August 2016 - early arrivals to the newborn cuddles & graveyard feeding shifts

[rumisyum]

So many August bus babies have arrived already! Anyone else fancy a chat during night feeds or wondering what to make of the contents of tiny nappies? Might as well get comfortable...

Pear defo try dropping dairy pretty sure it's a main offender

Well we in hospital still as last night when he was hooked up to monitors they noticed his oxygen levels dipped too low and when they came in to see why his lips were blue

Today they took chest X-rays to check heart problems etc and it was all ok thank god and did bloods and that was all ok

He getting hooked up again tonight and if it happens again they may pop a camera in throat to look at Floppy throat thing he has and see what's going on there

Hope we get to bottom of it soon

Awww Day and how are you holding up? It must be so tough. Great news that tests he had done today are all clear fx you get that one doctor who can spot the problem very soon!

So, based from that link you sent Day I took the advice to add lavender drops to the bath tonight.

DH is really winding me up. He's blatantly fallen asleep on DS carpet again as he's been in his room for 45 min Makes me so cross when I'm sitting here pumping and there is so much to tidy downstairs!!! Every night I tell him not to be soft on DS but he never ever listens Anyhow, I received a gorgeous dress from my friend today for DD. So cute

Day gosh you poor thing, how horribly stressful for you really hope you get to the bottom of whatever's going on with your DS and that it's something easily fixable!
pear I know it's not done round here but sending you a massive, huge hug - over the last couple of days you really sound like you could do with one. DD was a non-sleeper and it was so fucking hard. It sounds like more than colic tbh - I'd be suspicious of some sort of intolerance or reflux or something like that. Hope the elimination diet sheds some light and DD settles down.
Biscuits don't blame you at all putting your DS back in pull ups! DD regressed when she went back to her childminder after 2 weeks of being completely toilet trained and I was absolutely tearing my hair out, it was massively stressful. Do whatever works for now and fingers crossed he gets back on track soon.
Bella, welcome - you've had a drastic start to your second round of parenting! Poppy is a beautiful name, hope the jaundice clears up soon and she gets less sleepy.

As for us, I'm feeling very lucky to still be tootling along happily here. We're currently visiting my mum - she's going through chemo for breast cancer and is a bit up and down at the moment but she's soooo happy to see us and it's so nice to spend some time just us and her. Left DH at home as he's working and hoping he'll have got a few decent nights in and be in better shape - he looks more knackered than me at the moment, bless him!
Loving being a mum of 2. DD was such hard work as a baby and I was expecting the newborn days to be hard and horrible (I remembered them being such from last time!) but DS is 4 weeks today and it's been lovely. It's partly as we've found what works and are sticking to it (in the sling when out and about, cosleeping, etc) but also that DS is just such an easy baby. He is so chilled and content and so easy to love. We do have witching hour(s) most nights, which starts about 9pm and goes on til 11-midnight - so right when I'm most knackered and desperate for sleep! That's hard (last night found me at half 11 going "you're going to push me over the fucking edge!" - not my finest parenting moment!) but that's the only bit. I don't know if it's down to having had multiple previous MCs or what, and I really don't want to sound preachy because motherhood is hard and I've been very lucky to have it easy thus far - but I just feel like the luckiest person in the world to have my two kidlets, here and healthy. In the middle of the night when I'm tired and grumpy, I think about how many people would love the chance to be awake with their babies right now, and I look at DS and how perfect he is, and I count my blessings ❤️

coco I wish I had your optimism and joy right now! I feel like I'm on my knees. DD will not be put down between the hours of 10-4am. Even cosleeping isn't really working because if I dare let go she screams. DH is a pile of useless words I shouldn't use tonight too. Promised he would do all the settling and nappies tonight as he's off tomorrow then had 2 beers with supper and now he can't keep his Eyes open long enough to even hear me ask him to do something. I want to scream.
I really hope it gets better soon, I can't cope with a non sleeper.

My DS was an horrific sleeper, even now at 3.5 it's not great! For the first 5 weeks he would only sleep face down on my chest . So that's how I slept. I could only ever doze and the slightest movement from him woke me up. Horrible times. Turned out he had reflux caused by CMPI bit we didn't figure it out until he was 14 months old.

DD has been feeding every hour since 7pm but seems really unsatisfied so I've cracked and given her a formula top up. She drained a whole 70ml bottle in one go so poor thing mist be hungry. We're really struggling to get to grips with feeding this time round.

Day so sorry you're going through this, hope you get some answers soon.

And to everyone with useless partners. Mine is currently flopping around moaning about a pulled muscle in his back
Lots of whimpering and generally looking pitiful.

