Day check out your DS2! Well jel. I had a crap sleeper first time round too so figured I earned a decent one this go - he is better but hasn't actually spent one single one of his 18 nights in his cot, so I think that may be why! Happy for you though and long may it last!
biscuits your HV is a nutter. DS still has to work hard on getting both eyes pointing in the same direction, I really don't think he's cunningly scheming to get his own way!
Re timing of feeds - DS is consistent 3 hourly overnight, then similar during the day, with a bit of cluster feeding in the morning from about 9-11 and the same again at night. We also seem to be establishing a witching hour when he's grumpy and nigh on impossible to settle - starts about 9pm and goes on til whenever I manage to get him to sleep, at which point he's ok again.
rum I confess that bathtime has gotten a fair bit less regular in this house! And I have a huge advantage in that DD is 4 so can be left in the bath on her own for a few seconds. But the key to duo bath time seems to be to have everything within arm's reach, get them both in, take DS out after 5-10 mins or when he starts to get aggy. She sploshes about for a few extra mins while I get him dried and dressed, then I prop him up somewhere and get her out and sorted (although she gets dried & dressed on her own, which makes a massive difference). Then brush teeth, with DS being jiggled over one shoulder if necessary, then we all snuggle up in her bed for a story. DS gets shoved on the boob if he starts moaning, then me and her usually end up having a little chat for a few mins about the day and I convince her to stay in bed and go to sleep. So far it's been ok - boobs are a very useful tool! We're definitely still figuring this whole thing out though.
Well me and DH haven't talked out our row from the other night - normally we come back when we've cooled down and kiss and make up, but not this time. BUT he rang me on his way home today to say not to cook and to just relax, then came home and got takeaway, then cleared the table and tidied up, so I think my message got through 
On another note, can we break the last TMI barrier and talk about bumholes? Mine suffered a lot during birth (felt like it was turning inside out while his head was coming down!) and is now a fiery ring of pain every time I 'go'. Obviously not looking for any answers, will mention to gp at 6-week check if it's ongoing (which it will be), but anyone else suffering?? Just need some sympathy really!
So tired, need to go to bed but can't be bothered to get off the sofa! Will definitely regret this in the middle of the night. Always the way.