August 2015 - Jaffa cake wars and many Mugabe greetings to you!

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New thread ladies - praying for a decent sleep tonight!!

Lots of gorgeous super cute pics

Lol at all the confessions - my worse one with current baby is leaving toddler in room with her while I nipped to the loo - huge crash and screaming - I ran through with jeans still round my ankles - Moses basket completely tipped over with baby under it like a little turtle - toddler hysterical realising she had done wrong and baby screaming - DD was only 2 weeks - toddler must have been on tip toes looking in the Moses basket, leant on it and it's overturned straight onto hardwood floor - heart stopping stuff but all ok thank goodness - toddler doesn't go near basket now!!

Another confession is that with new baby and an ill toddler recently, totally forgot it was mine and DHs wedding anniversary - DH forgot too - it was on 19th and just passed us by

Mugabe and lovely day to all.........

love happy belated anniversary...

Nathan is still in his babygro from last night. I CBA getting him changed. He's clean so I'm sure it won't kill him.

Hehe thanks frolic! I avoided lidl goodies by buying healthy ones but nuts and fruit just don't look as good in my goodie cupboard!

Mzzf- hope the buttons hit the spot and that mini mzzf settled for you!

Magrat- baby sensory is the same time as baby massage here so I'm going to start it when I've finished that! Looking forward to it though they have messy play in it so far I've seen them have custard and rice crispies looks fun! Yes to a big meet up how funny would it be putting real names and faces to our online ones!

Slowife- I enquired about that service but I was told in my area I had to go to my gp and basically ask them to apply for the funding for it- I really couldn't be bothered so I didn't! Hopefully by the time I have number 2 it will be more widespread especially as I've been told a home birth would be advisable next time due to the speed that DS arrived!

Tindel- yay to the long sleep!

Clstow- that had been my theory with DH so I was gutted that it didn't work! I did have the monitor in as I was worried he might bit hear so maybe subconsciously he was still off the clock! I may try 1 more time and put the Moses right next to his head! Glad your little un is being left to be a little one! It's weird seeing other babies the same age that are much bigger isn't it? My DS tracks along the 9th bless him!

Dozy- I have the opposite problem re car seats I think I tighten the straps far too tight as DS screams everytime but I'm paranoid about them being too loose in case of accident!

Really tired this morning u think I'm getting a cold! Snotty nose and scratchy throat! Asked DH to do feed at 0640 but he said no even though he'd offered to do 3am one before bed last night! I don't understand how his head works surely the middle of the night one is more disturbing to sleep!? Anyway he did take DS downstairs when I asked at 0745 when he was wide awake for the day and he has just got me a blanket and wrapped me up in it on the cuddler chair and told me to go to sleep till he goes to work. He also brought me a flake with a cuppa but I resisted the flake! There's hope for him yet! Hehe!

Oh x posts with a few whilst I was writing!

Fatty- lots of coffee and choc for you today! How cute is Nathan- at least they make you smile when your so tired eh!

Love- our anniversary was a wash out this year we may as well have forgotton! I was miserable and massive and tired so our romantic meal out turned into a takeaway and early night and not in the way DH had hoped! Lol!

Effin- the insomnia sounds awful big hug! I was only saying to DH last night how stupid we are for not going to bed when DS does as I'm missing out on vital sleep! Think I may do tonight!

Not a bad night here. Just the one wake up but toddler has a tummy bug so lots of pooey nappies of the larger smellier variety here this morning!

Love, yep washout anniversary here too although we did manage steak and chips for tea and cards bit definitely no presents or meal out!

Fatty, I hope you manage a bit of sleep today. My DS is finally in a different sleepsuit after 48 hours so don't feel too bad!

Effin, I get that insomnia too. Isn't it a bastard?! Some sort of cruel new mum joke I think.

Want to get out but v grey and rainy here today. Mugabe Wednesday all.

Just been reading the MN classics about things folk have done while sleep deprived. The car seat straps is really common. Made me feel much better! Well worth a read.

Morning all!

This thread moves soooo fast. I can't remember who said what, but YY to the caffine IV! I am so sleep deprived I could cry. Everyone says ohhh but you can nap when the baby naps, but it REALLY doesn't work like that!

Re baby sensory classes: I've been thinking of going to one, but the ones around here are 0-3 years. So I didn't know if DD would be a bit young for it atm. What sort of things do you do there?