Ahh wouldn't that be cool if you actually did get flowers on your doorstep every time a DH was a useless pile of ... The only drawback would be the nosey neighbours counting the deliveries. I would have to move

Alfie I really can't sympathise enough as I share your pain as those are the hours I am awake with DD 10pm till 5am and it is a killer. I am trying so desperately to just enjoy the cuddles when we're awake but I think it's the screams and pain on their faces that tears me up the most.

Tonight I'm OK because I know I've got rest bite the next two days with Dh and my mum helping out so I am seeing it like my job to be awake

Hello. Thought it was time to shuffle over here. Our little girl was born on Thursday. I was induced but it took 4 hours from first contraction and she was back to back, nose in the air - so think we're a bit stunned still. So far feeding ok. I am in quite a bit of pain but loving having her here so far.

Sloth congratulations! Lots of baby girls on this thread I hope you heal quickly

Day how scary for you. Hope there are answers soon. Hugs in the meantime

Congratulations Sloth! That's lovely news :) Hope your pain settles soon.

Alfie you poor thing. I remember well the hell of a non sleeping baby. Be kind to yourself xx

Hooray for the weekend :) Weather is a bit iffy here but hopefully we can get out for a spot of fresh air.

Oh and Pear, I hope you left the tidying for your DH once he woke up. It's okay to snooze, but not okay to use it as a way to dodge chores!

Sloth congratulations, hope you're feeling better soon

Coco glad you're enjoying being with your mum and being a mum of two :)

Day it's horrible isn't it, Freya's chest X-ray came back clear thankfully, I hope it all turns out to be nothing serious. Thinking of you

Pear the night hours are the hardest, everything feels so bleak at 3am. Hope the sleep settles soon

Biscuits fresh air sounds lovely. I'm not quite up to that yet but am enjoying the view from inside

We were allowed home late Thursday night, midnight by the time we got in. Then yesterday morning we had the news that my grandad died so it's been a tough time.

Freya is feeding well and sleeping ok. My recovery is a lot better this time and I'm already done up and down the stairs and pottering around the house. Lovely morning here, nice and bright. Looking forward to a tea now!

Sorry to hear that so many people are having a tough time, lack of sleep and upset babies are not a good combination. I remember one night with DD1 taking her out for a drive in the car at midnight, because she generally fell asleep in the car seat.

So far we haven't had much in the way of colic with DS, perhaps because he's a bit bigger than some of the other babies? He was 8lb 9 at birth, and had just snuck back over his birth weight when the HV came yesterday. He is also long - 91st centile for length. DH is lining him up to row for GB in the 2036 Olympics.

There do seem to be lots more teeny weeny girls than boys on this thread - has anyone kept the stats?

Cheese sorry to hear about your grandad, that's so sad.

Hi all please can I join dd1 almost 3 and ds1 11 days old oh goes back to work soon and I'm dreading it how will I manage with the two? I'm struggling to sleep when baby sleeps so up like 20 hours a day

So sorry to hear that cheese.

Welcome to sloth and savannah. sava does your DD go to nursery at all? I have a 3.5YO DS and he is in nursery 3 mornings a week, which helps. Try not to worry too much, you'll get into a routine (of sorts!) with the 2 of them before long!

DH is being bloody useless at the moment, lounging around doing sod all whilst I run around like a loon. Lazy oik. Words are going to be had very soon!

DD is currently asleep on my lap and resisting all attempts to get her in her moses basket.

Can I just do a bit of blowing my own trumpet? I have been to a wedding today. With all 3 children. DS is 16 days old. Go me! It was a family wedding so had the able assistance of multiple relatives as well as DH, but still, a wedding. And we all looked OK and everything. We stayed until 2200! (Huge plaudits to my cousin though for having a wedding that didn't start until 1600, much more manageable!)

Wow Lots that is impressive! I definitely wouldn't have been able to attend a wedding today. Go you

So, I've had the day from hell. DD did nothing but scream in pain all day and I didn't get to catch up on sleep like planned. At one point she became really wheezy and I rang the hospital to see if I should take her in. Then DH arrived home with DS and she completely calmed down so we didn't take her into hospital as suddenly she became a perfect child I was starving so we went to pizza express for dinner where I ate a sort of dairy free salad. Came home and expressed near to 3oz and DH has had her for 3hrs so I've slept. She's just fed again which is amazing for her and now she's upright on my shoulders which I will continue for a little while before trying to settle her. Oh and DH brought infant Gaviscon over the boots counter which we did not think would be possible! I think he lied and said we've run out. Unfortunately the instructions say do not give it to a prem baby so we have to wait until we see a doctor to discuss further I've brought soya milk for breakfast...lucky me. I have no idea if I can make porridge in the microwave with it. I guess I'll just have to give it a try. I'm now just praying for a better night tonight. We really deserve one over here!

