos series 6 and an Arsenal training top?" Yeah, because they'll be calling you up to the squad VERY soon..., nephew, MIL, lots of friends' children.
Bozza, do you live near York? Had a feeling you do for some reason.
Pepperrabbit, congratulations! Looks like you're as fertile as me! Are you Preggersrabbit now?

at preggersrabit. I live about 1 hour away from York. Why, were you planning on meeting up!

Congratulations Preggersrabbit (love the name, Helsy)! Happy Birthday for tomorrow, too.

Just reporting in that I now have 4 nephews. (So no way of passing on DD's overflowing wardrobe - of presents and handemdowns). Bit tricky for party invites though that only 3 days between SIL and sis's DS's. IYSWIM. But she went in at 10 to be induced and he was born before 7.30 so presume she had an OK time of it....

Congratulations Aunty Bozza! What's he called? Do you have any nieces?

Dd2 was sick yesterday after coming back from nursery where they tasted Chinese food. She's still a bit pale and off her food but the nursery food all came up last night, so hopefully that's the end of it - I have Big Plans for this week (ususally rubbish at half-term, forget it's happening until the week before).
I went to Liverpool yesterday shopping and bought some lovely girls clothes from Zara. It's my favourite childrens clothes shop at the moment.

congrats on Auntyness bozza! poor DD helsy, it's no fun when they're poorly.
I don't think half term happens till the week after here??? Tho I have the brain of a peanut at the mo - it's my key PG sympton at this stage which is a good thing in that respect, but not much use if you actually need the car keys, Ds1's shoes, 2 earrings in your ears at the same time..that match.
I was totally useless at work yesterday, I mean totally - it was 3.30 when I suddenly realised I hadn't logged on to the phone system properly - it had been suspiciously quiet chez PRs desk!

Nice move on the phones, pr! You will have to remember that one for when you are the size of a whale and knackered. It is hard though, when nobody knows yet and you are trying to put on the appearance of a fully functioning human being.

Hope DD gets better soon - helsy, they do generally tend to bounce back better than us more mature specimens. And no, I have no neices so DD is destined to be surrounded by girliness from all the grandmas and aunties who need an outlet for girly stuff. She, of course, laps it up. Anyway thank goodness Boy Baby Born has a name now..... I have been waiting since Christmas for the day I can stop calling him Boy Baby Born! And we are going to visit today (if I can get hold of DH who has not let the birth of his nephew interfere with his golfing plans ) and have to take BBB with us. DD has wrapped him presents, made him a card etc etc, DS has played football on his DS - gender stereotypes alive and kicking here.

Hello all, bit quiet on here!!!! hope evryone's fine and your DD recovered helsy.
I've got 2 days off work, and the DSs are still going to nursery, so today DH did all the DIY stuff and I went shopping and tomorrow the plan is to spend the day togethre and go out for a nice grown up lunch.
And then.... nursery called - DS1 poorly, can we collect him? cue much bad language as plans drift away to be replaced by a day of whinging and CBeebies.
Might try the max calpol dosage tonight - he's only got a cold, and he's being ridiculously perky now he's home

wow! congrats pr! although those days of quietness when they're both at school are going to disappear you know! i don't know if i shall ever have a 3rd. dh would but this neverending knackered nights and manic mealtimes/bedtimes is doing me in. dd1 is being a pain in the night at the moment. as is dd2 - still not sleeping through at 10months. last night dh woke me after coming in from week long business trip, at 1230. 130 dd1 woke for no specific reason. 230 she woke again and wanted me to read her a STORY . no way. she took about an hour to go to sleep, and when i finally came to (about 4) i left her room just after finding she had hugged her cup of milk - upsidedown - and was soaked through.. just left her [ahem, whistles...] dd2 wakes at 430 and screams each time i put her down until 530, then sleeps until 630, when she does the same thing. builders start work on the bloody house at the back of the kids' rooms at 7!!!

so i am up. dh is asleep. dd1 is asleep. dd2 is playing on the floor.

sigh

anyway, sorry i havent been around for an age. i do mumsnet daily but tbh i forget to check on here!

we've had dh's dad and stepmum over for 2 weeks. it's been nice. we took them away to a little island called bintan, an hour's ferry ride from singapore. we all successfully puked on the way there, except dd1 who was blissfully unaware that 90% of the passengers were sick. poor dd2 was even sick, in her car seat, in her sleep. it was truly awful. we were only there for 2 nights and that kind of ruined the first day. my 2 friends are out here next month followed 4 days later by my sister and boyfriend. lots of keep us occupied.

am currently trying to arrange a dora the explorere themed party for dd1. ok, may is a while off but you really need to get booked up here. mainly people use a company of some sort to organise the party for you. mess/stress free! dd1 is desperate to be 4. she keeps attending parties of her school chums and slowly but surely everyone is turning 4 and she is still 3. she's the 4th youngest in the class. bless. i'm wondering if it's going to be an issue for her as time goes on.

we've all had the sicky bugs here too. don't think you can escape it anywhere. dd1 suddenly came down with a temp of 39.9 2 weeks ago following a cough. knocked her out for 24 hours but somehow knocked her into a good bedtime - still! fab.

i'm praying dh takes dd1 out today. we took her here last weekend and she absolutely loved it, so she wants daddy to take her again! nice

have i killed it?

Wow egypt long update.

DS was 7 a couple of weeks ago and had a bowling party. 8 boys and 2 girls (DD and a friend) and were those boys noisy. And basically naughty as well. DS enjoyed it though. Then on Sunday he had a family party with his cousins. I was not prepared to add a load of 3yos and babies to the mix on the Saturday! DS was ultra competitive though at all the games, despite DD being the next oldest child.

DD wants a fairy themed party for her birthday. She wants it in the function room of the local Italian and to wear her Tinkerbell dress. This all sounds reasonably feasible. But do have dates issues in May, re my nephew being 1 exactly a week after DD and so the weekend in between - is it mine or my sister's? Because the week after is the bank holiday weekend. Also our 10th anniversary on the day after DD's birthday.

have we all jumped ship?

i always forget to check this thread......

may looms!

I was just about to pop in and do some dusting in here (wipes cobwebs from ceiling)
I'm planning our first birthday party for DS1, seems mean to put it off any longer and at 4 obviously he knows what he's missing! We're going to a soft play area where they do tea as well, so that's on the next Bank Holiday.
Happy Birthday to all the other LOs!
PR

We are doing our first ever official party for DS this year, too. At a play place, too on the last day of May. He's so excited already. He talks about it practically every day.

How is everyone? I've been having yet another few months where i just haven't checked Mumsnet all that often. I seem to go in fits and starts on here. I don't know why. I always come back here eventually though. It'd be a shame if it folded.