DD is asleep! She doesn't usually nap. That's because DS 2 had her up all night with his screaming. Unfortunately I can't nap because DS2 woke up just as DD dropped off argh!!!

Morning all, grey and wet here too. Must be because I have a wash on - apologies to those living the North West, the rain is clearly my fault...

Sympathy to those who missed their wedding anniversaries this year. My birthday was a wash out as it was the day after grumpy 2 was born, unsurprisingly it was rather all about her. At least we were at home though, it was a good motivating factor for pushing for a same day discharge!

lily I agree that bouncer on table is a much better option than bouncer on floor with dogs, cats (in our case) and potential for being trodden on! I don't think I would have had the motivation to change midwife if I had had to find my own funding. Fingers crossed they roll it out to your neck of the woods by the time you are ready to go again.

Joskar and Dozy yay to us slummy cloth nappy users! I can only assume it is a myth that they need to be changed every two hours in cloth (propagated by those who wish to sell us more nappies) because I have never achieved this and both DDs have lovely bottoms

My DH not only sleeps through grumpy 2's noises, he can also sleep through me shouting at him to get up. I keep finding him asleep on grumpy 1's bed in the evening as they fall asleep together while he is reading her a bedtime story. It's a man thing, their ears are clearly wired up differently. I literally resort to booting him up the a*se now (my excuse is that I can't prod him with a baby in my arms).

love and nolonger falling babies must have been so scary, glad that both events turned out okay. It must be true that they bounce. My personal anxiety trigger is the blinking floppy head, I cannot wait until the magical 12 week mark when she can hold it on properly. I get totally paranoid that it is going to somehow fall off while I am holding her one handed to try and do something with grumpy 1 and cause some massive trauma. Sleep deprivation does terrible things to my sense of proportion...

clstow great news that the HV has backed off about DSs weight. He sounds like he is doing just fine. Grumpy 1 dropped two centiles due to a stomach bug when she was about 12 weeks and I found this article (drjaygordon.com/newborns/scales.html) very reassuring in the face of a lot of pressure to formula top up.

Hope everyone who is sick or looking after small people who are sick survives the day okay.

Grey and wet here too today! Baby sensory is fun, they start with the same song each week then there's a different theme. It's mostly songs and dancing with the babies and there's lots of sensory props like bubbles, bells, maracas etc. Good fun!

Count- nap when the baby naps! Yeh right!! I think I've had. Whole 20 minutes in the 12 weeks DS has been here! He either only sleeps for 30 minutes or on the days he decides a 3/4 hour nap is in order I have people round or am busy doing things! I'm sure he does it to wind me up its a good job he's cute!

Slowife- why did you put that washing on the weather is horrendous to be honest at least it keeps the dust from the builders outside from blowing around! I've got to go out no matter the weather as I have promised my friend I will pick a skirt up for the other bridesmaid that i managed to find and put on hold yesterday! Just waiting for DS to wake up from his nap and we'll be off so I can get back and veg on the couch! Oh and I know exactly what you mean about wobbly head anxiety! DS is 12 weeks and can pretty much hold his head up 80% of the time but occasionally it will still flop and he has on occasion headbutted me as a result and the other week actually burst my lip!! How he didn't hurt his head I don't know!

Anyone ever feel a bit bored/ fed up? I feel awful thinking it but I think I had over ambitious expectations for mat leave and now I find myself at home most of the time even though we try to go out most days I'm feeling a bit fed up about it. The repetitive getting up, getting dressed, emptying dishwasher, sterilising bottles, wiping round the kitchen, putting clothes away is getting to me and I'm finding myself resenting DH for being able to go out to work each day which is ridiculous as I hate my job so wouldn't want to be there anyway! Everything just seems so much more complicated having to juggle the logistics of where the baby is when I'm doing things etc and I'm finding it exhausting!! It doesn't help that we are watching every penny as we have moved into a much bigger house and are trying to put any spare money we have on the credit card each month so it is gone for when I go part time in March.

Sorry for the heart pouring I think the dreary weather has got in my head today! Just wanted to get it off my chest!

Lily we try and go out every day otherwise I feel a bit arggh stuck in with the repetitiveness!! We do baby sensory and baby yoga, go to a playgroup, and see my parents quite a lot. Otherwise it can all get a bit much!!

DS was just being crazy and nit settling on my lap so have put him upstairs in moses basket and come down for a cup of tea...eek...