Hope everyone else has good nights too

Welcome Savannah! I don't know how I'm going to cope in the next few weeks either even though DH went back to work straight away. Everything feels so overwhelming so maybe we just have to think one day at a time!

Bella really sorry to hear it's your turn to have a tricky DH. I've been nagging mine for a few days now and things seem to have sunk in a bit today as DH finally came on board with the battle plan but I think mainly that's because he can see I'm cracking I hope talking to your DH does the trick!

Cheese really sorry to hear about your grandad. A family death at this time is really hard to cope with My DH's dad died out of the blew this summer and I know my DH is struggling terribly with it as he feels guilty for being happy about the arrival of DD and his emotions are just all over the place about it

Huge pat on the back for you, Lots! That's impressive.

Pear i was dairy free for quite a while whilst feeding DS, soya milk was fine in porridge though I cooked it om the hob rather than the microwave. IIRC it was very thick so we added water. I'm sure we also made the porridge completely with water and then stirred through apple puree, though I can't for the life of me remember why!

The only thing soya milk doesn't seem to work in is coffee, it curdles for some reason.

Thanks for the sympathy re DH. I am trying to be kind though as his mum died suddenly 2 months ago and like your husband I suspect baby's arrival has been hard for him.

Oh my lots I'm feeling like a trip to the supermarket with one is a military operation, let alone a wedding with three. Well done!
Pear it's rubbish that you're having a tough time. I'm pretty sure soya milk is ok for porridge
So far ok here. Although my milk came in yesterday. I managed to call my bil an arse and spend 5 hours crying about it in the evening. . DD gorgeous though and so far behaving herself which made up for it.

Sounds like a tough day pear I hope that your night improves. On the dairy free - my sister is vegan and she prefers almond milk to soy - worth a taste?

bella worth chatting to DH. I gave mine a bit of a telling yesterday. I need him to help at night on his days off or I'll never survive.

Sorry to hear about your grandad *cheese^.

.lots I am in awe!

We managed a trip to town today so did some public feeding which was ok. Then I msnsged to express nearly 2oz tonight so I fed DD at half 10 ish DH gave her the bottle around midnight and then she got up at 2 for boob. So I've had a bit more sleep and feel a little better. I think I'm going to try and give her one bottle a night just so I can get a few hours in a row beside she's up every two hours!

Hope I've not missed anybody.

Ahhh Alfie my suffering buddy I'm pleased to hear you also managed to express and give a bottle to your DH! Thanks for the tip, I will give Almond milk a try if Soya is not to my liking!

So, Dd is back to grunting and sounding very mucousy again Unless I'm holding her she won't go to sleep and when I do hold her all I can hear is her churning belly But an hour a go I gave in and put her in bed with me (my worst nightmare) and even though I struggled to sleep I at least could shut my eyes and rest my back for a little while before she woke up to be held again. So, in a very odd way this arrangement feels a little bit better

Has anyone else experienced this weird wheezy mucousy child who wakes themselves up? It sounds like she's chocking if I don't pick her up.

pear we have the same baby! DD is exactly the same. I kept panicking and grabbing her but over the past day or so I've found that actually she's fine and can clear it herself. Does she sneeze a lot too? It is like sleeping next to a mini rhino though.
Ive also taken her into bed a few times to just get some rest. Tonight however I managed to basically be in her snuzpod with her (great difficulty) and the slowly back away and she stayed there for 2 Hours!!!

Mini rhino...yep. I don't remember DS being this noisy as a baby. (Possibly because he was a velcro baby who only slept on us for weeks, and he rarely lay down without puking or crying)

Well done on Snuzpod victory Alfie :) And Pear, just do whatever works. I hope you get good support at the docs tomorrow.

DD still gets hiccups several times a day. Am sure she'll grow out of that soon but poor mite in the meantime.

Stand offs with DS and toilets continue. DH thinks we should persevere with pants. That's all very well when we are both at home but not feasible on my solo days with both children if DS is continuing to ignore his body's signals, or slink off to his room to pee there. It is hard not to be frustrated though - he started regularly weeing in the toilet at the start of June.

Alfie and Pear DD is very snuffly too. We met the health visitor last week and she said sometimes with a quick labour (like I had) babies don't clear all of the amniotic fluid out of their ears and noses, hence being snuffly. Apparently each push pushes fluid out. I have absolutely no idea if it's true, tbh the HV also said there's no nutrition in breast milk after 6 months so she likes all of "her" babies to start weaning at 5 months...

Biscuits we've had some toilet regression too. DS has been dry day and night for over a year so it's been a bit of a shock! No suggestions I'm afraid but huge sympathy.

The night before last DD was up most of the night manically cluster feeding and it seems to have finally stimulated my milk. She had her 3 hourly feeds last night but otherwise slept pretty well. DS, on the other hand, had me up at 4.30. Someone pass the coffee!