MaGrat- you are right and we are usually our most days doe that reason I think that's why I'm fed up today because I'm waiting for DS to wake up so we can go! You have just reminded me to look for a baby yoga class near me and I've just found one and enquired so that's a win for today at least!

slow thanks for the weather. Gave me the perfect excuse to warm up the tin of oxtail soup I had sat in my cupboard. Me and DD have just had oxtail soup with ripdip bread
lily it can be mind numbingly boring. But I never waited for babies to wake up, I just got them ready. My theory being they would drift off again once out in the pram anyway.
I don't do baby groups. I don't really like people very much. I know that sounds weird. I do like some people. But I can't be arsed most of the time.

lily I think you've hit the nail on the head with your description of the domestic chores. That's the bit that gets to me the most. When we were both working we used to split / equally ignore the household stuff. Once I was at home I ended up doing most of it, for obvious reasons. It's nice to not have to spend evenings and weekends shopping, cleaning etc but the sheer drudgery of it does get me down sometimes, even though I am happy overall with my choice to be at home. Getting out every day certainly helps!

Grey and wet here too. Your washing has far reaching powers slo! But we'll get our waterproofs on and go out for a turn round the high Street anyway I think.

Yes, it is tedious isn't it lily? And you're managing to do a lot more than I am in terms of housework. Daily social contact work with adults is essential I think. If I'm feeling up to it I'm trying out a ' bring your own baby ' choir tomorrow. It's an adult choir singing adult songs but babies and toddlers come along.

Yeah the whole sleep when baby sleeps is a laugh! He either sleeps for 40 mins while I vigilantly pop the dummy in, or it's in the sling, and he wakes up if I sit down. Letting him nap on me right now, which is against the general plan but he's been fighting sleep so hard that any nap is good.

With you on the head wobble anxiety. Ds's head is mahoosive off the charts so he doesn't have fan control yet and the headbutt's really hurt!

Mugabe mum's and babies!

A meet up down the line would be lovely

I'm loving all the Confessions still. Today I must confess that ds is asleep in his hat again. I also have a fortunes worth of cloth nappies upstairs that I haven't bothered to start using yet. And when it was our wedding anniversary in June, dh took me to a really posh restaurant and I sicked up the very expensive meal before we'd even left the building. I lied to dh that I hadn't because I didn't want him to feel bad.

So much to catch up on! Sorry if I miss anyone out.

Yay for the weight gain clstow. Did you give him top ups in the end? Not that it matters either way.

lots of coffe and cake for those of you who've had shit nights with babies and Insomnia.

I hope you don't end up with a rotten cold Lily. I think your dh was trying to reedem himself with the flake!
I know exactly what you mean about feeling bored and fed up. I'm so used to being busy and having every hour accounted for at work. I find the days can feel very long and sometimes a bit boring. We don't have many baby groups and stuff here either. I try to meet someone most days, but am also on a limited budget so too many coffees and lunches are out if the question. Poor old frolicdog is probably getting bored of all the walks she's having.
I was talking about this with a friend the other day and she said that it gets better as the babies get older, sleep less and interact more.

It's grey and rainy here today as well - thanks Slow

We've got jabs this afternoon. I thought I'd feel ok but am starting to really dread them.

DS1 is 9 weeks old today. He is sleeping ok at night (1 night wake up after DH feeds him at about 10pm) and usually falls back to sleep ok. But evenings he generally spends crying and it's hard to get him to sleep in the day (those two may be connected). I just don't know what to do about it or whether I just need to chill out and things will improve in time. Ugh. He's still downstairs with us in the evening and I don't know if that's part of the problem or if if we tried to put him upstairs we'd just be up and down the stairs all the time.

Yes to being bored sometimes (often). I am eating FAR too much and it's boredom really.

The jabs will be fine. Try and be cool calm and collected so that ds doesn't freak out too much! And get the paracetamol at the ready!!

We are going to try and upstairs nap today, probably the afternoon one and have the monitor on tryout too. We only have a sound one currently, I reckon we'll get a video one soon but for now we'll give it a bash.

I reLly should make myself get out and about more to do stuff. Mini mzzzf just has me and the dogs most days... I did manage to do an hour of mums and tots this morning locally and it was totally ok, the excruciating small talk is improving!! I'm so impressed by you ladies who are doing an activity everyday, I just can't be arsed to go out if I don't have too. Plus I feel guilty if I go out without the dogs as their little faces are too sad. I clearly need to stop being lazy and do dog walks AND baby stuff. Such fun!!

Arrrgghh mjst dash mini mzzzf is hollering - that's a confession too. Letting her go a bit longer than needed due to NEEDING to finish a MN post!!!

Back later!!!

Sorry to all you ladies that didn't have great anniversaries - frolic you really made me laugh - poor you - you were very thoughtful of your DHs feelings. It was our 20 year anniversary so felt we should have remembered and done something special - too late now - I am stupidly annoyed that DH didn't remember even though I didn't either

Still school hols here - DD1 (age 13) offered to take baby out a walk in pram - it's silly as she is really sensible but I just can't relax until they get back in one piece - keep looking out window to see if they are coming back - other DCs playing in garden - they don't seem to feel the cold. DD1 is wandering back up the road now with her iPhone surgically attached as usual - hoping DD is fast asleep......

Horrible weather here too! I've stuck my head outside and decided to spend the day cuddling the baby indoors.

Fatty I love that sleepsuit, it's from Next isn't it?

Finally had a decent sleep last night, a couple of 2 and 3 hour stretches, but I'm not sure if I was just so tired I didn't wake for grumbling or if DS was still overtired after being up with his fever the other day.

Had DS down on his playgym while I chopped veg for dinner earlier and a sudden nap ambushed him. He was grizzling and grumbling and I went to grab a coffee before picking him up and turned around and he was out cold! Stuck a blanket on him and let him nap!

How on earth do you ladies get them to snooze on their playmats?!

Op solo nap has been sabotaged. Mini mzzzf is currently asleep on me so will try her upstairs solo later instead - eeeek!!!

Anyone else bought a Halloween outfit for their LO?! I have and I'm already eying up a Christmas ensemble too!!

cor grizzling is tough. Mini mzzzf had an awful time around 9 weeks. That's when the sling came into its own, have you got one?! Touch wood mini mzzzf isn't too bad a napper during the day, albeit on me, but has started to get very annoyed come evening time - hence the trying her solo. Could you maybe try something similar?
Also I've noticed with DD that the first nap of the day tends to dictate the rest of the day so I do everything I can to facilitate that.

Oh god yes lily. I felt it bad on Monday and yesterday. Bizarrely I think the weather has made me feel bit better today as sitting in the house doesn't feel like such a wasted day if that makes sense. Also you could always take a leaf out of my book and ignore the house work and get yourself I good box set Can't remember who said but I am also a big eater when bored. It's a fatal combination.

Sleep when baby sleeps is terrible advice. I imagined I spend hours napping but nobody told me when it says that your baby sleeps for 16 hours a day these will be spread out over 20 minute power naps on your lap.

Corblimey your post about the Moses basket in your living room made me smile. The only thing that goes in the Moses basket is the nappy bag when I dump it down there. DS hasn't been anywhere near it for weeks.

Had massive fail on project nap today. I had decided to give up on it and concentrate on evening but our car broke down and needed to find paper work for breakdown cover buried somewhere so badly needed to put him down. Lasted long enough for me to go to toilet and by the time I'd finished he was wide awake again.

Jokstar that thread you mentioned is too funny. Love it.

Oh and siani I love that blanket!!!

Oh mu-ga-bloody-be!

Molly is being a right PITA. She was being soooo good at night, waking for food around 2/3am and then 5am and then up from 7:30ish. I can cope with that fine. But for the past two nights she wants feeding every 90mins and is incredibly unsettled inbetween with lots of cries. And then in the morning she's fretful and at night inconsolable. After finally having a couple of weeks of sleep, it being taken away again is torture.

Anyway I've read all of your posts but there are so many I can't remember who said what! Bloody Mugabe brain! To add to the confession box, I used have my changing bag over the pram handle, the bus took s sharp corner and the whole pram up ended, I caught it just in time but it scared me shitless. What else have I done, oh left her on her changing mat which is on a chest of drawers when ive nipped across the room, not sterilised her emergency dummy enough, not sterilised my pump enough...I'm sure there are more!

What else?! Of yes molly has a Halloween outfit, she's going as a black cat courtesy of a marks and spencer outfit although I'm worried the hat won't fit on her massive head....

I went to mother and baby yoga yesterday, I'm in agony after sitting on my arse for 9 weeks. So obviously today I decided to go for a 3.5mile walk, up various hills just to go to Lidl...treats r us in this house. Well worth it even in the pissing rain!

Mugabe! x